gopher Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 A friend from church on facebook is in a LDR with a guy from Texas, they have yet to meet. For whatever reason, something bugged me about this guy from the start. So I keep tabs on what's going on, because she sometimes vents to me on Facebook about her lovelife. I should add that she seems a bit needy about wanting to be in a relationship. So on to my concern... I noticed in one of his pictures from this Halloween that he went trick or treating with his kids and a blonde ( his wife?, sister?) and clearly you can see a wedding ring on his hand. I'm pretty sure that he and my friend were "dating" before that. I guess it's possible that he has left and is starting divorce process, but it's just a bit less than 6 weeks since that picture was taken and posted. So, give me your advice.... A. Leave it alone, it's none of your business B. Tell her about it C. Tell one of her friends about it I should also add that we aren't close friends, but she recently fell hard for another guy and got played by him. Thanks for your responses.... Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 I would go with B. The worst she can do is become less of a friend. And if it is nothing, then that will be what will happen. However, having said that, I can see why some would say C. If you tell a friend who is closer than you, then this friend can put the "blame" on your for finding it, yet that friend can still tell her and leave you out of it. Doing nothing is the easy way out, but in the long run, you would feel guilty if this guy is playing her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gopher Posted December 11, 2009 Author Share Posted December 11, 2009 Thanks James....Haven't told her what I think yet. But, the dude cancelled on coming up to see her after Christmas, just like I knew he would. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 11, 2009 Share Posted December 11, 2009 'So, have you met any eligible bachelors right here at church?' Facebook friend drama and wedding rings in Halloween pictures of someone she's never met? Step back and take a deep breath here and examine the sanity of this. I'd either ask the above question casually, or say nothing at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gopher Posted December 11, 2009 Author Share Posted December 11, 2009 Thanks Carhill, that's a great idea. Link to post Share on other sites
RedDevil66 Posted December 11, 2009 Share Posted December 11, 2009 The first red flag her is, she's having a LDR with someone she never met. This would not be considered a relationship. You need to meet someone to have a relationship. She does seem needy. Maybe you can encourage her to get some help in therapy before she gets let down and used by others. Link to post Share on other sites
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