Colt2187 Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 Like I posted before, this girl has shown interest in me a year and a half ago, and didn't notice until this year. But two of my friends that know her say she's a "bitch" and a "slut" #1. My one friend is an a**h*** 6 out of 10 times, so I can see her being a bitch to him #2. My other firend says she's a slut. He goes to her swim club and talks w/ all the guys there. And all the guys he talked w/ said they got w/ her and she was easy. BUT his information is always unreliable. Everytime I heard him gossip about something he was wrong. 9 out of 10 times he's always wrong. By hearing her conversations on the bus this is what I pick up from her: 1.She's quiet when not talked to. 2.Very talkative when talked to. 3.Likes to talk about her grades as a small talk 4.Seems very involved in her conversations. 5.Very friendly 6. shy That's what I picked up from her and what is really weird is that I match up w/ all 6. It's not like I listed what I have in common w/ her, it's what I hear from her whenever I hear her talking w/ her friends. Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 hi colt, good for you for talking to her to start with, and its good that you found out that you have stuff in common with this girl that you like dont listne to your friends - most of the time they are just jealous because they didnt have the courage to do what you did - and all that slut stuff is just talk because they havent gotten with her - and if you are worried if you go out with her and you friends wont like her - you're righ tthey wont cause they wont get to see you as much - but believe me you'll be happier with the girl than with friends that you wont even talk to in a few months anyway - i've been there i know - i avoided going out with a few girls in high school because my "friends" aid the same things that you were saying about yours good luck with her Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 sorry if thats hard to read i cant type, and i realize there is spell check but hey i was just trying to get some thoughts down Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted December 19, 2003 Author Share Posted December 19, 2003 Thanx, that gives me more confidence. I was able to understand what you said, it was perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 welcome, dont wait too long to get a number now, you dont want to get stuck in a friend zone, if too afraid to get the # then at least the screen - name, that doesnt seem so intimidating if you dont want to ask for the # with all your friends around you on the bus then online you can ask for a # good luck again! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 I tend to enjoy Colt's mathematical analysis of situations, it's always a percentage or probability. I think it's an asset Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 as someone that prides himself on being cerebral - that can get in the way sometimes - but its always good to look at things from all sides Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted December 19, 2003 Author Share Posted December 19, 2003 I tend to enjoy Colt's mathematical analysis of situations, it's always a percentage or probability. I think it's an asset lmao (brings out pie chart and begins to analyze situation) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted December 19, 2003 Author Share Posted December 19, 2003 Ok, my friend who calls her a slut works with her over the summer. My friend and the girl work at a swim club around my area. He says that she had sex about 6 - 7 times. I trust him b/c I've been his friend since 5th grade. We're practically brothers. Like I said earlier, he's usually wrong when it comes to gossip, but he actually got the info from the horses mouth (the pool boys that she had sex with). He also knows that she was suspended from work b/c of the act and some of the pool guys were fired. At that time she was probably 14 - 15. The pool boys ranged from 15 - 18 and there were 12 pool boys. When I heard this I was crushed. But when I heard it I couldn't equate the two; her the girl that I am now interested in and slut. Those two words just don't seem right together. I mean, nobody likes a slut. Well........ Nobody wants to get in a relationship w/ a slut be it a man or woman. I'm not like most people my age. Most highschool students just want to have fun, but I'm looking for a relationship, one that will lead into marriage. So what I'm trying to say is, is she even worth getting involved in? Will she end up breaking my heart? I have so many mixed emotions about this girl, and have heard many things from my close friend and other friend that I don't know what to do. I ask God to give me signs but most of the time I don't pick anything up from them. I feel so lost.... A part of me is saying, forget her, but another part of me is saying, how do you know if they're right, you haven't even talked to her yet. I mean I started out confident and having a longing to meet this girl, now I'm getting cold feet. Please help me out and guide me in the right direction. I'm extremely sorry for this long post, I just wanted to get everything in before I got writer's block. Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 look, you liked the girl before you knew anything about her, and then you actually talked to her, and liked her more than ever, it seems like you should just go for it - if she breaks your heart then she wasnt worth your time anyway and this way you've started on your way with girls - you always need a jumping off point - and how many people do you know actually got married to their first gf or bf? - and if the "rumors" are true, who says she isnt remoresful and feels stupid about what she did - i highly doubt though that they are true - i had a friend in high school that was labeled a slut just because people didnt know her too well - and you said this girl ws shy - so maybe she is the same way - pwople are afraid of what they dont understand - you r friends are probably the same way Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted December 19, 2003 Author Share Posted December 19, 2003 Wow, I've never looked at it that way before.... Thanks for the insightful information. I feel a little better now. Oh yeah and by the way, I haven't talked to her yet, what I posted earlier were just some things I picked up from when I saw her talking w/ her friends. Lol here's a funny story. This happened yesterday. So I walk on the bus and I see her there talking with her friend. I was kind of surprised b/c she's never usually on the bus. I was going to sit near her but all the seats were taken, so I sit 2 seats in front of her to the left side, she's on the right. So she talking w/ her friend and I don't want to jump in on her conversation. So I wait and wait till finally her friend's stop comes up and her frined leaves. (Her stop is only 2 stops away) So I get ready to stand up and move to her seat to start some small talk when my friend (completely different friend who doesn't know her) moves into my seat and starts talking to me. I was like thinking in my head, NOOOOOOOO GET OUT. But I didn't want to be rude to my friend so I just let him talk. So her stop comes up and she leaves and I pounded my head against the window. My friend was like "Was that necessary?" and I said "Yes b/c I waned to get that girls phone number but you got in the way" All he could say to that was "Oh,....... You idiot" and then I proceded to stangle him in a halfserious half playful manner. My chance at happiness was only 2 seats away and I got robbed. And the thing that sucks is I won't see her again until after the holidays. Oh well maybe it wasn't my time yet. Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 holy crap, dont give up now, just because you didnt get to talk to her right when you wanted to, there will be other days to talk to her, and now you have all the holiday talk to use as fodder for a decent long convo if you need it "how was you break?" "did your family go anywhere?" the always important "what did you get?" so there will be time - just try not to think about her while you are on break too much, just take it easy, relax, and try to get yourself under control mentally and physically for the next time oyu see her good luck Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 20, 2003 Share Posted December 20, 2003 My chance at happiness was only 2 seats away and I got robbed. It's fine to wait, but don't be so nervous. My analysis is that if you would have had 28.523% more balls, you woulda had her Keep at it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted December 20, 2003 Author Share Posted December 20, 2003 Thanks really bored for more things to talk about w/ her, I could always use more. It's fine to wait, but don't be so nervous. My analysis is that if you would have had 28.523% more balls, you woulda had her Keep at it lol, good anlysis Link to post Share on other sites
theophilia Posted December 20, 2003 Share Posted December 20, 2003 ive been reading your posts and the replies to your posts and i couldnt help feeling touched. you seem to be a really sweet boy. im sorry, i dont have any other advice to give you other than.. some things are worth the wait. yeah.. that isnt even advice is it? so dont give up just because you had a few minor setbacks. maybe it just isnt the right time yet. good luck with everything and even if this doesnt work out in the end, youre still young and somewhere out there, there is a great girl waiting to be with an awesome boy like you! xoxo ps - im jealous that you can write so well, even if youre just posting on a liddle forum such as this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted December 20, 2003 Author Share Posted December 20, 2003 Thanks for the advice theophilla. I think I have all the information I need for now. I should just get her off my mind and start getting into the xmas frame of mind. ps - im jealous that you can write so well, even if youre just posting on a liddle forum such as this! LOL, thanks, I figure if I'm going to get any help around here I should at least make an effort to make everything comprehensible. <---------------- tries too hard Link to post Share on other sites
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