unknown Posted June 19, 2000 Share Posted June 19, 2000 I am having trouble getting aroused enough for sex, whereas, my boyfriend seems to be totally into it. I want to do it, but for some reason, I just can't get into it. Also, there always seems to be distractions, such as people walking around, whenever we start. Is there something wrong with me? Is there anything that I can do to help myself to become more aroused? I really want to be able to have enjoyable sex. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Dade Posted June 19, 2000 Share Posted June 19, 2000 Maybe you and your boyfriend should get togethet somewhere where there is no people walking around, because, it is distracting sometimes for some people, especially for women. Ask your boyfriend to learn more about female erogenous zones....to use his tongue properly....all the good stuff.... tell him what you like Link to post Share on other sites
magicklady Posted June 19, 2000 Share Posted June 19, 2000 People walking by can be a distraction.. but it can also be exciting as well if you think you might be caught it can add something to sex... It sounds like you are just not really aroused by your partner.. so it is not the actual act that you are having a hard time with you... just don't want to do it deep down and so you are not getting excited... This happens to everyone... tell him what you like and if you are still not able to preform maybe you should go and see your doctor about it... Link to post Share on other sites
Wiser Woman Posted June 19, 2000 Share Posted June 19, 2000 Some questions: Can't you find a place without distractions? Have you had any enjoyable experiences with this guy at all? Does thinking about sex with him turn you on? Is he experienced at all? Clumsy? Trying too hard? What?? Are you experienced at all? Are you both each other's "first"? While sex in a semi-public or public place can be the ultimate turn on it seems that it isn't for you at this point. The risk of getting "caught" just adds to the thrill of it all. But for you right now, I would suggest to him that you find a place you BOTH feel comfortable in. Do you always feel this way with this guy or have there been times when it was enjoyable for both of you? Just some questions and thoughts that might help one of us here help you..... Link to post Share on other sites
Again Posted June 21, 2000 Share Posted June 21, 2000 Well, I used to have this same problem. And I will tell you honestly, the problem ended up being I was with the wrong guy, we had too many emotional problems to start to begin me being comfertable enough to get aroused by him.. although of course he was. My advice to you, make sure it is exactly what you want with him, make sure you are relaxed.. and most of all, make sure it's the right thing for your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Posted June 26, 2000 Share Posted June 26, 2000 I am having trouble getting aroused enough for sex, whereas, my boyfriend seems to be totally into it. I want to do it, but for some reason, I just can't get into it. Also, there always seems to be distractions, such as people walking around, whenever we start. Is there something wrong with me? Is there anything that I can do to help myself to become more aroused? I really want to be able to have enjoyable sex. Please help. Does your boyfriend get in to foreplay, or does he just go for it? That could be one problem - this is often an issue between men and women. Also - Try doing it elsewhere - where there aren't people around. And unfortunately there could be one more problem - Has it occurred to you that maybe you want it, but with someone else! Perhaps you just don't feel the passion for your current man anymore...it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts