Should I Pick Him Up from the Airport?

[thisismystory]

The thread topic seems like a rhetorical question as the obvious answer should be yes, right?

 

I'm 4months into my LDR and the 13-hr difference is finally coming to an end (although we do go to college in different states). However, the whole time he was studying abroad, I feel unappreciated and forgotten. I have talked to him about it several times and he did make some effort initially. But as finals approached, he disappeared again. That is understandable, as I am busy too.

 

I also know know he's not a phone person. Yet I still can't help but feel he was being rude the last time we talked on the phone. He interrupts me or puts me down...or he just plains doesn't speak but murmurs. (I told him he sounded like he was constipating on the phone).

 

He's visiting Hong Kong for a few days before he returns to the States but he hasn't contacted me at all.

 

I'm a bit upset and contemplating whether I should pick him up from the airport. I feel I'm putting way more effort into this and if I pick him up from the airport, I'm ok with how rude and unappreciative he's been to me.

 

I know I should be more understanding and less angry. Can someone put some sense into me? I just need someone to tell me to calm down.

[an hero]

Yes .

[hoping2heal]

The thread topic seems like a rhetorical question as the obvious answer should be yes, right?

 

I'm 4months into my LDR and the 13-hr difference is finally coming to an end (although we do go to college in different states). However, the whole time he was studying abroad, I feel unappreciated and forgotten. I have talked to him about it several times and he did make some effort initially. But as finals approached, he disappeared again. That is understandable, as I am busy too.

 

I also know know he's not a phone person. Yet I still can't help but feel he was being rude the last time we talked on the phone. He interrupts me or puts me down...or he just plains doesn't speak but murmurs. (I told him he sounded like he was constipating on the phone).

 

He's visiting Hong Kong for a few days before he returns to the States but he hasn't contacted me at all.

 

I'm a bit upset and contemplating whether I should pick him up from the airport. I feel I'm putting way more effort into this and if I pick him up from the airport, I'm ok with how rude and unappreciative he's been to me.

 

I know I should be more understanding and less angry. Can someone put some sense into me? I just need someone to tell me to calm down.

 

Someone who interrupts you when you are trying to speak and puts you down? This isn't going to go anywhere pleasant. He was already setting the tone to mistreat you when he became thoughtless about you and your feelings and would just be "nowhere to be found". He's busy? He's got exams? Not an excuse, so not an excuse. When you treat it like it's a good excuse- like it's okay- justifiable, the person across will use that as liscence to walk all over you. Which is what he is doing. You need to start standing up for yourself.

[TaraMaiden]

Yes.

 

No.

Not unless he asks you to.

Then ask him...

"I dunno....I'm asking myself whether you're worth it."

 

So....

 

Still 'no'.

[Maggs]

Hmmm...sounds like he's being a bit of an ar$e to me. I wouldn't say anything about it unless he asked you to. He'll either be disappointed (and hopefully be nice afterward) or he won't really care--then kick him to the curb I'd say! Not excuse for being impolite and rude to you, you are supposed to be his girlfriend after all!