ladyblondie Posted December 11, 2009 Share Posted December 11, 2009 I feel like what would make me truely happy is having someone in my life, and I can't get over that feeling and just move on. I been single for some time, and really looking to settle down. The men who do come in my life don't stick around to long, and it upsets me because I don't wanna be alone forever. I been alone for too long and find it hard to date a man who truely appreciates me and loves and cares for me. That is all I want. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 11, 2009 Share Posted December 11, 2009 I think this will pass. I know what you mean, I'm in the same boat right now. I've started to do more and met people. Even the ex noticed and talked to me more often. I would suggest volunteering your time, join a social group, and some local meetup groups. I've meet some interesting people and it has helped me be less lonely. Human beings are just not built to be lonely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladyblondie Posted December 11, 2009 Author Share Posted December 11, 2009 So what I gotta do is do things to get my mind of being lonely, meet people etc. Im not lonely because of being alone so to speak, Im lonely because of not having a man in my life and its been so long. Link to post Share on other sites
Butterflying Posted December 11, 2009 Share Posted December 11, 2009 If you're not happy with yourself (not by yourself because you should be with yourself all the time) then you can't be happy with anyone else either. I know a lot of women in relationships with men right now and they are just as lonley, if not lonlier, than you are. You should definately join some humanitarian groups and use this time alone to get to know yourself better. Think of this time as "preparation" for when you have that special man in your life. If you live your life to the fullest right now, you won't feel like you've missed out on anything when you have more responsibilities like a husband and children. When there is someone else to be accountable for in your life, you won't have as much freedom as you have right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladyblondie Posted December 11, 2009 Author Share Posted December 11, 2009 I got alot going on in my life like stress, but overall Im happy with myself. I don't think that is my issue. When I am with someone I truely like, I am happy at the moment and feeling good with them. Just looking for some comfort. But too, I do need to start doing things in my life and joining things to get myself meeting more and different people. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 11, 2009 Share Posted December 11, 2009 Not necessary meet people to counter loneliness. I meet people to network and maybe meet someone interesting to not be so lonely. I've been volunteering time to charities which helps me get past my loneliness. I'm taking a page from Freud about spreading your "love" among many interests such that no one interests would hurt me. Like you, I am feeling lonely and this arrangement suites me fine, for now. I'm out there so that I might meet someone who would one day catch my eye and keep it too. Maybe this advice might help you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladyblondie Posted December 11, 2009 Author Share Posted December 11, 2009 I do appreciate all the advice. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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