Moving into the basement today....

[tnttim]

Put yourself and his shoes. Do think this guys gives a rat's as* about your opinion. I know you are angry and bitter, but what does this accomplish long term? Will this build a bridge or help keep it down?

 

Face facts dude you have to deal with this women for the rest of your life. You have kids with her and this is how you are still reacting more than a year and half later. Wake the fck up and grow a pair for your kids sake. You are and always will be a MAN, lets act like one. You have to let this go or you will be stuck in this quick sand you created. You are surprised your W acts like a crazy btch around you, really. Have you ever thought that it is in response to how you are acting? People have a defense mechanism built inside of them, and it's all done unconsciously, fight or flight. You are coming off offensive and she is using her defense mechanism.

 

It's really that simple, let it go.

 

you have two tigers fighting in your brain acceptance and revenge, the one who wins the fight is the one you feed more.

[2.50 a gallon]

Do not send him the letter. It will just throw jet fuel on this scums ego

 

He does not care one penny about you or your children

[Nomad1]

By writing an email to this man, you make yourself appear pitiful and powerless. I don't understand why some men are prepared to fight for women who betrayed them and their families! You know where it is heading no matter what you do. Take the reins now, divorce, sell the house and be happy! Because, that is what will happen anyway! If you do it, you will feel in control of your life. Life is too precious to waste one more day on this! Get your priorities right! Career, finances, health, then of course the children will benefit. Life is simple. People complicate it by being sentimental!

 

Good luck

[tnttim]

. I don't understand why some men are prepared to fight for women who betrayed them and their families!

 

Reasons:

 

1. Revenge
   
2. Wants them to feel sorry for him
   
3. Justification
   
4. When things get screwed up he can I told you so
   

[confusedinky]

Tim,

 

I actually came on tonight to start a new thread called, "why can't I grow a pair?"... in business and in most other aspects of my life up until now that has never been a problem for me. I don't know why I can't cut the cord.... I keep saying it's for my kids but you guys are right, this isn't healthy for them either. June 1st, house goes on the market.

[Gunny376]

I've actually seen guys watch the kids as their wives went out on dates with the OM. I've witnessed another do so and cook for both the soon to be X and the OM?

I've over the course of my life seen and witnessed some really stange ****e!

 

This appeasement crap doesn't work, never has worked, and is never going to work! This scumbucket doesn't give a damn about you, your confused wife, nor your DS!

 

If your going to send his happy @zz a letter ~ then send the following!

 

"Dear Dirt Bag!

 

This is to let you know that I've enrolled you in the 3-6-12 Medical Plan! Free of charge!

 

That is to say its going to take three doctors, six nurses, working twelve hours to get my foot out of your @zz!"

 

Sincerly yours,

 

confusedinky

[confusedinky]

Thanks Gunny! I'll just copy and paste that if you don't mind! I guess I knew it wouldn't do anything which is why I didn't send it when I wrote it. Wife and I have been communicating a little better lately, she knows I plan on putting the house up on June 1st... so one day at a time and keep moving forward.