adamt Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 (edited) Holy cow - do you know him? haha! no! but being difficult,nit picking,wanting to spend less time with me and moody is what my ex did in the last few months and i read similar stuff on here. they would feel bad for breaking it off so they try to get round it by being difficult so then the dumpee actually does it when the get fed up. then the real dumper can walk away with clear concience and find someone else. the real dumpee was really forced into a corner and had no option but to finish it. I stuck it out thinking it would return to normal. she finally finished with me the day they buried her mom's ashes. i guess she had wanted to finish me for a while and saw that point as "i got to do it now". didnt see what was happening to the relationship until a few months later when my head was clearer.love ws truely blind Edited December 16, 2009 by adamt Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 oh Adam I am so sorry for your pain - indeed it is similiar to mine, but you are farther down the path than I am. Today it is 2 weeks since we broke up, after 5.5 years! I'm still devastated, still cry at the drop of a pin, and still can't figure out what I could have done differently to make it work! The rational side of me says it takes 2 to make a relationship to work - but at the moment my emotional side has all the control. NOT a goode thing! Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 (edited) yeah, i have been through what you are going through. didnt think i would find anyone better.cant eat, cant sleep until 2am and wake up at 5:30am, lots of questions wizzing through my head constantly. crying in my car, breakign down at work,cant focus at work, i think it is important to remain in NC no matter how hard it is. the gym was my saviour. went everyday to just stop me from spending evenings in alone when your brain is in overtime over analysing the relationship, everything seems to remind you of the ex. believe me it will get better, afte a month i decided i would not let her control my mind anymore so i was determined to begin to move on. it takes time but you will get ther if you are a fighter. i think you will come out of it a stronger and better person too. lots of self analysing along the way and finding yourself. you go through a period where you are frustrated because you want to move on but not quite there yet. good luck..you will get there and there is someone better out there Edited December 16, 2009 by adamt Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Thanks but I'm still at the point where I hope he has an epiphany and comes back to me. Impossible to believe there is anyone else, I just want him! Yup I'm a dumba$$! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 Well I sent her an e-mail 3 days ago and no response. Here it is... Hola ******. I checked with the bookstore in regards to those books and I believe neither one is being purchased by ****. At least not the older editions. I tried to get the exact ISBN #'s online but was unable to, so I'm not 100% sure. But from the looks of it the only way to sale them is through a wholesaler. Being older editions they're really not worth much other than references. I know you have the newer principles of accounting so the older one of mine is pretty much worthless. However the Understanding Business makes for a good reference if needed. You can have them if you'd like. If not and you don't want to tote them around I'll take them off your hands. Just let me know. How was this semester by the way? Did you finish strong? I hope so. Has **** made alot a friends at daycare? Hows work going? Anyways, let me know. Have a good one chica. I hope all is well. I know that I basically said if you want respond then do, if not then.... I have never done anything to hurt this girl. I didn't go crazy when it ended either. I accepted the break up and have moved on. It really is like she would rather pretend that we never happened. That it was all a dream and there was nothing real about us. I'm not upset but I am confused. Not even a thank you or F#$% off from her. Does she want me to hate her. Maybe she gave up and failed this semester and she's ashaimed? I know I have to just get over it and let it be. This will be my last attempt to reach out to her for sure. I'm just a little frusterated with it all. Live and learn I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
soheartbroken Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 he wants to play the victim. get the sympathy vote then walk away a clear concience Agreed. It's like a get-out-of-jail-free ticket when they force you to end it. Cowards... Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 Agreed. It's like a get-out-of-jail-free ticket when they force you to end it. Cowards... Looking back in the final months of my relationship the warning signs were there but you truely believe it is jsut a phase they are going through. It ended up like I was walking on broken glass and everything I did was wrong. Sometimes they just will want the opposite of you just so that it causes friction and they hope you get fed up and had enough and end it. then you have saved them a whole lot of self guilt and solved a difficult situaton for them. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 Adam - I'm telling you, you were dating the female version of my ex! Even after I pulled the plug (of course leaving the door open by telling him I love him, but cannot take being treated badly anymore) I didn't realize what had happened. A friend of mine had to tell me - duh he checked out ages ago! I've got to tell you, the layers of hurt I feel are immeasurable. Link to post Share on other sites
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