flyswatter04 Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 Ok heres the deal. If you read some of my old post you will know that theres this girl that I like but she is already going out with someone. So I really want to tell her..........After alot of thought, and a little help i have decided to tell her how I feel. My Problem is I dont know how to tell her. Meaning should I write her and deliver the note somehow or just tell face to face. I just have no clue whatsoever. Please help. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 telling her face to face is much better because you can read how she is feeling, this will take some improv because no matter how you plan things to go, it will always be a bit different, and if she isnt feeling it then you have to make some adjustments without feeling too awkward Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 Yes, and don't do it in front of her friends. Link to post Share on other sites
ASDFJKL Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 Hmm...well, if this girl is already going out with someone at the time, then shouldn't you just keep quiet on the matter? It's not fair to her or her boyfriend (Her boyfriend might get very mad if he found out, and most likely he would). Let them be in peace, and don't stir things up...for now. Wait until she is single and available, and THEN tell her how you feel. Oh, well, it's just my opinion! Link to post Share on other sites
really bored Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 give us some background on her current relationship - that would help - are the serious, how long have they been together - does she ever hint at a break-up, these are important issues to whether you tell this girl everything Link to post Share on other sites
Author flyswatter04 Posted December 22, 2003 Author Share Posted December 22, 2003 well they have been going out for about 3 months now. As for her boyfriend hes kinda a jerk. he gets all pissy when she wants to hang out with some of her friends (myself included). For example; last week one of her friends, her, and myself went shopping and to the movies while he was it work. She even called him and said she was doing it and he seemed alright, but when we got back so was he and when he saw that I was with her. He startedto cuss all of us out and later on she called me up and she was crying. She told me that he said that she should not hang out with me (they live toghter just so you know). Anyways...........other than that she seems says that she get treated well. To tell you the truth I can she that she likes me. Its just the way she looks at me, and talks to me I just never had the nerves to tell her how I feel until now. So now you know how thier relationship is now how strong it is though i'm not to sure..... Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 They've only been together 3 months and are living together already. It could be serious, or it could be that their passion is burning itself out. What do you see happening if you tell her and she says she feels the same way? Will she move out right away? Where will she go? Is she in any danger from her live-in boyfriend? Are you in danger from him? Put yourself in the other guy's place - no amount of reasoning is going to sink in right away when someone is hurting because they are losing their SO, and he apparently can see that you are interested in her. What about if she tells you that she only likes you as a friend? Will you continue to "hang out" with her? Be honest with yourself and with her, but be prepared for a let-down. She cares enough about this other guy to be living with him. She also may have found out by living with him that she doesn't love him as much as she thought. It's a confusing situation, but my first thought was to tell her, but don't pressure her. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 Well Fly....Words can always be retracted......Paper trails last forever though. I would NEVER put on paper anything I couldn't live with the whole world reading....cause you never know!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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