Screwd Up Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 I really need help. It has been over 3 years and I cannot get over this person. When I first came to college my brother befriended this guy and we hit it off right away. He ended up becoming a part of our group of friends, and he also hung out with my brother and I a lot. However, to make a long story short it really didn't work out for some reason and I don't know exactly why. He ended up transferring to another school about 2 hours south of here. He only visits my brother and I maybe once a year. I haven't even hardly talked to him in the past 2 years or so - and I am still not over it!!!! I think I must have a problem and I can't talk to any of my friends about it and especially not my brother. They would think I was a freak or something! The truth is I have to keep this to myself and it is killing me inside. I don't know why I cannot get over this person. I have even been told outright by him that he does not have feelings for me anymore but yet I cannot stop thinking about this person. I have even dated several people since we dated and even when I am in a relationship with someone else I still think about him constantly. Is there something wrong with me? I think I really found true love and that is why I cannot get over it after all this time, even though it may be unrequited. The truth is, the past few years of college have been miserable after he left. We dated when we were freshman and now here I am about to graduate in May and have not gotten over it. I don't think I ever will. I just want to make it clear that I am not a stalker by any means and he doesn't even have a clue that I still think about him, especially since I have had several boyfriends since. My question is should I talk to him about it or would he just think I was weird since it is now 3 years later? OR is there any medications or anything that I can do to make these thoughts go away? Its making me miserable. Link to post Share on other sites
DragonflyX Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 You should tell him about it so you will know one way or the other instead of letting it eat you up inside. I did it about 7 or 8 years ago and she had no idea and she wasn't interested in me romantically at all. It sucked to find out but it was also a huge load off my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
d1410 Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 did you guys ever date or was this something that developed just being friends. I agree with Dragonflyx. I was in a similar situation a few months ago and finally told the guy that I had feelings for him. It was a huge relief to tell him, even though his feelings weren't recipricated. Not only that but I don't have those same feelings for him anymore. It sounds like you need some closure on this person and your feelings. Once you've resolved this, it will be easier to move on, date others and feel good about yourself again. good luck! d Link to post Share on other sites
Fancy Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 I'm truly not trying to sound like a shrink here, but I have a couple of questions for you............... Are your parents divorced? Did/do you have a good relationship with your parents? Link to post Share on other sites
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