Artist Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 My ex broke up with me the for the third time in Nov. There were no signs. She seemed deeply in love was asking to get married next Nov. The last week we were together we got together on a wed night. It was very romantic very nice. We had planned on halloween together for weeks. She was texting me up till Friday and we were tallking about our plans. Then Sat, Halloween she texts me and cancles our halloween plans says she is feeling bad. Monday she sends me a break up email. A few weeks later I find a pic of her and her new boyfriend dressed up in the costume she had asked me to wear on halloween night. Now this was clearly cheating as she canceled on me and went out with another guy that she later posts on facebook that she is in relationship with. Even if they were just friends at the time it would still be cheating right as she canceled with me and went out with another guy and left me sitting at home on a holliday. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 You were talking about marriage and then she cheats on you and dumps you by email? May I ask how old you two are? Thats the kind of stuff that Kids do(breakup by email is probably the moist cowardly thing you can do outside of disappear on someone...which did happen to me. one time. Years ago in my 20's I was literally abandoned by a GF who moved 1000 miles on me while I was at work..lol no kidding.....It was like that TV movie in the 80's where the family would move to a town, send their kids to 7-11 ands then move away on em while they were gone to the store!) at any rate, don't sweat it. and delete her from your life and don't look at her Facebook page and dont talk to any of her friends on Facebook or in real life. She is not worth one tear or even a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 She has broken up with you 3 times and you keep going back to her? What is wrong with this picture? Of course she was cheating on you again. My friend she has no respect for you. You are the fall back guy. She goes off and has fun with other guys and then continues to come back to you when she is bored because you are the fall back guy. You judge a person by their actions and not by their words and her actions speak volumes. You would be out of your mind to consider marrying such a person. She plays you for a fool. She has little respect for you. If you do not respect yourself then who will? 3 times? Enough is enough! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Artist Posted December 23, 2009 Author Share Posted December 23, 2009 She is 32 and I am 43 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Artist Posted December 23, 2009 Author Share Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) Well the first time was not a big deal as we were only casually dating and my heart was not invested and I thought she just thought we were incompatable. The second time was more confusing. We were both in love and she got scared she said and I think she really did. This was a break up one day and getting back together a few days later. I told her this could never happen again. The third time She was in councling and we were doing great until this happened. I had not clue it was coming. My last contact was 20 days ago in which I told her to never contact me again. If interested you can read the whole story here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t213333/ Edited December 23, 2009 by Artist Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Wow I read that, Artist! That sounds a ton like the girl I dated all those years ago. There was one time where she called em and said she was not feeling good and I didnt see her for almost two weeks and then claimed she was in the hospital with Pneumonia and then went on a hunting trip with a her friends in Northern New Hampshire without me knowing where she was. Looking back now I wonder if I was dating Dick Cheney! lol...(sorry that was an extremely lame attempt at comedy, no one should ever be subjected to dating Dick Cheney unless its at an undisclosed location) That girl I dated back then claimed every horrible thing in her life that had happened to her which was why she claimed she was so afraid of comittment, etc. except in my case I came to find out that it was all complete fabrications and that all the horrors she had suffered in her youth actually never happened. I'm not saying that this gal was lying but did any of her friends(if she had any) ever confirm all the horribleness in her life? I mean you must have asked somebody she knew at some point when she was running away and coming back??? having read the story, I wonder if you simply felt so lonely that you would allow this to happen to you multiple times from the same woman. I mean what was she providing you? I mean maybe yoru self esteem issues are greater tha perhaps you realized. In any event by all means let her be some other guy's problem. I would run form her like a plague and bolt your door shut should she ever come knocking again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Artist Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 No. I have a very full life and have had a lot of women interested in me. I do think she may have seen this guy before. It seems wierd though becasue I have seen the two year facebook history of them both and there was clearly nothing romantic going on. And then as soon as this happens he posts pics and starts calling her his girlfriend. I think if anything was going on before he would have been shouting it from the rooftops like he is now. My female friends all say too that he is kind of a geek and they have a hard time seeing why she would go from me to him. That coupled with her rage at me after she broke up with me makes me feel like he was a way to hurt me bad..which it did. She did have me fooled but she is very good as she fooled my freinds and my counslor. Or a better way of putting it was we all were willing to give her the benifit of the doubt until these most recent developements. No I never got to talk to any of her friends as she never seemed to have any around. She would talk about them but I never met them. No I will not be going back to her or initating her but when I look at her pattern I think she may contact me. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Remember your 1st thread Artist. Thought then that she's f#cked up in the head and you can do better. My opinion hasn't changed Link to post Share on other sites
Author Artist Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 Thanks! That is great! Link to post Share on other sites
Beerme Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 My ex broke up with me the for the third time in Nov. There were no signs. She seemed deeply in love was asking to get married next Nov. The last week we were together we got together on a wed night. It was very romantic very nice. We had planned on halloween together for weeks. She was texting me up till Friday and we were tallking about our plans. Then Sat, Halloween she texts me and cancles our halloween plans says she is feeling bad. Monday she sends me a break up email. A few weeks later I find a pic of her and her new boyfriend dressed up in the costume she had asked me to wear on halloween night. Now this was clearly cheating as she canceled on me and went out with another guy that she later posts on facebook that she is in relationship with. Even if they were just friends at the time it would still be cheating right as she canceled with me and went out with another guy and left me sitting at home on a holliday. You shouldn't care if it was cheating or not. You two have broken up, and who cares if she went out with the guy a day or two before the email. In the long run, it makes no difference. You're better off without her. Link to post Share on other sites
bittersweet memories Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 I feel this woman is playing games..She LOVES the attention you give her and I would not doubt she is doing the same to the other guy. Let her go and move on...don't contact her. If she calls you don't respond. You can't just be friends with her..its impossible. You sound like a great guy and I have no doubt you will find a nice a girl. But you have to move on. No more chances! Link to post Share on other sites
FilthMerchant Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 That's disrespectful enough to dump her and never look back Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 i agree dump her immediately Link to post Share on other sites
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