Becoming the other women in my ex bf's life.

[princess75]

Hi! My ex bf is still my friend. Actually after break up I had a chance to go out with another boy and I did but then

 

realized I am totally in love with my ex. Basically I knew all the way but my ex bf broke up with me and I was torn

 

and needed a shoulder to cry on. I was very honest with the second boy so there was no problem when we ended

 

the affair, he just wanted that and I guess I needed it to make the mistake. My ex bf broke up with me and within

 

one week started going out with this new gal. She is now his current gf. They are going out for 1 months and

 

something. Now my ex bf still sees me, we even had post breakup sex one time, where I did not know about the

 

seriousness of this gal (I assumed it was same as mine) But afterwards he changed and now wants to stick to the

 

gal, but we still decided to be friends. He claims to still love me, but does not want me back. We saw each other

 

whole weekend and then I became sick so he came to take care of me. We have passed the post break up sex

 

stage, we have not gone physical again, except for hugging each other. Till the other day, when we both were

 

very godo with each other and jsut gave each other a kiss. Now he still says he wont come back to me and he is with

 

this gal. He even wants me to meet her, and be "friends" I dont think this is likely to happen, as I am totally in love

 

with him. I suspect he is too but due to fear of commitment he is going the easy way. Now, I dont like to snatch

 

bf's from anyone, I am not the type, and I am now feeling guilty for beign sort of doing that. How do I go about this

 

whole situation? Should I jsut stop it altogether? Another thing, is I am aware that if he can do it to his current

 

gf he can do it later to me...but we were going for 2 years and was 100% faithful and I trust him a lot. I was

 

wondering if trust can be rebuild or is it just not possible? Another thing, how do I convice him to be alone, without

 

me nor the other gal, so he is not confused...and can decide with the heart? PLease help

[ifebuche]

You made your post almost unreadable. Well. May be you were trying to catch the fun elsewhere and forgot that a bird at hand was worth thirty intheh bush. all, the same if you think you can try your luck then go ahead but if you think you are the one who broke the cord, better go and mend but don't lick the boot.

 

It is not hard to love especially our love but hard to let go, and usually it is not letting go that is the problembu tjust realising we have let go of part of our heart.

[moimeme]

Another thing, how do I convice him to be alone, without

 

me nor the other gal, so he is not confused...and can decide with the heart? PLease help

 

You can't direct others' lives for them. If he asked you what he should do, he might listen to your advice. However, since he has not, your job is to let him live his life. He says he isn't interested in getting back together and you'll have to respect that.

[princess75]

Thanks! Well, I happen to still be friends with my ex bf. SOmething strange though, cause we are coming closer in every aspect that matters. We are trusting each other again but he is still going out with the other girl. Although has been like 20 days and they have not met with each other cause school is closed and they live 10 minutes apart! I know it is a fact they have not met, cause I trsut him and because roomates have told me too. It is strange, cause I dont want to blurt...out let us be together...but I want it to happen. I just can hope for the best.... but still sticking my friendship around and I am actually enjoying being one. It is making our relationship stronger.

Well, dont know ....maybe I should stop thinking and do what is the best possible at each moment. True, I cannot force anyone to anything...thankx