Questions

[jrm8246]

I am going through alot of the same things that yall are going through. I have a question though. My girlfriend and I have been together a year and a half. She has recently told me the whole I need time to make myself happy scene. Just like all of you we lived together and she told me I was the one and she thanked god that we were together and that she had found me. After she said she needed time I broke down and got depressed cryed alot and can't get her off my mind. I know I truly love this woman and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. After she told me this about a week latter I continued to call and write e-mail which I could'nt help but do. Now I'm to the point where I respect what she wants. I don't call her anymore. When I did call her she got upset and we would talk about what we've been up to and what we did that day and just have a normal conversation, then all of a sudden she would get mad cuss me out and hang up the phone saying we've been talking to much. Next day comes by and I still don't call her but she calls me, I ignore the phone and she calls 20 times. Never leaves a message. She will even make her number unavalible on the caller ID to make me pick up. But i don't . Then she gets mad at me for not answering the phone and cusses me out on a voicemail she leaves. So I get cussed out when I answer the phone and I get cussed out when I don't? I had also told her I had already bought her a few things for christmas. I told her I would send them to her and she is excited about it. Keeps asking me questions as to what I got her. But she says she needs time to make her self happy and I understand but why would you call me 20 times a night when I don't answer the phone but when I do get mad at me???

[princess75]

Hey it seems you have a pscyho in your hands...well, I dont want to be so rude about it. But do you want

 

someone who is so impulsive, confused and treats you badly? Well, you know this gal better ....do you know why

 

she acts like that? What in the phone conversation you say to make her angry? And if you dont, why you

 

letting her take you for granted? It is obvious she knows you are there and will always be...if I were you I would

 

take time and go out with other gals, see the difference. And if you still like this one then put clear limits on

 

what you deserve and what you dont. I have just done it myself. My ex bf will always talk to me nicely and then

 

for no reason, or becasue I tell him something he doesnt like (which should not be a reason) he treats me wrong.

 

Then he would call again, or even I would still listen! I was stupid! Till I realized and last time he did that (2 days

 

ago) I hunged up on him. Since thne he has been calling and I have not picked up the phone. But by mistake his

 

call went through (call waiting) and he said I am just callign to say sorry for the other day. This is progress!

 

And I was talkign to a friend so I said we will talk later. We did, and he said sorry, I said never ever do it again....

 

and hopefully he wont..if he does then he knows the consequences...I walk out from our "friendship" terms.

 

He also is the one who knows I love him too much...and takes me for granted like your gal.

[jrm8246]

I don't believe she is crazey. But what do I know. This is a side of her I've never seen. When she does call and I answer the phone she says " where are you at " and " why do you sound like you don't want to talk to me" but she's the one who left me. I don't understand she has never acted like this.

[princess75]

You should know first of all what do you want with her and with any relationship. Are you in for this inmature type

 

of behaviors. If so, then just accept it. If not then try to communicate it across like I did, best thing is to set foot

 

on the ground. Talk to her, if she is not willing to right now then at least you know you tried. And move on and tell

 

her when she is ready you guys can talk, but that you wont tolerate such behaviors. But communicate,

 

communicate. Sometimes people act crazy, and not necessarily it is something about you, but you are the one

 

they act it out on. Jsut keep on talking to her, ask her how her other things are. Also remain open to meeting

 

new gals!

[jrm8246]

Yeah she is acting immature right now but it's not who she is. I know that she is stressed with her family and school and maybe she just dose'nt have time for me right now. But earlier in the week she called and even though she left me she still sounded like we were together when we talked. She called me baby at least 20 times and when I acted like I was busy and could'nt talk I tried to get off the phone with her and she said " hey I love you" and of course I told her I loved her too. I got off the phone and my heart was raceing just waiting for the chance to call her back. When I did she sounded mad at me and did'nt want to talk. Yes I do want to be with this girl I know that. We have so much in common it's silly but we are also different. It was the little things that I did'nt do that I guess makes her feel this way now. I should have done those things when we were together but I did'nt. I did'nt cheat as I never would and I never would raise my hand at her. I just can't understand why women always talk about finding there knight and shinning armor. Wanting someone who will treat them right and when they do find that someone that would prefer to have someone that treats them like crap. I just don't get it.

[princess75]

She is lucky to have you. I wish you luck...all I can say is be patient with her, if you love her so badly. I am in the

 

same boat, I am being very patient, tooo much indeed. He is even going out with another gal now and I am

 

really suffering, but hey he says he still loves me..so I can only say time will tell. In my case, I dont feel sorry

 

for his new gal, because she is with him to forget her old bf. I wish things would not be so confusing, I am doing

 

my stuff and are frozen in love matters. But hey wish you al lthe best!