CarrieT Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 We told you all this....didnt we tell you so? I am SO going to revel in the "I told you so" moment. My good, Ella, after 50-some pages of this, we are very happy for you and hope you don't listen to so many nay-sayers in the future! Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 I am SO going to revel in the "I told you so" moment. My good, Ella, after 50-some pages of this, we are very happy for you and hope you don't listen to so many nay-sayers in the future! I hope Ella realizes that she was worried over absolutely nothing in the future, and keeps her attitude of "Like it or lump it". Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 I so happy for you Ella. If men like this truly exist then I may reconsider surgery.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Share Posted January 10, 2010 (edited) Thanks guys lovely, for all you know, he probably means what he said. I don't know, but I hope so. We told you all this....didnt we tell you so? Yeah....but how I supposed to know I'd get lucky and find someone who didn't care? Ella, I'm so proud of you!!!! :):bunny: I'm so happy that you got the courage to let everything out. I'm not at all surpsrised at his positive reaction. He seemed like a good guy from what you have posted. Keep the positive thoughts. I'm so happy for you!! Thanks, I'm surprised too that I actually managed to speak to him, lol., I am SO going to revel in the "I told you so" moment. My good, Ella, after 50-some pages of this, we are very happy for you and hope you don't listen to so many nay-sayers in the future! lol. I was scared because I know that guys don't care much about the size of boobs but they do care about sagging. But yeah, it doesn't matter so much to me if more guys find sagging a turn off or not. Maybe it would if and when I break up with him , but I think I've accepted my body now. I hope Ella realizes that she was worried over absolutely nothing in the future, and keeps her attitude of "Like it or lump it". I do feel more confident now. I don't know if his reaction is what was to be expected in general. I'm not saying I have the greatest personality, but that probably played a part. I so happy for you Ella. If men like this truly exist then I may reconsider surgery.. Thanks. Looks like they do exist. I think that with 36E's, you need to worry a lot less than me. God, I'm so glad I decided to change my mind about the break up. :love: Edited January 10, 2010 by ella23 Link to post Share on other sites
sugar_and_spice Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 get lucky? not really. there were quite a few women on here with positive experiences despite saggy boobs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Share Posted January 10, 2010 get lucky? not really. there were quite a few women on here with positive experiences despite saggy boobs. Well, yes, I know. I just mean that I've heard so many bad stories about this, so maybe I've just been lucky? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 Well, yes, I know. I just mean that I've heard so many bad stories about this, so maybe I've just been lucky? No, no, no... Again, Ella -- You had a bad experience with One Bad Egg, came here to get it validated, and misconstrued a handful of comments without fully accepting the majority of those people who were trying to tell you otherwise. It is not that you are lucky - it is that you are experiencing how MOST kind, thoughtful, considerate people are and react. You are now getting validation from the one person you needed it from and in that, we are glad for you. But the validation truly has to come from within and that may take years to occur fully. Be patient with yourself and revel in the new found acceptance you are receiving, but please, PLEASE remember that ultimately, YOU are the one who has to believe you are beautiful for who you are; 100% Perfect or 100% Flawed. I would still heartily recommend counseling as you obviously still have a lot of issues to deal with and they are not going to magically go away because you have acceptance in the arms of one lover. They have to come from within. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Share Posted January 10, 2010 No, no, no... Again, Ella -- You had a bad experience with One Bad Egg, came here to get it validated, and misconstrued a handful of comments without fully accepting the majority of those people who were trying to tell you otherwise. It is not that you are lucky - it is that you are experiencing how MOST kind, thoughtful, considerate people are and react. You are now getting validation from the one person you needed it from and in that, we are glad for you. But the validation truly has to come from within and that may take years to occur fully. Be patient with yourself and revel in the new found acceptance you are receiving, but please, PLEASE remember that ultimately, YOU are the one who has to believe you are beautiful for who you are; 100% Perfect or 100% Flawed. I would still heartily recommend counseling as you obviously still have a lot of issues to deal with and they are not going to magically go away because you have acceptance in the arms of one lover. They have to come from within. I'm going to start counselling soon. I know that will make me a lot more comfortable about myself. I meant that I have no idea if his reaction was to be expected or not. And that I hope that he actually thinks that my boobs aren't ugly. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 I'm going to start counselling soon. I know that will make me a lot more comfortable about myself. I meant that I have no idea if his reaction was to be expected or not. And that I hope that he actually thinks that my boobs aren't ugly. This whole thing was in your head, the entire time. You put yourself through all of this. In general, guys really don't care if your boobs sag. We know that big boobs sag! SadandConfused - this is not the exception, this is the rule. Guys like her ex are the exception and I hate that he made her ashamed of her big, beautiful breasts. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 This whole thing was in your head, the entire time. You put yourself through all of this. In general, guys really don't care if your boobs sag. We know that big boobs sag! SadandConfused - this is not the exception, this is the rule. Guys like her ex are the exception and I hate that he made her ashamed of her big, beautiful breasts. Phateless, just want to thank you for your support and postivity. Ella is now v. happy and I am probably not going to have surgery. You are a lovely guy to take your time to help us Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Share Posted January 10, 2010 Phateless, just want to thank you for your support and postivity. Ella is now v. happy and I am probably not going to have surgery. You are a lovely guy to take your time to help us Like I said, it's good that you're getting a consultation with a surgeon. Surgery or no surgery, hope you feel better about yourself. I do feel good now but I still need to work on some issues. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 Like I said, it's good that you're getting a consultation with a surgeon. Surgery or no surgery, hope you feel better about yourself. I do feel good now but I still need to work on some issues. Well I bought some bikinis today by Freya and they fit nicely although I had to get 34F rather than 36E. For some reason a good bra is easier to find than a good bikini (top). Link to post Share on other sites
DiscoChick Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 STOP BEING YOUR OWN PERSONAL COCK-BLOCKER. Epic. I didn't even have to read anymore after this post. I'm glad I read this. I'm going to quote your exact words to my cousin. She kinda has the same problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 Phateless, just want to thank you for your support and postivity. Ella is now v. happy and I am probably not going to have surgery. You are a lovely guy to take your time to help us Aww, you're welcome! I'm glad to hear that you're reconsidering. Honestly, I LOVE big boobs and it just breaks my heart to think that you might be ashamed of them. One of my close friends feels the same way, and the ironic thing is that when I first saw her I thought, "WOW! I would LOVE to get my hands on those babies..." lol. Love your big breasts, because I know that I would! Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted January 10, 2010 Share Posted January 10, 2010 I I meant that I have no idea if his reaction was to be expected or not. What Carrie is telling you is that his reaction WAS to be expected. More people are thoughtful and accepting, and wouldnt see your boobs as a problem. You switched your view of the world based on ONE GUY, and thats not the way it is. It is actually the opposite. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 11, 2010 Author Share Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) What Carrie is telling you is that his reaction WAS to be expected. More people are thoughtful and accepting, and wouldnt see your boobs as a problem. You switched your view of the world based on ONE GUY, and thats not the way it is. It is actually the opposite. Not on the basis of one guy's opinion, but it's possible that I overestimated the likelihood of getting dumped again. Epic. I didn't even have to read anymore after this post. I'm glad I read this. I'm going to quote your exact words to my cousin. She kinda has the same problem. Yeah, it is kind of funny lol. Well I bought some bikinis today by Freya and they fit nicely although I had to get 34F rather than 36E. For some reason a good bra is easier to find than a good bikini (top) yeah, finding good swimwear is a hassle. I went to buy bras from La Senza but the fitting was mostly quite bad. Edited January 11, 2010 by ella23 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 11, 2010 Author Share Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) Well I bought some bikinis today by Freya and they fit nicely although I had to get 34F rather than 36E. For some reason a good bra is easier to find than a good bikini (top) yeah, finding good swimwear is a hassle. I went to buy bras from La Senza but didn't really like what they had. Edited January 11, 2010 by ella23 Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 11, 2010 Share Posted January 11, 2010 yeah, finding good swimwear is a hassle. I went to buy bras from La Senza but didn't really like what they had. I know. I spent about 5 hours yesterday trying on bikinis and bought these 2 - they looked the best for saggy and/or large boobs: Exibit A (I don't like the white on this one but boobs look hot and perky): http://www.bellaforma.com.au/shop/Stellar-Plunge-Bikini-Top-pr-17511.html Exibit B (This ties around the neck so it kind of hurts after a while since my boobs are heavy but looks great as a bikini set) http://www.storminadcup.com.au/atomic-halter-bikini-p-1105.html?cp=114 I am not sure what bands you have available in the UK, otherwise I would recommend some good bras. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 11, 2010 Author Share Posted January 11, 2010 I know. I spent about 5 hours yesterday trying on bikinis and bought these 2 - they looked the best for saggy and/or large boobs: Exibit A (I don't like the white on this one but boobs look hot and perky): http://www.bellaforma.com.au/shop/Stellar-Plunge-Bikini-Top-pr-17511.html Exibit B (This ties around the neck so it kind of hurts after a while since my boobs are heavy but looks great as a bikini set) http://www.storminadcup.com.au/atomic-halter-bikini-p-1105.html?cp=114 I am not sure what bands you have available in the UK, otherwise I would recommend some good bras. Link me to some good ones online if you can. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 11, 2010 Share Posted January 11, 2010 OK, tell me your preferences first: Do you like white, black, beige or colored? Do you prefer a plain bra or do you like lace? There are different bras that will look good under say t-shirts, different for low cut tops and dresses and different again for lingarae or just before sex. Some can multi-task though. What do you think you will need it for the most? I can recommend for pretty much any of these options or a combination of options. I have been at it for years Link to post Share on other sites
sugar_and_spice Posted January 11, 2010 Share Posted January 11, 2010 Not on the basis of one guy's opinion, but it's possible that I overestimated the likelihood of getting dumped again. he was the one who made you insecure. otherwise would you have ever considered staying single forever? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 11, 2010 Author Share Posted January 11, 2010 he was the one who made you insecure. otherwise would you have ever considered staying single forever? It obviously started because of him. I took a long time to get over what he said, and am still getting over it. Being with my new boyfriend is helping a lot, if that makes sense. OK, tell me your preferences first: Do you like white, black, beige or colored? Do you prefer a plain bra or do you like lace? There are different bras that will look good under say t-shirts, different for low cut tops and dresses and different again for lingarae or just before sex. Some can multi-task though. What do you think you will need it for the most? I can recommend for pretty much any of these options or a combination of options. I have been at it for years lol, I generally buy the same stuff from the same brands, so I'm looking for something new. Black, white or coloured. Preferably plain but I don't mind lace. I have enough t-shirt bras, something for the other things you mentioned, multitask or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ella23 Posted January 11, 2010 Author Share Posted January 11, 2010 Someone recommended a counsellor to me and I am going to take an appointment. I still need counselling I guess? Would it look like I have too much emotional baggage to my boyfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 11, 2010 Share Posted January 11, 2010 I think he would see that as you taking a positive step in trying to improve your self-confidence and dealing with problems so that they do not come between you again in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 11, 2010 Share Posted January 11, 2010 It obviously started because of him. I took a long time to get over what he said, and am still getting over it. Being with my new boyfriend is helping a lot, if that makes sense. lol, I generally buy the same stuff from the same brands, so I'm looking for something new. Black, white or coloured. Preferably plain but I don't mind lace. I have enough t-shirt bras, something for the other things you mentioned, multitask or not. Ok got you Let me have a look and I will get back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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