RedDevil66 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 NO, that is NOT what I said. I was disgusted in my actions and I was not PROUD that I hurt people with my horrible/love life behavior. I don't come on a message board boasting about how many married men I screw. See the difference? Now don't keep twisting my words and focus on how you hurt others with your bragging about your cheating This should read "LOW life behaviour" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary3 Posted December 18, 2009 Author Share Posted December 18, 2009 Whoooaaaa... ME???? hurting who exactly???? It's the opposite actually.. if you read my previous posts... I am extremely careful with my MMs... I don't want to hurt their family... unlike other people who kiss and then tell (for revenge).. this is NOT my style. It is clear from the start that I will NOT contact them unless they want me to... that there will be no commitment.. etc..etc.. I think their Ws are 'safer' with me than any other OWs.. honestly.. Lizzie have you had a lot of relationships with single men ? How long have you lived this OW lifestyle ? Not knocking you at all but I find this care free sex life is a sign ( can be ) of a deeper problem. ( Meaning I used to be more free~er but not with married men , the feeling you can cast them away and have no deep feelings , one day you get tired of being in this sexual lifestyle...) You're very funny and I am not trying to be judgemental but I fooled myself for awhile and one day got tired of being the FWB only because it was disrespectful to my body... You may feel entirely differently. But the sex was a soothing balm for a wounded soul, for me, at least , anyway.... Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 NO, that is NOT what I said. I was disgusted in my actions and I was not PROUD that I hurt people with my horrible/love life behavior. I don't come on a message board boasting about how many married men I screw. See the difference? Now don't keep twisting my words and focus on how you hurt others with your bragging about your cheating If we are going to set things straight, I do not brag about my affair (which incidentally is not cheating, since I am single and have nobody to cheat on). Point me to one post where I have bragged about my affair. Being unapologetic is not the same as bragging. I do understand that my MM's wife is being hurt by our relationship. This is not something I find any joy in. It is an unfortunate consequence of my MM's indecision. Just as I too suffer the consequences of his indecision. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) Mary: Lizzie have you had a lot of relationships with single men ? Yes I did.. and still have... How long have you lived this OW lifestyle ? I've been single for the last 7 years now... and loving every single minute of it.. and let me tell you.. a lot of MM out there and even women are envying my lifestyle.. Not knocking you at all but I find this care free sex life is a sign ( can be ) of a deeper problem. ( Meaning I used to be more free~er but not with married men , the feeling you can cast them away and have no deep feelings , one day you get tired of being in this sexual lifestyle...) Maybe.. but I know a loooot of people who are married.. and have much much deeper problems than I have.. I've been in relationships most of my life.. now I'm enjoying my freedom... it's all about ME..ME..ME.. who wouldn't want that.. You're very funny and I am not trying to be judgemental but I fooled myself for awhile and one day got tired of being the FWB only because it was disrespectful to my body... I honestly don't have the same point of view.. I'm good to my body.. I take good care of myself... Is giving your body pleasure disrespectful? I don't think so.. You may feel entirely differently. But the sex was a soothing balm for a wounded soul, for me, at least , anyway.... Not for me.. I was in a deep depression.. now I'm well.. and enjoying myself.. life is too short ... I don't want to live as per others' morals.. I have my own set of values.. and sex with other human beings.. is within my 'norm'... I don't put a gun to their heads.. Those men do NOT belong to their W... they aren't objects... I'm not hurting anyone.. in fact.. I have the deep conviction that 'cheating' can be good to a M... especially for those women who withhold sex and who think he'll be OK with it.. and will abide by 'her schedule'... (which is, in most cases.. about 10-15 times a year).. In my case, 10-15 times is a slow week.. They (Ws) don't know about it.. the MMs are happy at home.. are even nicer to their Ws.. no more fights for sex.. no more feeling like he has to beg all the time.. everyone's happy. Edited December 18, 2009 by Lizzie60 Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 To me a mistress is a lady friend that a married man has behind his wifes back. And when I say lady friend.. I mean a lady in which he shares an emotional connection with.. that's inappropriate. Now they could be having sex too.. which would also make this lady friend the MM's mistress. Key here.. female relationship that is inappropriate in nature behind wifes back. I think I made my point. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary3 Posted December 18, 2009 Author Share Posted December 18, 2009 Lizzie I was very sad after my breakup and took on much of the role you are talking about . ( Well minus them being married ) I guess what I mean by disrespectful to your body is : Spreading your legs for a guy who is going to get off and then get off ( if you know what I mean ) That never felt good lying alone in bed at night after that occured. However once I stopped doing that and I slept pretty well at night . Weeks turned into months and month turned into years where the wild lifestyle had once ruled my life was gone.... I would rather be celibate or find someone who loves me to give my body to. Thats the way it works for me now. ALL or Nothing. No more :" Hey do you wanna hang out ? ( um no ) Hey come over and keep me warm ( uh no ) . "I am not referring to a real relationship but rather someone who is calling you looking for a piece of booty. I do get the pleasure principal. I would discuss more of that in the Sex Forum. Rather than here where anyone can see... Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 A mistress to me is a lover a married man keeps while he is planning to stay married, with no thoughts of choosing between the mistress and the wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Nubian Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 I really pity a women who settles for crumbs when she can have the steak, lobster, salad, and baked potato to....Im a happily single Diva and i've had married men approach me before but ill never go for it... My definition of a mistress is a woman who should STAY a mystery no one should know you, care to know you, or want to know you ,stay in your place which is to get lied to, allways get leftovers, have worthless unmeaningful sex, and spend your holidays alone, and dont ask him questions only his wife has the right to do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 What would be the equivalent word for a man who is with a married lover? Consort? Escort? Paramour? Any opinions on this? Should we head for the dictionary? Link to post Share on other sites
theBrokenMuse Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 When someone refers to the term Mistress I tend to think of a woman who has a sexual relationship with married man that is helping to provide financially for her household. Link to post Share on other sites
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