Not sure if we are broken up?

[McGrupp]

dont tell her. just go NC.

 

why let her see you care and are hurt?

 

she doesnt value you, she's with this "friend".

 

**** her dude.

 

but youll call...

[HLP234]

Yeh its what I have been doing. I haven't said a word to her since she has left. I know she will say something one day when she gets back or whenever.

 

It will be something along the lines of you didn't say a word to me and it made me pull myself away from you. If she does I can tell her I'm done with no explanation and go on.

 

What sucks is she moved here and knows no one but me, so it will look like I'm an *******.

[sugarmomma]

Yeh its what I have been doing. I haven't said a word to her since she has left. I know she will say something one day when she gets back or whenever.

 

It will be something along the lines of you didn't say a word to me and it made me pull myself away from you. If she does I can tell her I'm done with no explanation and go on.

 

What sucks is she moved here and knows no one but me, so it will look like I'm an *******.

 

 

You should start your own thread.

[HLP234]

My own thread was started on here some time ago and I wasn't really getting the same advice, people would just give me one view and someone else said completely different.

 

But I found all these similar threads so I posted, sorry about that. I don't want to take your thread.

[jms76]

No worries HLP.

 

To update everyone else, I am sorry to say I broke NC and called tonight. She did not answer and I left a short vm saying hello and to drop me a line. That was it.

I need closure. I need her to return my call and say I'm sorry, this will not work. I need to hear it. I can't live wondering what the deal is. I know she should be the one calling me but I don't want to wait.

I promise you this, if she does return my call and tells me it's over, I will not beg, plead, or cry. I will thank her for calling me back and tell her to take care. With this, I can move on. I can start fresh and find myself, my groove again.

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts but this was something I had to do for me. I believed that in our 1 year relationship, I was owed more than a fickle answer. I'll let you all know what happens.

[sugarmomma]

No worries HLP.

 

To update everyone else, I am sorry to say I broke NC and called tonight. She did not answer and I left a short vm saying hello and to drop me a line. That was it.

I need closure. I need her to return my call and say I'm sorry, this will not work. I need to hear it. I can't live wondering what the deal is. I know she should be the one calling me but I don't want to wait.

I promise you this, if she does return my call and tells me it's over, I will not beg, plead, or cry. I will thank her for calling me back and tell her to take care. With this, I can move on. I can start fresh and find myself, my groove again.

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts but this was something I had to do for me. I believed that in our 1 year relationship, I was owed more than a fickle answer. I'll let you all know what happens.

 

You can't unring a bell. What's done is done so don't beat yourself up. But just know that going forward you create your own closure and you have to not need anything from her.

 

This may be just what you need to move forward. Don't close your heart or stop believing in love.

[jms76]

Sugar, I think you're right. I need the closure so that I can open my heart to the next woman. I will miss my ex but this is not the first time I've been down this road. Gotta love these low points in life. Makes you appreciate the good times that are certain to be had someday. I just need the strength to get to those better days.

[jms76]

Update.

 

I woke up this morning realizing that my ex is just that. An ex. Just another stranger on the street. I deleted her phone number, e-mail address, everything. I was kidding myself clinging to hope. I feel stupid for calling her last night when I damn well knew better. Today is day one.