ant0255 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 I wasn't sure where to post this, so obiviously I put it on this thread. My ex girlfriend and I broke up in July due to her having some emotional problems from a previous relationship. We have remained friends and see each other at the gym pretty much everyday. When I see her we make small talk and keep it at that. Well several weeks ago she starts showing signs of interest again, she starts calling me and texting me and suggesting we hang out. She came to dinner at my grandma's, and i had dinner at her parents, we even watched a xmas movie together at which point she made herself comfortable on my shoulder, hell one night I picker her up from the bar and took her home, I stayed with her and opted for the couch, she apparently wanted the couch as well and used my lap as a pillow, nothing happened though. So here i am confused and taking it slowly and not pushing the envelope, I continue to talk with her and text her, and then all of a sudden she stops texting and responding. Come to find out at my best wedding I find out that she has been going out on a few dates with some guy. Now, I dont care about her dating another guy, but what pisses me off is that I feel she lead me on, and several of our friends agree, I was that she is not looking for something serious just a throw away guy, thankfully not me, but why did she do that to me? We were very close when we were together and if it wasnt for her abusive ex we would still be together. So, now I have no idea what to do, do i totally ignore her, or what? I could use a little womanly advice on this one. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 She did it because her emotional investment in you was low enough for her to allow herself to do such a terrible thing. It sounds like she was lonely, and used you for company until she found someone she wanted to date. What to do? Cut your losses, cut her off completely and try to move on as best you can. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 She used you because she could - you were there and were willing to give her the emotional comfort she wanted at that time, but were disposable once she found someone else she really likes and wants to date. Time to end this "friendship". Link to post Share on other sites
J dub Posted December 27, 2009 Share Posted December 27, 2009 She used you because she could - you were there and were willing to give her the emotional comfort she wanted at that time, but were disposable once she found someone else she really likes and wants to date. Time to end this "friendship". Exactly. I also echo LucreziaBorgia's comments. You were there when she needed someone to alleviate the loneliness that accompanies a failed relationship. Thats all. Sorry.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ant0255 Posted December 27, 2009 Author Share Posted December 27, 2009 I totally agree with all of your responses and I thank you for them. I guess its safe to say im pissed off because of it, but life goes on and hopefully I can meet a girl with less problems. Link to post Share on other sites
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