GF dancing at the club!

[Phateless]

so you wouldn't mind a girl of yours rubbing her ass on another guy's crotch on the dancefloor and acting like she is getting f####d from behind from another guy?

 

I would mind that, but that's not what she was doing. Re-read the original post. She was dancing by herself, yes it was a sexy manner, but it was most likely FOR HIM, and he yelled at her for it.

 

He should have gone and danced with her then taken her home and had sex with her like she was telling him to through her dancing.

[Joe Normal]

i actually do go on the dance floor but i stay away from girls so i dont get in trouble, she dont like it if i dance close to other girls either sooooo yeahhhh like i said i try to not do things to make my other SO its called common courtesy if you respect your SO you would try to make them happy at all times if possible and thats what I do I keep my girl happy so like i said I should get the same respec maybe you have never been with a guy that treats you good sally.....so get over yourself!

 

If you don't like the idea of dating a woman who dances like that when you are not around, then don't date a woman who dances like that when you are not around. Pretty simple.

[cody5]

I agree. Don't date a club whore if you can help it. You're choice. I'm still awaiting the results of the homework assignment.

[Clep]

I think her behavior was inappropriate. I think she should only be dancing like that when she is dancing WITH her boyfriend. From the original post it sounded like she was doing that when he was not around and it was for the purpose of gaining attention from other men. Whether or not that was the case, if she saves that type of dancing for when she is dancing with her bf, it ensures she can please her man at the same time sending a clear message to others that her man is the only person who is to receive that type of attention by her.

 

Maybe she has some self worth issues and feels the need for other men's attention as a form of validation that she is desirable.

 

It is not up to me to say dump her or stay with her, but just my view on whether dancing like that without her boyfriends hands on her is appropriate.

[torranceshipman]

he never said she was his property or that he owns her.

 

what? people aren't suppose to get annoyed and feel disrespected by someone else because of your perception of ownership of another individual?

 

Obviously he didn't say it, but that is how he is treating her.

 

I'm actually quite disturbed that people can be so down on a girl for being in a club and dancing on her OWN. She was probably even trying to dance sexily so her man thinks she is sexy and he rails on her and insinuates she is a whore for it. Jeez, I'll say it again...what century are we all living in here?

Edited January 11, 2010 by torranceshipman

[road]

So it's ok for a GF to grind on the DF with another guy?

[harmfulsweetz]

Not a big deal in my eyes, I used to dance 'sexy' if a good song came on, not to get attention, but because it was funny and felt good. If guys look, then great, it's a compliment to you, you snagged a hottie!

[harmfulsweetz]

Oooh thought piped up...when she dances like this, why don't you go and dance with her? I'm sure that's what she's vying for.

[cody5]

you snagged a hottie!

 

No, you snagged a slut.

[cody5]

Oooh thought piped up...when she dances like this, why don't you go and dance with her? I'm sure that's what she's vying for.

 

OOh. Another thought piped up. She got so cought up in the sexuality of the moment that she forgot you were there and started advertising.

[harmfulsweetz]

Jeez...can't people get a grip? She's a slut for how she danced to a song? Ok, then a lot of women are sluts, and that's me included. I can't believe people are making such a deal over a dance move, it's shocking. If he thinks she's a slut because of that, and only that, then heck, she should get out quick, she deserves better.

[torranceshipman]

So it's ok for a GF to grind on the DF with another guy?

 

Erm...are you are talking about the invisible man? Because the OP said that the girl in question in this thread was dancing by herself. All alone. I'm sure you appreciate the difference between a girl dancing ALONE and a girl grinding a random stranger.

[Clep]

Jeez...can't people get a grip? She's a slut for how she danced to a song? Ok, then a lot of women are sluts, and that's me included. I can't believe people are making such a deal over a dance move, it's shocking. If he thinks she's a slut because of that, and only that, then heck, she should get out quick, she deserves better.

 

I agree with this completely. I do not agree with her behavior in the club dancing but to say she sleeps around is ridiculous. I don't even know how that label can be placed upon her.

[Dexter Morgan]

Jeez...can't people get a grip? She's a slut for how she danced to a song?

 

uh......ya.

 

if you dance like a tramp, look like a tramp doing it, well....?

 

 

If he thinks she's a slut because of that, and only that

 

uh...probably not only because of that, the dance just helps show how she more than likely conducts herself elsewhere.

 

if someone isn't a slut or tramp, then they don't dance as if to say, "take me home...anyone!!!"

[Phateless]

Oooh thought piped up...when she dances like this, why don't you go and dance with her? I'm sure that's what she's vying for.

 

Reality.

 

OOh. Another thought piped up. She got so cought up in the sexuality of the moment that she forgot you were there and started advertising.

 

Insecurity.

 

You guys are the biggest bunch of whiny, insecure, little sissies I've ever met. No wonder you're all scared your gfs will leave you.

 

Grow up...

[cody5]

Hey Phateless. We can't all be as with-it and together as you. Yes we do have some insecurities. I envy you that you can encourage your SO to express herself by dressing like a whore and walking into a room better known for casual sexual hook-ups than dancing. A room full of men that want nothing more than to bang her. Then, with her knowing that's the case, to know she's rubbing her slut ass into strange mens crotches. You're cool with her drinking and partying with other men until 3:00 in the morning. You are so mature to allow her to slow dance with these horny men and not worry about the little bit of kissing or more that can and DOES happen in these types of situations, when the man and the mood are right and there is ZERO chance of getting caught. And of course, someone like you doesn't worry about the slightly longer good-night kiss that is mandatory after this man has bought her drinks and hung with her and partied with her all night. No, she loves you and she would NEVER do that. After-all, she TOLD YOU everything that happened that night, right?

 

You're SO cool and collected. I wish I were you.

[Phateless]

Hey Phateless. We can't all be as with-it and together as you. Yes we do have some insecurities. I envy you that you can encourage your SO to express herself by dressing like a whore and walking into a room better known for casual sexual hook-ups than dancing. A room full of men that want nothing more than to bang her. Then, with her knowing that's the case, to know she's rubbing her slut ass into strange mens crotches. You're cool with her drinking and partying with other men until 3:00 in the morning. You are so mature to allow her to slow dance with these horny men and not worry about the little bit of kissing or more that can and DOES happen in these types of situations, when the man and the mood are right and there is ZERO chance of getting caught. And of course, someone like you doesn't worry about the slightly longer good-night kiss that is mandatory after this man has bought her drinks and hung with her and partied with her all night. No, she loves you and she would NEVER do that. After-all, she TOLD YOU everything that happened that night, right?

 

You're SO cool and collected. I wish I were you.

 

Right, because YOU'VE read this thread and know that's actually what happened in the original post? No, you obviously didn't.

 

THAT would not be cool, and I told her from the beginning that if she steps out on me, her ass is gone IMMEDIATELY. I also told her that I won't "accidentally" bang someone else, and I expect this relationship to be over immediately if I cheat.

 

Fair is fair.

 

THIS THREAD is about dancing BY HERSELF. If my girl went to a club til 3 am without me, that's no big deal. If it happens on a regular basis I would start to get a little worried.

 

If she kissed someone else her ass is gone.

[Ruby Slippers]

You guys are the biggest bunch of whiny, insecure, little sissies I've ever met. No wonder you're all scared your gfs will leave you.

Completely agree. This thread is a real eye-opener. It gives you a frightening view into the minds of insecure men and how their fears and insecurities become a breeding ground for hate toward women.

 

If I went to a club with my man and he returned from getting drinks to bitch at me for having fun BY MYSELF on the dance floor, my respect for him would drop far and fast.

 

The kind of man a woman wants to have would dance on over, drinks in hand, and start getting down and having fun with her. This is fun for everybody. Both get the fun and satisfaction of letting loose and dancing, and the man sends a message to all the other guys that says, "Sorry, boys, she's with me."

 

Even if the guy doesn't like to dance, he can stand there and watch his sexy gal have fun, giving her the sexy eyes. Once the song's over, she'll strut her stuff on over to him, take a sip of the drink, then give him a great kiss.

 

You guys are ruining it for yourselves.

[Phateless]

Completely agree. This thread is a real eye-opener. It gives you a frightening view into the minds of insecure men and how their fears and insecurities become a breeding ground for hate toward women.

 

If I went to a club with my man and he returned from getting drinks to bitch at me for having fun BY MYSELF on the dance floor, my respect for him would drop far and fast.

 

The kind of man a woman wants to have would dance on over, drinks in hand, and start getting down and having fun with her. This is fun for everybody. Both get the fun and satisfaction of letting loose and dancing, and the man sends a message to all the other guys that says, "Sorry, boys, she's with me."

 

Even if the guy doesn't like to dance, he can stand there and watch his sexy gal have fun, giving her the sexy eyes. Once the song's over, she'll strut her stuff on over to him, take a sip of the drink, then give him a great kiss.

 

You guys are ruining it for yourselves.

 

Well said!!

 

That's exactly what I was trying to tell them from the beginning! Now that they've heard it directly from a beautiful woman, maybe they'll believe it.

 

Sheesh...

[Dexter Morgan]

If I went to a club with my man and he returned from getting drinks to bitch at me for having fun BY MYSELF on the dance floor, my respect for him would drop far and fast.

 

 

well it all depends ruby. where you simply dancing and having fun by yourself or with a group of your friends?

 

Or were you dancing in such a way that shows other men how you look when you have sex?

 

big difference.

 

When I usually go out with a gf and a group, she will go out on the floor, dance and have fun. Not a problem.

 

if she is backing dat ass up suggestively, directly, indirectly or otherwise for another guy.......different story.

[Phateless]

well it all depends ruby. where you simply dancing and having fun by yourself or with a group of your friends?

 

Or were you dancing in such a way that shows other men how you look when you have sex?

 

big difference.

 

When I usually go out with a gf and a group, she will go out on the floor, dance and have fun. Not a problem.

 

if she is backing dat ass up suggestively, directly, indirectly or otherwise for another guy.......different story.

 

For the 8th time... the original poster said she was dancing alone.

[Pizzaman81]

getting "low", isn't a big deal.

 

Now if she was backing that "ass" up on the floor with another guy, bumping and grinding with another guy, then THAT would be highly inappropriate as someone in a committed relationship and disrespectful to you.

 

If I were her bf, i'd probably just stand there and watch. Then dance with another girl.

[sugar_and_spice]

she was dancing alone. why is that a problem ?

[Phateless]

she was dancing alone. why is that a problem ?

 

Cuz these guys are insecure and terrified of losing her. They think that someone better will come along and steal her away.

[cody5]

OK. Let's see if we can reach some middle ground and give this guy some advice he can use. Something between:

 

a - Cody5 and his kind are a bunch of Neanderthals that won't let their wives go out without them, and

b - anyone that dresses like a s.l.u.t and goes w.h.o.r.i.n.g around meat markets until 3:00 AM is a w.h.o.r.ing s.l.u.t.

 

People have different interests. You want to date/marry someone with similar interests. Sports, camping, photography, guns, pornography, stamp collecting, drinking/drugs, spouse swapping. Differences in compatibility with any of those take different degrees of understanding for people to cohabitate. Campers will spend large amounts of time away from each other. If you don't both like camping, you probably won't date. Stamp collectors will spend money on their hobby. If your wife doesn't agree with a large %'s of your wealth going to stamps, you won't marry. Sports fans will spend time in front of their TV's. If your SO doesn't like that, you won't date. Cyclists will be gone all weekend biking and take biking vacations. Spouse swappers had better be compatible. You get the point.

 

CLUBBERS WILL SPEND SIGNIFICANT AMOUNTS OF TIME IN PLACES FAMOUS FOR CASUAL SEXUAL HOOKUPS, DRINKING, PARTYING AND DANCING (possibly suggestively) WITH MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. If you aren't into that kind of thing, DATE SOMEONE ELSE. If you don't like clubbing, you shouldn't feel unenlightened for not wanting your SO to be hanging around meat markets until all hours of the morning. If he or she is a clubber and you're not, move on. And this guy doesn't seem to be a clubber or he would have loved this, as was suggested by a couple of our more enlightened posters.