husband got the hots for coworker

[brenbren]

Hi guys, I am having trouble with my emotions regarding my husband and a female coworker. My husband and I both know I get jealous easy. He was teasing my with this girl at work that she flirts and is getting rather close to him lately and he feels that her reputation might be overstated. over the last few months he has commented on this girl how sexy she is and how good she looks in lingerie (Melbourne cup parade) I did get jealous but I had no idea what was ahead of me.

 

My housekeeping skills aren't that great but I do try, my husband is a perfectionist and he started on me one night. saying I have to improve on myself housework and also I have a weight problem I need to lose about 15kg. He feels I did not love him anymore due to lack of doing housework and trying to improve myself I have been saying this for the last five years after baby no two.

 

He then decides to tell me that he really likes this girl and she has propositioned him to come home with him etc. She brushes up against him says things like ***** I love you, has smoke breaks, calls him darling and gets excited when she sees him. She asked him out for drinks he didn't go. Askes him if his wife is coming to the xmas party and is relieved when told no. I just feel like I was his only love interest and that no one would catch his eyes how gullible am I. He is a very good communicater and gets along with the females probably better than males. He flirts which I hate but I don't even think about anyone else but him. I am really hurt. the funny thing is was a week after our fight he got retrenched due to him wanting them to let him go as there were work related things happening to. I am so happy he has nothing to do with that place. One thing I am still worried about is he did not get to say goodbye and he told me one day he will get to say goodbye? He's looking for another job good but I still feel this subject is not closed. what do u guys think?

that night we argued I got so angry with him I hit him with the mop (lol) and scratched him I feel bad about that but even though he didn't do anything I felt betrayed

[Skittles]

He then decides to tell me that he really likes this girl and she has propositioned him to come home with him etc. She brushes up against him says things like ***** I love you, has smoke breaks, calls him darling and gets excited when she sees him. ...

 

 

Hi bren,

 

..... .......... It sounds to me like your husband doesn't give a fig about your feelings.

 

The fact that he is carrying on with this girl, then telling you about it ! makes me think he is not only an immature player with an ego problem, but doesn't think much how about your feelings.

 

And just because he was retrenched doesn't mean he won't figure out ways to see her.

 

It doesn't sound like an easy road ahead...Imo, taking steps to preserve your self-esteem is mandatory.

 

As far as your marriage, get expert guidance.

 

 

I wish you luck.

[HurtinginVA]

Wow, I cant believe he is telling you these things but then it is better than him hiding it from you.....I would suggest counseling of some sort ASAP!

 

I think housekeeping and weight issues are just cop outs and there is something more there. I am going through a mess of things right now because I didnt pay attention to the little signs that my hubby was giving me and now wishing that I had acted a lot sooner, for now, it may be too late!

 

Take action, maybe go to that xmas party? Hang in there, and best of luck to you!

[brenbren]

Hi guys, thanks for the advice. He was banned from the Christmas Party I don't know why? I know I sound sad but if anything happens with him and whoever you know I have calmed down and if it happens it happens. I am going to get help but you know I think I need to take care of my own head and then our relationship. I am a jealous person like alot of women but I am strong and I won't let him tease me and get my head all twisted and mixed up.

I love him heaps and he loves me. Since our arguments he has offered to spend alot of time leaving the kids with grandparents and taking a walk along the beach, going for swim in lagoon, I appreciate as much feedback.

I feel that I am going to look out for me and of course my kids but I will give as much as he gives. Talking about this has helped heaps and I am not going to give up to a #$%*!! 23 year old waitress.

I am a beautiful, loving, devoted wife and mother and I will not feel like dirt again, but it still hurts things that were said. believe me Im not perfect either but I have my morals and I know what is important in my life. Keep up the comments and advice any ideas to do with him to keep him interested and myself too.hear from you soon.