ramble on rose Posted December 21, 2003 Share Posted December 21, 2003 I just received an e-mail from the cheating ex. I don't know whether to laugh or vomit. Basically, it says, hey how are you....just wanted to make sure you were ok...please don't write back, as the current "ho" also uses his email address...that his life is finally peaceful...that he just wants to apologize for everything, that I was too good for the b.s. he put me through and that he's sorry...that he is trying very hard to be a good person now, and that he used to be a good person long ago. That he didn't mean for everything to happen the way it did. I mean...COME ON! It's like, just as I start to feel normal again....he pulls some crap like this. I deleted it.... Why in the world would he write this? Is this supposed to make ME feel better? Like I would care if now he wants redemption with the woman he was cheating on me with for almost a year? GRRRRR!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 21, 2003 Share Posted December 21, 2003 He probably has no idea how much you are hurt by this...just plain stupid. The mistake you made was deleting the mail and not waiting to reply when his "ho" would read it and telling him how good he was in the sack the other night. hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
Author ramble on rose Posted December 21, 2003 Author Share Posted December 21, 2003 LOL Tony, Of course there are several juvenile and "fun" things I could do with it. I just don't get it - if he's so peaceful and happy why would he even care if I knew or not? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 21, 2003 Share Posted December 21, 2003 "I just don't get it - if he's so peaceful and happy why would he even care if I knew or not?" Total and complete lack of maturity and consideration. He's already showed you that by cheating on you. That you give him another second of your time is dumbfounding to me. He's a waste of humanity. He probably shouldn't have been born. But his sperm beat that of a nice guy's to the egg within miliseconds. DAMN!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ramble on rose Posted December 21, 2003 Author Share Posted December 21, 2003 LMAO At least I can laugh about it. It's just infuriating because there are no answers in my tale of madness. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 My guess is that he isn't happy...he just wants you to think he is. After all, if he was truly peaceful and content with his new girl, he wouldn't still be thinking about you and feeling guilty about how he treated you. Nor would he go to such lengths to gloat about his new situation. He's too proud to let you know he's shot himself in the foot. Showing you a false sense of concern is just his way of getting a foot back in the door. He's going to gradually try to earn his way back into your graces. Don't give this loser another thought. He's not as clever as he'd like to think...and that leopard certainly hasn't changed his spots. Otherwise, he wouldn't be trying to hide his emails to you from his girlfriend!! Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 I would have sent a copy of his email right back to his account before deleting it, so his new girlfriend could see 1) that he's writing to you and 2) that he's asking you to keep it a secret from her. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 Totally agree with Cindy...but it's too late now. Remember for next time. This guy is truly a rotten jerk! Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 I agree with Engma .....but I like the email the letter back or tonys comment about how good sex was last night. I once had a girlfriend cheat on me and then realize her mistake. It was a mess but when I finally cleared my head I told her to get lost. Then she would get drunk and come over my house- sometimes at 2 in the morning crying. She wanted me back. She was still with the guy she cheated on me with so I called him up one time real early in the morning and told him to come get his girl off my front porch. Ofcourse I did not use the word girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ramble on rose Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 I have to agree with Enigma... I knew it was a ploy to see if I would still respond or was still "in love". After I found him in bed with this other woman, I come to find out that I have been the "backup plan" for when she would ditch him for weeks at a time. Now that I am not under his little charming spell anymore, he's probably wigging out because now he has no backup plan for when that relationship fails yet again. And to everyone who suggested I email his letter back....I did that once, when I found out he was meeting strange women online for sex. I sent the other woman a copy of all the IM dialogues that incriminate him, and his profile from adult friend finder. The only result of that was numerous threats by him (prolonged headache for me). He told the other woman I created all of that using his e-mail account, and of course she believed it and is still with him. The best revenge is realizing you are miles above certain people's sick behavior, carrying on with your life and being happy. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 His life is finally peaceful? You could read that as 'boring'. And don't reply - well you figured that out, he wants you to reply - sounds like he wants the current squeeze to dump him and your reply would help with that. And sounds like if you still cared, he'd have a way-station until he found someone else to mess with. I think a lot of these types of people somehow need the drama in their lives. Good for you for not taking the bait. Pat yourself on the back, I'm proud of you! Link to post Share on other sites
AllyKat Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 It seems to me he has a guilty conscious. Why else would he be trying to write you like that? If I were you, I wouldnt email him back. People just do not understand how much their cheating will effect that person. Im so sorry you had to go through that. Link to post Share on other sites
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