When a guy starts buying Expensive Items ?

[PHMustang2000]

This is really upsetting me. My ex who I was with for 3 1/2 years, is now dating her high school sweetheart who she dated for 6 years. Anyway even before they set a first date she finds out he bought a $400 ring. So my ex goes out and buys a ring as well. Now tonight was the actual first date. When I get on the phone I barely get 1 minute. She said he bought her $800 of Jewelery. :mad: I told her "Why?" She responds with "Because He Loves Me". Before I could tell her what I thought about it I got disconnected.

 

Is this a red flag.

 

FYI: I had to move because of financial reasons, to pay off my debt. This guy knows why I moved and I think is trying to the negative of our relationship and turn it around on her so she thinks less of me or something.

[Lucky_One]

A red flag for what?

 

The biggest thing I think you need to see is that she is your XGF and that she is dating someone else.

 

Red flags are warnings of impending disaster or danger. The only red flag I see is that you are going to stay as involved with her and her new/old BF to the detriment of being able to move on in your own life.

[bittersweet memories]

This is really upsetting me. My ex who I was with for 3 1/2 years, is now dating her high school sweetheart who she dated for 6 years. Anyway even before they set a first date she finds out he bought a $400 ring. So my ex goes out and buys a ring as well. Now tonight was the actual first date. When I get on the phone I barely get 1 minute. She said he bought her $800 of Jewelery. :mad: I told her "Why?" She responds with "Because He Loves Me". Before I could tell her what I thought about it I got disconnected.

 

Is this a red flag.

 

FYI: I had to move because of financial reasons, to pay off my debt. This guy knows why I moved and I think is trying to the negative of our relationship and turn it around on her so she thinks less of me or something.

 

I don't see a red flag.. Didn't you post something similar on another post on this very subject.

 

Isn't the ring because she is getting married. she's moved on and I suggest you do the same. I know it hurt but you are only making it worse for you.

[harmfulsweetz]

I don't think it really matters to you does it? What I mean is, she's an ex, end of responsibility towards her. Move forward with your life, instead of dwelling.

[tryagaintoday]

I like Mustang too. But when you sold your old car, why do you still care what turbo booster it is being installed with by the new owner?

[hoping2heal]

This is really upsetting me. My ex who I was with for 3 1/2 years, is now dating her high school sweetheart who she dated for 6 years. Anyway even before they set a first date she finds out he bought a $400 ring. So my ex goes out and buys a ring as well. Now tonight was the actual first date. When I get on the phone I barely get 1 minute. She said he bought her $800 of Jewelery. :mad: I told her "Why?" She responds with "Because He Loves Me". Before I could tell her what I thought about it I got disconnected.

 

Is this a red flag.

 

FYI: I had to move because of financial reasons, to pay off my debt. This guy knows why I moved and I think is trying to the negative of our relationship and turn it around on her so she thinks less of me or something.

 

Is it a red flag? Real love feels better than any monetary gift one could give or get. I know, I know that's "so cliche" everyone says you can't buy love, yada yada yada. It's true though. Once upon a time I did have someone who "Spoiled me" with material things. They were nice and I liked a lot of the things, especially since I'd never experienced it before. However, what I have now with someone- trumps all of those things on any given day. I feel happy and spoiled because of how I am loved and in my experience, material things become a substitute for the emotional love and connection the person cannot extend.