scenester Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 So, I met this girl roughly a month ago. Very cute and I must say the attraction between us was very evident from the start. She showed lots of interest in the beginning, texting, making plans, flirting, etc....We hung out a lot within the first month and hooked up a lot, nothing more than that. One night we went to my house and I was supposed to have a bunch of buddies come to my house and they never showed, so we wound up sitting at my house for 3 hrs, so I dropped her off, kissed her goodnight and that was it. The next day I've seen shes been flirting with other guys, which I'm fine with by the way, I'm totally aware she's single. I asked her about it and I simply said "is there another guy you like." She replied "I like a few people right now and I just got out of a long relationship and one that ended badly so I'm still trying to figure things out." I simply said "I can understand that." After that day, she seemed to have lost a bunch of interest in me. I've tried to get together with her a few times and she said cant because she is already hanging out with people, so I simply said okay. She doesn't really initiate texts with me and when I initiate one with her she kinda gives me short answers most of the time like "haha yeah" "haha i know." And generally is just pretty short with me when I try to talk to her. I've kinda done the same thing as of now, and stopped texting her as often as I did and what not. Am I doing the wrong thing? Is there something I can do to spark that interest again? Or should I just move on and forget about her? What do you suggest? THANK YOU! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Am I doing the wrong thing? Is there something I can do to spark that interest again? Or should I just move on and forget about her? What do you suggest? THANK YOU! Right now she knows she has you. Pull back but don't forget her just yet. Enjoy the company when she calls you. If she lost interests, there is nothing you can do other than pull back or forget about her. She might get that spark back or already forgot about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scenester Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 Thank you. Any more advice is greatly appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 She emotionally bailed on you. There is nothing you can do to make her interested in you again. If you move on, and she sees you with other women all over you, then she might see you as desireable again. You have to stop texting her, and if she calls or texts, dont reply right away, or answer all of the calls. You have to show her you moved on, and you really have to move on too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scenester Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 Thanks that prob sounds like my best option right now but id like to hear more POVs Any reason for her to just bail like that? Maybe something I did? You think the "I just got out of a long relationship and one that ended badly so im still trying to figure thing out" was used as an excuse? Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Thanks that prob sounds like my best option right now but id like to hear more POVs Any reason for her to just bail like that? Maybe something I did? You think the "I just got out of a long relationship and one that ended badly so im still trying to figure thing out" was used as an excuse? Could be something you said to turn her off, she could have met someone else. But yes, since she didnt tell you the real reason she lost interest in you, what she said was a lame excuse. Its pretty much a standard lie. She was ready for a new relationship until one day she wasnt, so she lied. She is trying to have a new relationship with someone else now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scenester Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 Thanks guys im just kinda doubting myself cause I really felt we clicked then all of a sudden she loses interest... Link to post Share on other sites
Author scenester Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 (edited) Also by the way this all happened last friday so its been just about a week since we hung out or texted a lot and we used to hangout like everyday, i dont know if im just jumping to conclusions too quickly or its just because she wants some space or she lost interest. Edited December 17, 2009 by scenester Link to post Share on other sites
bittersweet memories Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 Also by the way this all happened last friday so its been just about a week since we hung out or texted a lot and we used to hangout like everyday, i dont know if im just jumping to conclusions too quickly or its just because she wants some space or she lost interest. oh, so that is pretty recent. will do what everyone else is saying..back of a little and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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