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[purpleone]

hi,

 

i dont know what to do. im a 25 yr old female. when i was 22 i almost died in an accident and lost my mobility and ability to walk, i also developed heart problems from the accident because of a chest injury.

now ive never heard of this but maybe injuries and a new vulnerability make people come after you and tear you up how a wolf would? does being injured invite abuse?

because as soon as i came home from the hospital to my parents house. they forced me to live at home till the injury. so i was in no condition to work, if using the bathroom,changing clothes and brushing my own hair were hard.

as soon as i got into the door my father changed into a different person and hasnt changed since. he became a sick psychopath with a big fury and rage after me. he would scream at me every day 10-60 times a day while i was lying helpless on the couch trying to recover and learn to walk again. he would walk by me aqnd make a mean remark or make fun of me for being disabled from the injury.he would put me down 15 times a day and begin to make scary threats towards me ,my safety and life. it never stopped. he would explode at me and scream and curse at me every day. he would make fun of me when i couldnt get down the steps fast enough and he would call the cops on me if i didnt move out of the way fast enough or get down the steps on time. he used the cops to discipline me in my time of need and this scares me alot. i could have died even after the hospital. i had to see specialists.i was still supposed to take it easy

then one time when i was trying to get to a doctor apointment my father who is 5 times my size. im 5"3 AND I weigh about 130 and i have weak muscles and a brittle bone condition which is rare at my aGE BUT WHAT I HAVE. HE IS 6 FEET TALL WEIGHTS MORE THAN 350 POUNDS. i tried to get to an apointment and to prevent me from leaving he beat me up and left bruises all over me and broke my sternum

he called the cops on me after he hurt me and of course lied to them and they wouldnt let me press charges. they wouldnt even help me get medical attention. i had to wait a month to get any medical test to find out the sternum was broken.

 

as time went by and more abuse happened from my father i sunk into a depression and felt worthless and didnt care if i lived or died anymore. i was so afraid of my father and he tormented and harrassed anyone who stepped in to help me.he know i was homebound and couldnt leave home because of trouble walking so he decided to prevent anyone from sending me food. he likes to starve me

all i wanted was to get well and heal and get my mobility bac and have peace so that i could go to college and make a better life for myself.

i also started to develope stockholm syndrome. no matter how much damage he did to me. i started to believe he loved and cared about me no matter how many beatings there were or how many days i passed out cause he refused to let anyone send me food.i know it sounds dumb but many women believe their abusers do care about them because they wish they did, it what they expect from the other person but its a cover up or hope for the future.

i thought that when i was near death and devastated and in pain and still young and in time of need my own parents would care abouut me. but it was the opposite. my entire family started to tear me apart and scream at me and abandon me and make me feel worthless. the only one left who actually cared about me was my little sister who was 17 at the time. she would come home from highschool worried about me alot and sometimes she would defend me from my father and hide me if he called the cops on me.

remember he would call the cops only if i didnt do exactly what he said and when or if i cried from the pain too loudly. my entire ribcage was broken and i suffered back and chest trauma and internal bleeding. there is no human on this planet who would not be screaming in pain for weeks unless they are on morphine or on some illegal drugs. its more painful than childbirth from what ive been told.

so cause he was annoyed and didnt prefer the noise when i was crying. he would run and get his cell phone and report me to 911 and make up some lie that i was dissrupting his house.

 

i waS IN SUCH BAD CONDITION THAT IT TOOK ME 2 HOURS MANY TIMES TO GET DOWN A SMALL FLIGHT OF STAIRS IN THE HOME. i had to learn to use the toiler differently becausee i couldnt bend to sit down. dressing and showeing took me 10 times as long but i managed on my own. my parents did nothing for me. my sister would order me dinner and bring it up the steps to me each night. no one cooked and it was me alone at night with my 17 yr old sister. we lived off takeout food and my parents were always out somewhere at night and my other sister was either out with friends or locked in her room

basically even tho i was injured i was like a parent to my 17 yr old sister.when i began to feel better and was able to get down the steps i helped her with her home work and was the adult in the house. she would come to me with questions a teen would normally ask a parent. including health concerns,school questions and college application

very disfunctional family

and even tho things wer crazy in my family. i became very deprsssed and unable to realize all of it. becaus of how my father treated me.

the yelling was contsant. he never missed a day verbally abusing me. and he would harras my sister because she was trying to help me. he didnt like anyone helping me.

he would threaten to put me in jail for simple things like crying from pain or taking too long to walk to a taxi from the house. i was using a walker and couldnt bend myy arms a certain way and i would lost my balance half the time i tried to stand without holding onto something.

 

i remained disabled for a looong time. for years. till now it was only a few months ago that i was able to stand without losin g my balance and not at a 90 degree angle anymore. i can actually stand almost upright now and i barely lose my balance now. now i lose my balance about 6 times a month instead of 6 times an hour.

 

but i have severe chronic pain now and im now able to lift my arms a certain way now and i do not have my mobility back yet and i still have the heart problems that are getting worse now. i fainted 2 times in the last 2 months in public places. it was awfully embarrasing. i tried to go to a large department store for the first time since before the accident. and i started to feel sick after walking around too much, the room was spinning and i fell down near a customer and some lady rushed to help me and they almost called an ambulance for me. the store employees had to keep an eye on me and bring me juice till i felt well enough to go home. all because i decided to try to walk around a target store which is kind of large. it

so i am really scared and would like suupport from relatived right now since im only 25 im not married yet. i have only one family made up of 4 sisters and 2 parents. but they have no human emotion

 

my whole family changed and went bonkers after my accident.

they dont care if i live or die

thats how they treat me.i get no birthday or holiday gifts from them

my famil does not celebrate birthdays or holidays or thanksgiving. i dont even get dinner some years on thanksgiving and other years i eat chocolate bars for dinner on thanksgiving.

and yes we are american , all born here in the usa

 

my father got angry a few years ago when my sister dared to ask him if she can buy holiday gifts for the family.

he does not like peace,harmony or happiness with any family members.

 

he is a narcissist and he is like an overgrown 2 yr old who asks for attention all the time. he also likes to cause problems that didnt exhist.

 

anyhow fast forward 2 years to about a year ago and my sister lost her marbles because she started teaming up with my father and on her own and going after me. she began to beat me with objects and tell me to commit suicide and threaten and curse at me. she would get very violent to me and spit at me and throw food at me and beat mee with furniture

 

im scared of her and my father. my mother lunged after me a few weeks ago with a glass jar. but she has bipolar disorder which is guess is the reason she has violent outbursts.

 

anyhow its good when m family ignores me because then i dont get hit or beaten

 

but i wish i had a family. someone who cared about me more than a normal operson, someone to give me hugs

 

my family does not care about me. they threaten my life at this point

 

yes i know at 18 they can toss me oonto the street or ahrge me rent. but its not fair what happened to me. im a good kid, always was, and a kind person, never did drugs or smokes or drank alchohol, i worked hard in school and got good grades. im a kind and generous chartitable personb but i never learned to love myself

 

how can i love myself when im getting hit all the time. i must be a pretty bad person to deserve to get hit?

i dont know what to do.

 

it sounds like a desperate situation and if you havent had this crazy of a family before people would say call police

 

but im scared of having no one and being alone and passing out and in bad health. i have no friends and throuout my life im unable to make friends. i had selective mutism 90% of my life which is a case of severe shyness to a point its a social disability. i have severe social phobia and social anxiety. so im terrified of meeting new people or even opening my mouth in sociaL SITUATIONs or joining social situations

 

theres no way i can make or keep friends. i severely lack social skills. i never have made a friend not even in elementary school

 

if i left my family there would be no one else. and i cant afford to be on my own in poor health

 

goverment agencies are the worst.99% of institutions or nursing homes in the us have abuse. adult protective services tried to have me locked up for life cause someone reported abuse. if i do take legal action i need a lawyer. im not asking about that. no one has hit me in 2 months

no they didnt try to lock me in jail. they tried to put me into a lifetime facilityy for mentally handicapped people. i dont need that cause im not mentally handicapped.

i wouuld get a job if i could but i cant. i have not recuuperated yet. i still have health problems. mobilit trouble and chornic pain.

 

even if i was 1000 miles from my family id be miserable. so im not missing out on anything

 

im just very sad that i have no family and that a small accident that was not my fault cost me my family and my dignity and health

 

as a cancerian, i was born in july 3 things matter the most for me. thats health,family and life purpose

 

sofar all of those are gone.

 

even when i go out people in a store or on the street, they dont care about me they dont love me. i want a family

 

my family was somewhat normal before my accident and now they are not and do not like me. my sisters and i used to be very close.im one of 5 girls. we were a tight knit group and now they all threaten me and get violent and harras me and make fun of me

 

this has to stop and my father is a big threat, he plots against me every dayy

 

im also not allowed to leave because my father went to court against me and got legal control of me even tho im 25. so if i do anything against what he says or try to leave the cops can force me to come back to him or they can arrest me. he lied to court to get legal control of me. no one is supposed to have legal control of me since im an adult. and thats one more thing i have to deal with

my father refuses to talk to me in more than 3 years, all he will do is threaten me and scream at me.

 

there is no hope in getting him to stop. i have to make some kind of plan and be creative

 

my parents have become very materialistic and do not care about me

 

im just ver scared about my health and need family support right now. maybe im a big baby and am scared but im in no condition to just take off and maybe be found dead somewhere alone in an apartment or go into some nursing home where ill be abuused and drugged by strangers.

 

if i had a daughter who was in her 20s and was not well and scared about her health i would let her stay with me and i wouuld be concerned and supportive of her

my parent never took me to one doctor appoiintment. ive had to do everything on my own.

 

my parents are acting like psyychopaths, not caring about their own child

 

i know im an adult now but even at any age a parent should care if a child lives or dies or is well. they do not care