Is he Toying with Me??

[Chelle]

I was dating this guy named Rob for a couple of months and I really liked him a lot. Not long after we started seeing each other, he told me he didn't know what he wanted and that I shouldn't get emotionally involved with him. I was talking to another guy at the time, who was more a friend than anything else. Well, I ended up kissing this other guy one night and Rob was asking me 20 questions about it. Asking if I'd kissed him. Well, I didn't think and I told him no but then later admitted to kissing him. But I didn't feel it was any of his business because we didn't have a commitment. I know lying to him was wrong but it was just poor judgment on my part at that time. Well, he said he wanted someone who could concentrate on him and he told me to pursue this other guy. But he did admit that he liked me as more than a friend and that the potential was there for more. He told me this AFTER all this had come about.

 

Well, he still e-mails me once in a while, asking me how my dad is doing, who is ill with cancer. His dad also passed away with cancer. He talked to me online one night and asked me why he hadn't heard from me. He gave me his new phone number so that I could call him if I ever needed to get together and talk about my dad. He asked why I never talk to him online. He said he was just wondering. But it works both ways. He can talk to me too. He has my phone number but he never calls me up. And he sees me online all the time and never talks to me. But I'm supposed to go chasing after him. I saw him a couple of nights later online and I sent him a message. The first question out of his mouth was, "How's your love life?" I told him I had put a personal ad online and had met TONS of guys thru it. He said something to the effect of, "You'll meet the right "dude". I always said that word to him and he thought it was cute. He even started using it. What I'm confused on is why a guy would care so much whether you talk to him or not and be so curious about your love life? We aren't dating anymore. We never talk, never hang out. In fact, he told me a while back that he had met this girl online. I'm not sure though if he's still seeing her or not. I just don't get him at all. Is this his way of keeping me on his string just in case later on he might want to try and come back around? I haven't been waiting on him but I do admit I still think about him a lot and miss him. Does anyone have any advice for me? Any ideas? Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry this was so long..

[Lakisha]

I was dating this guy named Rob for a couple of months and I really liked him a lot. Not long after we started seeing each other, he told me he didn't know what he wanted and that I shouldn't get emotionally involved with him. I was talking to another guy at the time, who was more a friend than anything else. Well, I ended up kissing this other guy one night and Rob was asking me 20 questions about it. Asking if I'd kissed him. Well, I didn't think and I told him no but then later admitted to kissing him. But I didn't feel it was any of his business because we didn't have a commitment. I know lying to him was wrong but it was just poor judgment on my part at that time. Well, he said he wanted someone who could concentrate on him and he told me to pursue this other guy. But he did admit that he liked me as more than a friend and that the potential was there for more. He told me this AFTER all this had come about.

 

Well, he still e-mails me once in a while, asking me how my dad is doing, who is ill with cancer. His dad also passed away with cancer. He talked to me online one night and asked me why he hadn't heard from me. He gave me his new phone number so that I could call him if I ever needed to get together and talk about my dad. He asked why I never talk to him online. He said he was just wondering. But it works both ways. He can talk to me too. He has my phone number but he never calls me up. And he sees me online all the time and never talks to me. But I'm supposed to go chasing after him. I saw him a couple of nights later online and I sent him a message. The first question out of his mouth was, "How's your love life?" I told him I had put a personal ad online and had met TONS of guys thru it. He said something to the effect of, "You'll meet the right "dude". I always said that word to him and he thought it was cute. He even started using it. What I'm confused on is why a guy would care so much whether you talk to him or not and be so curious about your love life? We aren't dating anymore. We never talk, never hang out. In fact, he told me a while back that he had met this girl online. I'm not sure though if he's still seeing her or not. I just don't get him at all. Is this his way of keeping me on his string just in case later on he might want to try and come back around? I haven't been waiting on him but I do admit I still think about him a lot and miss him. Does anyone have any advice for me? Any ideas? Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry this was so long..

[me]

 

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