Author one goal Posted December 29, 2009 Author Share Posted December 29, 2009 What are the chances I could get fired for asking her out? Link to post Share on other sites
Vasto_Lorde Posted December 29, 2009 Share Posted December 29, 2009 I think One goal is taking the piss out of you lot. This thread is clearly a wind up. Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted December 29, 2009 Share Posted December 29, 2009 I think One goal is taking the piss out of you lot. This thread is clearly a wind up. or he just wants someone to hold his hand.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 29, 2009 Author Share Posted December 29, 2009 or he just wants someone to hold his hand.... Im just nervous though, thats all because dont want to get in trouble at work. Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted December 29, 2009 Share Posted December 29, 2009 Im just nervous though, thats all because dont want to get in trouble at work. I doubt you would get into trouble for just asking her out... just don't hound her about it that's all... make it casual, friendly and all that. I've been asked out by quite a few guys I've worked with in the past and it wasn't a big deal... in fact two of them turned into LTRs... well three but that one was more of a FWB situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 29, 2009 Author Share Posted December 29, 2009 I doubt you would get into trouble for just asking her out... just don't hound her about it that's all... make it casual, friendly and all that. I've been asked out by quite a few guys I've worked with in the past and it wasn't a big deal... in fact two of them turned into LTRs... well three but that one was more of a FWB situation. Is it ok to tell her I think shes cute/pretty or could that be considered sexual harassment? Should I just like tell her "Im kinda shy so Ive waited awhile to ask, but I wanted to know if we could go out sometime after work or something because u seem like a really nice girl." Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted December 29, 2009 Share Posted December 29, 2009 Is it ok to tell her I think shes cute/pretty or could that be considered sexual harassment? Should I just like tell her "Im kinda shy so Ive waited awhile to ask, but I wanted to know if we could go out sometime after work or something because u seem like a really nice girl." ok... don't tell her you think she's pretty or cute or whatever until later... by asking her out it pretty much tells her that you are attracted to her. And if you are so worried about your job, you need to find out what the policy is on dating in the workplace... or is there any other couples that work together there? I still think that just asking her on a date is not a big deal... unless you make it one... so don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 29, 2009 Author Share Posted December 29, 2009 ok... don't tell her you think she's pretty or cute or whatever until later... by asking her out it pretty much tells her that you are attracted to her. And if you are so worried about your job, you need to find out what the policy is on dating in the workplace... or is there any other couples that work together there? I still think that just asking her on a date is not a big deal... unless you make it one... so don't. I think the policy only matters if one of the persons is a manager. Just the thing Im worried about really is if she shuts me out, or has a bf that word would spread around I asked her out. I mean Im sure she woudl tell one of her friends there and word would spread. I mean I'd be kinda embarassed if everyone found out. If she said yes, then it wouldn't be so bad of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Golfilla Posted December 29, 2009 Share Posted December 29, 2009 I think the policy only matters if one of the persons is a manager. Just the thing Im worried about really is if she shuts me out, or has a bf that word would spread around I asked her out. I mean Im sure she woudl tell one of her friends there and word would spread. I mean I'd be kinda embarassed if everyone found out. If she said yes, then it wouldn't be so bad of course. I think you should ask her if she's into bestiality. Then ask her if she likes trolls. If she says 'yes' to both those questions, you're in! Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 29, 2009 Author Share Posted December 29, 2009 I go into work in a couple hours. Hopefully shes working today and I get a chance to talk to her! Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 I didnt get a chance to ask her out today? I only talked to her briefly and that was when she asked how my xmas was. Store was busy and lots of people around so I didnt get a chance to. Hopefully she works tommorow. If I decide to write a note what should I say on it? Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 DO NOT write her a note... unless you're like... 12! even then you shouldn't... Next time you see her, just walk up to her and say "hey, I was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime?" and have an idea in mind.. like go see live music somewhere, or grab dinner after work... make it easy, casual... and be confident. You're making this into too big of a deal... Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 DO NOT write her a note... unless you're like... 12! even then you shouldn't... Next time you see her, just walk up to her and say "hey, I was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime?" and have an idea in mind.. like go see live music somewhere, or grab dinner after work... make it easy, casual... and be confident. You're making this into too big of a deal... Yea thats what Im going to try and say. Just ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
Golfilla Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 DO NOT write her a note... unless you're like... 12! I'm beginning to think that might be the case. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 31, 2009 Author Share Posted December 31, 2009 Well I asked someone at my work whos friends with her if she has a boyfriend and she told me she is seeing someone. I told my coworker I thought she was cute, and why I wanted to ask her out. Do you think she will go and tell her now? I mean not a big deal. Also even though i know she has a boyfriend, should I maybe try and hit on her a little, or flirt or ask her out later? I mean she would then at least know my intentions for future reference. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 She has a boyfriend. Do not ask her out. Do not write her a note. Just forget her. If you really want to date someone. try asking someone out who you do not work with. Please - for all our sakes Link to post Share on other sites
MyNameIsJonas Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Well I asked someone at my work whos friends with her if she has a boyfriend and she told me she is seeing someone. I told my coworker I thought she was cute, and why I wanted to ask her out. Do you think she will go and tell her now? I mean not a big deal. Also even though i know she has a boyfriend, should I maybe try and hit on her a little, or flirt or ask her out later? I mean she would then at least know my intentions for future reference. While I admire your persistence, I'm pretty sure you should move on. You now know that she has a boyfriend and while the "dump the zero, get with the hero" approach may work on TV, it doesn't work in real life. In fact, to touch on a point made eariler, that would more than likely been seen as harassment. As said eariler, you don't want that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 31, 2009 Author Share Posted December 31, 2009 While I admire your persistence, I'm pretty sure you should move on. You now know that she has a boyfriend and while the "dump the zero, get with the hero" approach may work on TV, it doesn't work in real life. In fact, to touch on a point made eariler, that would more than likely been seen as harassment. As said eariler, you don't want that. Also the person I asked at work I trust them not to tell, but since shes a girl also do you think she will go telling her that I was asking if she was single cause I wanted to ask her out? What are the chances she will find out about it now? Link to post Share on other sites
MyNameIsJonas Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Also the person I asked at work I trust them not to tell, but since shes a girl also do you think she will go telling her that I was asking if she was single cause I wanted to ask her out? What are the chances she will find out about it now? I wouldn't worry about it. Just don't ask her out or flirt with her or anything like that and you'll be fine. Treat her as a co-worker if you come across her. Office gossip is just that: gossip. Just go about your business and it will eventually die out. If someone bring it up to you, deny it and change the subject. In time, someone else will do something stupid and all of the people who are avoid work will focus on that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 31, 2009 Author Share Posted December 31, 2009 I wouldn't worry about it. Just don't ask her out or flirt with her or anything like that and you'll be fine. Treat her as a co-worker if you come across her. Office gossip is just that: gossip. Just go about your business and it will eventually die out. If someone bring it up to you, deny it and change the subject. In time, someone else will do something stupid and all of the people who are avoid work will focus on that. true. Ashame cause this girl is extreamly nice and polite, not only pretty. And very easy to get along with. Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Also the person I asked at work I trust them not to tell, but since shes a girl also do you think she will go telling her that I was asking if she was single cause I wanted to ask her out? What are the chances she will find out about it now? I think you want her to find out that you asked about her.... as a way to still be connected to the possibility of her. She has a boyfriend... forget about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 31, 2009 Author Share Posted December 31, 2009 Should I still try to befriend her? Link to post Share on other sites
SOLACEMENT Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Should I still try to befriend her? No you should just leave her alone....since you seem to like her already...I dont think befriending her would be any good in the long run Link to post Share on other sites
gypsy_nicky Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 OP, if your a seasoned dater, throw out a feeler to see if she's interested in you. A feeler is an ambiguous statement that can be read your interested or just being friendly etc etc. No harm done. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted December 31, 2009 Author Share Posted December 31, 2009 OP, if your a seasoned dater, throw out a feeler to see if she's interested in you. A feeler is an ambiguous statement that can be read your interested or just being friendly etc etc. No harm done. Like what for example? Link to post Share on other sites
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