tudou Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 My girlfriend is really social and loves talking to everyone but at times she's really oblivious to the fact that other guys have motives behind their friendliness. For instance, I'm usually not comfortable with her hanging out with other guys alone and frankly I don't see the need to do that. One time she asked me if she could go over to a guys house because they were just friends, I was really upset but I didn't want to be controlling and stop her so I just got angry and said 'do whatever you want I don't care. He's only after one thing whether you're too stupid to see it or not I'll let you find out' she told me I had to stop thinking the worst of every guy until just before she left the guy mentioned he might try something on her tonight. She felt stupid to say the least and I just had the biggest grin on my face. She's had a history of being blind about the most obvious signs and she constantly talks to guys and I just KNOW the guys have a hidden agenda and I get pretty mad when she talks to them unless I actually know their character. I got overly mad to the point where I don't even want her talking to other guys unless they're gay or something. Is it wrong of me to feel like this? Sometimes she even talks about sex with other guys...not about doing anything but just about what she likes to do and stuff. I kind really jealous and I told her I felt uncomfortable when she talked about things like that with other guys. Am I just getting too jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 My girlfriend is really social and loves talking to everyone but at times she's really oblivious to the fact that other guys have motives behind their friendliness. For instance, I'm usually not comfortable with her hanging out with other guys alone and frankly I don't see the need to do that. One time she asked me if she could go over to a guys house because they were just friends, I was really upset but I didn't want to be controlling and stop her so I just got angry and said 'do whatever you want I don't care. He's only after one thing whether you're too stupid to see it or not I'll let you find out' she told me I had to stop thinking the worst of every guy until just before she left the guy mentioned he might try something on her tonight. She felt stupid to say the least and I just had the biggest grin on my face. She's had a history of being blind about the most obvious signs and she constantly talks to guys and I just KNOW the guys have a hidden agenda and I get pretty mad when she talks to them unless I actually know their character. I got overly mad to the point where I don't even want her talking to other guys unless they're gay or something. Is it wrong of me to feel like this? Sometimes she even talks about sex with other guys...not about doing anything but just about what she likes to do and stuff. I kind really jealous and I told her I felt uncomfortable when she talked about things like that with other guys. Am I just getting too jealous? Do things as a couple. Compromise is key. Link to post Share on other sites
an hero Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 I think you are a being a bit over the top, but I can see why you would be upset. I think it is fair enough to ask her not to go to a guy's house alone in most cases, especially if you feel that he has feelings/attracted to her. Like the guy above me said, maybe try hanging out with her friends too, so you can see first hand whether or not they want something else from your girlfriend. I think your girlfriend should be a bit more considerate since it is affecting you so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 Please try and abstain from calling your gf stupid! That being said, yeah, maybe those guys have hidden agendas - but she's likely oblivious to it because she has no other intention than friendship. Question is: do you trust her not to cheat? Link to post Share on other sites
Blind Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 I think you may be a little over the top, but there's some reason behind it. If she wants to visit a guy friend's house, why not ask her if you can join her? It's all about trust. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 Please try and abstain from calling your gf stupid! That being said, yeah, maybe those guys have hidden agendas - but she's likely oblivious to it because she has no other intention than friendship. Question is: do you trust her not to cheat? everyone trust their partner not to cheat until it happens. OP, you are right to concerned but you are immature in how you handle it. Calling her names and getting angry will not help. Also, your gf knows they want more then friendship. She enjoys the ego boost, she probably doesn't plan to cheat but she is purposely putting herself in bad situations with no regard to your feelings. What you need to do is figure out if you want to stay with a serial flirt Link to post Share on other sites
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