played from the beginning?

[DKCS]

I finally was able to speak with my "girlfriend" she said she was upset with something I have said. I'm not sure what I said to her that could have made her upset. when I heard she was upset with her I asked what did I do and if we want this to work we need to talk about it. her response was 1. there is no this 2. I don't want to argue 3. just let me relax

 

I guess 6 months of constant talking and saying we're together doesn't mean we actually were together...

 

I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like school, work, everything I've worked so hard for so I could physically be with her next year was a waste. I don't see a point anymore.

[DKCS]

I finally was able to speak with my "girlfriend" she said she was upset with something I have said. I'm not sure what I said to her that could have made her upset. when I heard she was upset with her I asked what did I do and if we want this to work we need to talk about it. her response was 1. there is no this 2. I don't want to argue 3. just let me relax

 

I guess 6 months of constant talking and saying we're together doesn't mean we actually were together...

 

I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like school, work, everything I've worked so hard for so I could physically be with her next year was a waste. I don't see a point anymore.

 

I'm praying she is just overreacting with what she said and just needs time. I told myself if I don't hear from her in a few days, I'm gonna try and forget about her totally, just don't know how I'll be able to.

[carvidep]

Judging from your other thread and your "gf's" 3 statements, I'd say Mary3 is right, it sounds like she honestly thinks she broke up with you, but didn't want to actually say it. Maybe she's very passive and is afraid of confrontation? that's what I gather from "I don't want to argue" and "just let me relax".

 

Also, something doesn't feel right when reading your other thread. It sounds like when she communicated more often, it was planned mostly around her schedule. skype around midnight right before she goes to bed. and then she decided to talk on the phone and fall asleep instead of using the webcam? I don't know about you, but I think sleepy time is best with a webcam. I love watching my sweetie fall asleep.

 

Postponing your trip... I think she should have just called it off and not set a later date at all, especially after the 3 statements she gave you as her response.

 

Honestly, I think she lost interest.

 

This does NOT mean that you're bad with girls. You'll find one who appreciates you for you, increases talk time vs decreasing it, and will want to spend as much time with you as possible. I promise.

 

"I feel like school, work, everything I've worked so hard for so I could physically be with her next year was a waste."

 

What have you been doing with school and work that would help you be with her next year? Have you been applying for college in NC? Looking for work out there?

 

Regardless of what your answer is, you need to be concentrating more on you, and less on being with her, because you've only been "together" for 6 months, which is not a very long time especially with limited visits in person. And she doesn't seem to think you're a couple, so take some time for yourself and think about your priorities.

[DKCS]

Judging from your other thread and your "gf's" 3 statements, I'd say Mary3 is right, it sounds like she honestly thinks she broke up with you, but didn't want to actually say it. Maybe she's very passive and is afraid of confrontation? that's what I gather from "I don't want to argue" and "just let me relax".

 

Also, something doesn't feel right when reading your other thread. It sounds like when she communicated more often, it was planned mostly around her schedule. skype around midnight right before she goes to bed. and then she decided to talk on the phone and fall asleep instead of using the webcam? I don't know about you, but I think sleepy time is best with a webcam. I love watching my sweetie fall asleep.

 

Postponing your trip... I think she should have just called it off and not set a later date at all, especially after the 3 statements she gave you as her response.

 

Honestly, I think she lost interest.

 

This does NOT mean that you're bad with girls. You'll find one who appreciates you for you, increases talk time vs decreasing it, and will want to spend as much time with you as possible. I promise.

 

"I feel like school, work, everything I've worked so hard for so I could physically be with her next year was a waste."

 

What have you been doing with school and work that would help you be with her next year? Have you been applying for college in NC? Looking for work out there?

 

Regardless of what your answer is, you need to be concentrating more on you, and less on being with her, because you've only been "together" for 6 months, which is not a very long time especially with limited visits in person. And she doesn't seem to think you're a couple, so take some time for yourself and think about your priorities.

 

When I first met her I had no interest in going into college, she convinced me to go to school. I have been looking at some colleges in N.C., haven't applied because they wanted me to finish a year of community college before I applied.

 

I was basically living off my parents money being a lazy bum. I had always put off getting a job, until I met her. We talked about living together and the job was to save up money, I wasn't working a minimum wage job, I had gotten an internship with an athletic trainer and eventually got a job working 35 hours a week at 20/hour. I could have been lazy and taken a minimum wage job and walk through that with ease but I wanted to be with her.

 

I'm gonna take some time to think about what went wrong, if somehow I can fix this. If not then I'm gonna try and move on

[carvidep]

That's great that you got yourself a good job and you're looking at going back to school!

 

No matter what happens, don't stop. Keep going and make a good life for yourself.