2sunny Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 god how stupid am I. Its been a year now almost to the day and although I've been very uneasy and suspicious I thought we were getting back on track. I have often thought that they still would have had some communication because she would have wanted to know what was going on because shes terrified of me telling her husband. I have asked my husband if he still had the phone that he used but he denied it. For the past few months I have been feeling very uneasy again and found the phone in his car yesterday. The text messages between them were very intimate. He saying he is missing her and her telling him that she will be there when he is ready. Surely it was only a matter of time before they met up again. I confronted him and he said it was only texting and didn't mean anything. I phoned her husband immediately and told him everything so theres no going back now. Should have done it a year ago and maybe my marriage might have survived but no way now. Weird thing is her husband didn't want to know that much about details and said he would phone me in a few days but I've heard nothing. I wanted to know everything and still do but I suppose he is still in shock as I was a year ago. The overall opinion when I went onto the forum a year ago was that I should tell her husband and I wished I had followed that advice. If he wants to be with her good luck to him. Lifes to short life IS too short. too short to wait and wonder. to even wonder why any woman would consider staying with a husband who continually has INTENTIONS of hurting his wife, you. he's hurt you over and over for 25 years... isn't that enough? he deserves his OW. you deserve way more than that. what are YOU planning to do from here, now? Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 god how stupid am I. Its been a year now almost to the day and although I've been very uneasy and suspicious I thought we were getting back on track. I have often thought that they still would have had some communication because she would have wanted to know what was going on because shes terrified of me telling her husband. I have asked my husband if he still had the phone that he used but he denied it. For the past few months I have been feeling very uneasy again and found the phone in his car yesterday. The text messages between them were very intimate. He saying he is missing her and her telling him that she will be there when he is ready. Surely it was only a matter of time before they met up again. I confronted him and he said it was only texting and didn't mean anything. I phoned her husband immediately and told him everything so theres no going back now. Should have done it a year ago and maybe my marriage might have survived but no way now. Weird thing is her husband didn't want to know that much about details and said he would phone me in a few days but I've heard nothing. I wanted to know everything and still do but I suppose he is still in shock as I was a year ago. The overall opinion when I went onto the forum a year ago was that I should tell her husband and I wished I had followed that advice. If he wants to be with her good luck to him. Lifes to short First, I am really sorry about your failed M....in bold...Question: would you really want to be your H's mother? That is what that would make you if telling her H would have saved your M... My daughters inlaws (they are my family too, and love them with all of my heart)...one of her exH's Aunts had this happen, 24 yrs to be exact...they seemed like the perfect couple...she had breast cancer and everything and he still did this...she is the sweetest person I ever met. She left him, he died shortly after. I didn't want to ask her too many questions because she mainly likes to talk of her feelings...I couldn't believe it. Link to post Share on other sites
FanFan Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Yes, it was a bad choice for you not to tell her husband. By the way, how come you took your H back so easily? Link to post Share on other sites
Confused4Now Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 I too remember this story so well and you flip flopped trying to decide whether or not you were going to let MW Husband be told of what was going on. My opinion was back then to let him find out even though he was portrayed as a volatile man. Props to you for not blinking an eye and going straight to him when you found out they didn't stop. Keep us posted I'd like to know the outcome..... Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 25, 2010 Share Posted September 25, 2010 I phoned her husband immediately and told him everything so theres no going back now. Should have done it a year ago and maybe my marriage might have survived but no way now. Weird thing is her husband didn't want to know that much about details and said he would phone me in a few days but I've heard nothing. I wanted to know everything and still do but I suppose he is still in shock as I was a year ago. The overall opinion when I went onto the forum a year ago was that I should tell her husband and I wished I had followed that advice. If he wants to be with her good luck to him. Lifes to short I've been thinking about this Richardson and I think the BH either knows about it and is afraid if he raises too much of a stink she will leave him; or his head is buried in the sand and doesn't want to believe it. Surely he must have confronted her about your phone call; and I'm wondering what kind of story she told him. It would seem that no matter what excuse she came up with he would still call you back to find out what this is really all about. I would, wouldn't you call a person back who said that my spouse is sleeping with theirs????? This seems really odd to me. What do others think? Link to post Share on other sites
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