dgiirl Posted December 19, 2009 Share Posted December 19, 2009 I'm seeing more and more of a trend of posters getting bashed simply because they are on the "other side". In this case, we are finally getting a few walkaway's looking for advice, and they are getting bashed and chased out by a few as soon as they walk in the door. You might not like them, you might not respect their decisions for leaving or their behavior, but they do deserve respect. The fact that they are even looking for advice shows that they are making efforts in their marriage. If you cannot offer any objective advice, even advice from "your side", then don't post! If you keep an open mind, you might be able to learn from their stories. You might be able to understand more why your husband or wife just walked out the door. You might be able to reflect on your own roles in the marriage, or it might even help you come to peace about the end of the marriage. Listening to both sides might even help save a marriage. But if you can't keep an open mind, then others can, so don't chase them out! Loveshack has specific forums for different sections. I strongly believe that OW/OM section should not post on the Marriage section just to stir up trouble and vice versa. However, being in the divorce and separated section, we're going to have to learn to live peacefully with both betrayed spouses and wayward spouses. If a post angers you so much, but you have absolutely no constructive objective advice to offer, then stop reading. Don't toss out insults or generalities. Not all betrayed spouses are bitter and not all wayward spouses are making the biggest mistake of their lives and will live to regret it. No matter how much we want that to be true, it simply is not always the case. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted December 19, 2009 Share Posted December 19, 2009 Good post Dgiirl. I agree 100% Everyone is welcome to post their opinions even if they are not popular, so long as those opinions are posted responsibly. There has been a lot of bashing and bullying of all types of posters recently and that has run a lot of good people off. If folks don't like whats going on in a particular thread, there are plenty to choose from. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
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