cheergirl Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 I'm dating someone and we're working on a project together. He's gotten a female friend of his involved... It's my project really, he's helping with certain aspects of it... The problem is, this woman is a bit of a nightmare...I have seen her in action and she comes across as manipulative and not very nice. I know good friends who have worked with her and they've said stay away... She's already made a huge unnecessary fight w/another person working on the project. She even insulted the guy I'm dating to my face!:eek: (the guy who brought her in...) A person can only take so much, but as long as she's going to do the job I don't care...My issue is that in communicating about the project she will only go through "my" guy... She doesn't return my emails, or FB msgs. It's as though i don't exist. I feel it keenly and I suspect she knows exactly what she's doing... I have discussed it with him and said clearly that I would appreciate it if she would deal with me in the future with regard to the project. He agreed, but she still contacts him and discusses the stupid fight she started and then tries to be all big about it...I get reports back from him... Ok how would you feel? I am not jealous... Truly, I just feel like if she's involved she'll be working with me, not him and her continued refusal to speak to me is disrespectful and the equivalent of thumbing her nose at me. My nose is waaay out of joint. His prolonging of this by talking to her when he agreed to tell her to discuss issues with me is very hurtful. She is ignoring me (on purpose, I feel) and it's gone on too long... He has made excuses for her, "she knows me better.." (this is not a shy wallflower we're talking about) she's meant to be working with me, not him... Anyway,I've discussed this twice with him and i feel very disrespected by her. He just says i'm trying to force him to choose and that i hate her...I don't... I just feel like he should make it clear to her we're together on this and all isssues to do with the project. He has made conditions that I agreed to adhere to with regard to friends of mine working on the project. I didn't hesitate. but with my feeling comfortable, it's like he doesn't care... This is my pride and ego, but I feel like she "feels" she is closer to him than me and i am not comfortable with it... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 Business is business. Fire at will I will also say that it's generally a very healthy perspective to not mix business with romance, or lend money to friends, but I digress... If you're running the job, and he or she (or both) are jeopardizing or interfering with your productivity and authority, one or both goes. You've talked enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheergirl Posted December 23, 2009 Author Share Posted December 23, 2009 for your advice...cheers! Link to post Share on other sites
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