ecm Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 I'm just wondering if any of you DON'T get them about someone you legitimately like/love? I definitely get them, but I've had friends say they don't really get them. I feel like this is a silly thread to start, but I seriously want to know. Anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 Sure, since I've only been bonded to a couple of women in my lifetime, it is the dearth of those feelings of uncertainty which permeates the experience. Rather, it's a relative peace and calm which bathes the connection, like a unanimity of emotion and thought. It's only when separated where I feel a modicum of loss. I don't have any twins as friends but would love to ask twins how they sense each other. As siblings they have high non-sexual love for each other, generally, but there is something else in operation. To me, when I feel what you might describe as 'butterflies' it's my own uncertainties and insecurities talking to me. Yes, I might find that particular person attractive, but something else is going on, something I need to pay attention to. Retrospectively, it has been my own unhealthiness. Hopefully you'll get more cogent opinion Link to post Share on other sites
meerkat stew Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 I get an "all is right with the world" feeling early on in a new relationship, and tend to be calmer and more content with life, but probably not to the level of butterflies. Used to get butterflies in younger days, and didn't like it because together with the infatuated euphoria there was always some anxiety as the flutter of those little wings reminded me of my vulnerability. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 I'm sorry I am not sure if I understood the question but do you only want to hear from people who don't get them? If so wouldn't that be like asking someone who has never had an orgasm, do you think orgasms are possible? I definitely get butterflies and it's happened to me several times in my lifetime. Currently I had them with my boyfriend the first time we met as the night progressed and I looked into his eyes I totally felt them. This weekend we were out and he was telling me a story and a part made us laugh, when we stopped laughing he held my gaze and just in the way he looked into my eyes rocked me to my core. The same way it did that first night when we first met. I tend to have really intense connections with guys when I am in love, to the point where our eyes do all the expressing and I feel it in the pit of my stomach. As the relationship progresses into something less "erratic" components of that still exist in unexpected moments as I explained above. Link to post Share on other sites
meerkat stew Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 This weekend we were out and he was telling me a story and a part made us laugh, when we stopped laughing he held my gaze and just in the way he looked into my eyes rocked me to my core. last night I had to take a klonopin after your IRC reference to avoid an anxiety seizure, now am reaching for the insulin pills to lower blood sugar levels after reading your "awww" moment with BF. You are turning me into a pill popper. but nicely put. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 last night I had to take a klonopin after your IRC reference to avoid an anxiety seizure, now am reaching for the insulin pills to lower blood sugar levels after reading your "awww" moment with BF. You are turning me into a pill popper. but nicely put. I've been known to be hazardous to men's health, but you'll be ok because at least you're medicating. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 I wouldn't know. Single loser here. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 I wouldn't know. Single loser here. No, come on!! Don't be like that that doesn't make you a loser. It just means you haven't experienced it yet. I think guys have a harder time with this than women, since we are more in tune with our feelings so we are more free to allow our bodies to express emotion. But of course that is just my own personal view.... Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 The only time I get butterflies is when I have to give a presentation before a large crowd. Or when my oldest daughter announces that she's thinking about getting another tattoo. Link to post Share on other sites
deebeechrisyo Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 If you are talking about butterflies as in the "spark" you feel with someone, then no I don't feel them at all. I did when I was younger, but I found I was much more anxious then sublime most of the time. Butterflies in the stomach turned me into a clingy wuss, aggrivating over why my girlfriend wasn't returning my texts within 10 minutes. I don't feel the spark anymore, but I still appreciate and love spending time with the women in my life. I guess I base attraction now less off of the gut feeling and more about what she brings to the table. I don't have the anxious feelings anymore in relationships and frankly I'm much happier that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted December 15, 2009 Share Posted December 15, 2009 I'm just wondering if any of you DON'T get them about someone you legitimately like/love? I definitely get them, but I've had friends say they don't really get them. I feel like this is a silly thread to start, but I seriously want to know. Anyone? Without a doubt, especially when you are anticipating meeting them for the first time in person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ecm Posted December 15, 2009 Author Share Posted December 15, 2009 I'm sorry I am not sure if I understood the question but do you only want to hear from people who don't get them? If so wouldn't that be like asking someone who has never had an orgasm, do you think orgasms are possible? I definitely get butterflies and it's happened to me several times in my lifetime. Currently I had them with my boyfriend the first time we met as the night progressed and I looked into his eyes I totally felt them. This weekend we were out and he was telling me a story and a part made us laugh, when we stopped laughing he held my gaze and just in the way he looked into my eyes rocked me to my core. The same way it did that first night when we first met. I tend to have really intense connections with guys when I am in love, to the point where our eyes do all the expressing and I feel it in the pit of my stomach. As the relationship progresses into something less "erratic" components of that still exist in unexpected moments as I explained above. Nope, I don't just want to hear from people who don't get them. I'm just wondering what people think of them...when they get them, what they are, etc. From people who do, people who don't, or whatever. I personally think I get them when I'm nervous/ excited. But my ex (a few years ago) told me that he doesn't get those anymore about anyone, so he thinks he doesn't love people or isn't capable of loving people. It's like he based how much he likes/ loves someone on whether or not he gets "butterflies". It just always stuck in my head. I used to get butterflies when I was little when we'd pull up to an amusement park, and I'm pretty sure I wasn't in love with the Ferris Wheel, so what the heck? That same ex is also a recent ex again, and I'd frankly like to tell him to jump off my roof to see if he can fly like a butterfly. But, I'm nice (kind of) so I won't. He has many issues: trust, commitment, depression, etc. I'm wondering if some people maybe he just doesn't LET themselves get them? and honestly, I wonder if partaking (daily) in a certain green plant that is legal in some states can make someone so chill that they just don't GET excited?? Maybe he was lying b/c that was about 5 years ago. I still am interested though in what YOU guys think about YOUR OWN personal butterflies...not his. Blech. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I'm just wondering if any of you DON'T get them about someone you legitimately like/love? I definitely get them, but I've had friends say they don't really get them. I feel like this is a silly thread to start, but I seriously want to know. Anyone? I would love to tell you if I get them. But, I am not sure what do you exactly mean under 'butterflies'. Could you please describe how do you sense/fell the butterflies? Link to post Share on other sites
harmfulsweetz Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 bac, it's where your tummy or somewhere in the pit of that region flutters, jumps and sends you all giddy. It's like something is squeezing in it, bubbling up. I get them all the time, when I think of this guy I like, or when I see him. My tummy goes crazy! It's funny to think how a person can physically affect you, and nervous excitement manifests itself physically. I think most people do feel it, just some aren't as 'in tune' as others. I know if I like a guy by these butterflies. If I don't get butterflies, then I'm not that interested. Strange, huh? The really nervous, anxious ones you get, I call them 'bats.' Because that isn't a pleasant feeling, whereas butterflies are. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 (edited) ecm thanks for explaining, wasn't sure if posting that we do feel them was unwelcomed here. ;-) I would think pot kills all abilities to feel, and when he does feel it is synthetically induced so sure he wouldn't even know butterflies if it came disguised ad the munchies. bac, it's where your tummy or somewhere in the pit of that region flutters, jumps and sends you all giddy. It's like something is squeezing in it, bubbling up. I get them all the time, when I think of this guy I like, or when I see him. My tummy goes crazy! It's funny to think how a person can physically affect you, and nervous excitement manifests itself physically. I think most people do feel it, just some aren't as 'in tune' as others. I know if I like a guy by these butterflies. If I don't get butterflies, then I'm not that interested. Strange, huh? The really nervous, anxious ones you get, I call them 'bats.' Because that isn't a pleasant feeling, whereas butterflies are. Ooooh you described that perfectly harmfulsweetz!! that is exactly how it feels to me. Butterfly feeling is almost like that "going down a roller coaster" feeling but not as intense. It is more a euphoric feeling and it is always accompanied by shortness of breath, faster paced breathing and heart racing. I can only describe it as a meeting of the souls, because I have only felt butterflies when looking into a guy's eyes whom I have a very strong intellectual/emotional connection. Of course I am also physically drawn to him but intellectually he has done something to my brain which I cannot explain. I know these butterflies are not first meeting nerves, or anxiety because it can be triggered far into the long term of the relationship at a moment where everything feels so good all we have to do is look into each other's eyes. Not to be confused with the jitters you feel before you have to speak to an audience or before you are about to meet someone on a first date that you really like that is anxiety and it is unpleasant, butterflies is different. It's overall feeling of well being and euphoria. Edited December 16, 2009 by InspiredbyYou Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 bac, it's where your tummy or somewhere in the pit of that region flutters, jumps and sends you all giddy. It's like something is squeezing in it, bubbling up. Thank you. Do I understand right that it is just nervous excitement but it is not sexual arousal feeling? Link to post Share on other sites
harmfulsweetz Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 bac, it's where your tummy or somewhere in the pit of that region flutters, jumps and sends you all giddy. It's like something is squeezing in it, bubbling up. Thank you. Do I understand right that it is just nervous excitement but it is not sexual arousal feeling? It could be both I think. Wikipedia says it's down to an outpouring of blood to the muscles, exiting the stomach which causes the stomach to tingle. Supposedly, a flight or fright response, or a lovesick/anxiety response. Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 To me, when I feel what you might describe as 'butterflies' it's my own uncertainties and insecurities talking to me. Yes, I might find that particular person attractive, but something else is going on, something I need to pay attention to. Retrospectively, it has been my own unhealthiness. ) HA! I was just about to post that the butterflies are simply the result of one's issues (i.e. no issues = no butterflies!)!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 I'm just wondering if any of you DON'T get them about someone you legitimately like/love? I definitely get them, but I've had friends say they don't really get them. I feel like this is a silly thread to start, but I seriously want to know. Anyone? Yeah, I've never had butterflies about anyone... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ecm Posted December 28, 2009 Author Share Posted December 28, 2009 I would love to tell you if I get them. But, I am not sure what do you exactly mean under 'butterflies'. Could you please describe how do you sense/fell the butterflies? Sorry so long to reply- harmful sweetz said it well. I feel it right between my, well, breasteseseses, honestly. I think it's adrenaline/ nerves. The other night, I thought someone was in my house (my dog walked don my stairs, when I thought she was already downstairs) and I got the same feeling...just times 100. So, I'm guessing it's nerves/ fear. I thought I was going to have a heart attack the other day, though. But, why would that same feeling happen with a kiss? I get them sometimes thinking about a guy, or about to kiss a guy, or even watching a hot kiss on tv. Maybe I am abnormal, though. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted December 28, 2009 Share Posted December 28, 2009 The first time I met my boyfriend I got butterflies in my stomach right away. Strangely enough I had never been that nervous in my entire life up to that point. Second time we met up I felt it again in my stomach, especially when he hugged me. The butterflies didn't go away until he kissed me for the first time, and then they just made way for a feeling of unexplainable happiness and serenity. So yeah I felt the butterflies, loved them, but now I'm much happier without them. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 28, 2009 Share Posted December 28, 2009 HA! I was just about to post that the butterflies are simply the result of one's issues (i.e. no issues = no butterflies!)!!!! Poor thing, never felt the sting of passion... Link to post Share on other sites
pandagirl Posted December 28, 2009 Share Posted December 28, 2009 I've had good butterflies, and I've had bad ones. The bad ones make you feel nervous, anxious and worried. The good ones just make you feel... happy! Link to post Share on other sites
edward-e Posted December 28, 2009 Share Posted December 28, 2009 i get butterflies everytime i see inspiredbyyou's posts and citizenerased's posts.... Link to post Share on other sites
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