I saw an old friend from high school...ugh

[Lauriebell82]

Last night I saw a friend from high school who I haven't seen in about 8 years. She used to be a little bit on the "chunkier side" (not as big as I was). I saw her and she looks gorgeous!! She has no curves, no hips, is so skinny. She lives in LA and said she is an actress and a model! She commented on how thin I looked but I still felt horrible. I feel like a bad person.

 

I'm noticing that my friends will lose weight and will be so skinny because they were never build curvy but looked bigger because they were overweight. Everyone tells me they wish they looked like me...

 

Are there any curvy women who feel this way? Or do you love your curves? Nobody I know can really understand this...

[OnlyJake]

The grass is always greener. Stop comparing yourself to others.

[quankanne]

LOL – the only time I envy those skinny minnies is when I'm trying on clothes, because current "fashion" isn't made for women like us who are curvy. Otherwise, I enjoy the fact that I've got a generously curved figure. Wish I had less boobage, though!

[Lauriebell82]

LOL – the only time I envy those skinny minnies is when I'm trying on clothes, because current "fashion" isn't made for women like us who are curvy. Otherwise, I enjoy the fact that I've got a generously curved figure. Wish I had less boobage, though!

 

Yeah, they have the "skinny jeans" which I hate so much.

 

My fiance said the same thing that the grass is always greener and you pretty much always wish you had something you don't. He loves my body and said he would not want me to be a skinny minny. I guess I still get some kind of complex because of my little skinny friends. They are obsessed with taking pictures also so I feel like I look so much wider standing next to them.

[melodymatters]

Well honey, you can't please everyone all of the time, you know that, but what might comfort you is that: WOMAN like anorexics and MEN like a bit of curve, boobs and butt.

 

 

I used to be crack whore skinny, size zero at best and I thought I looked great and woman were always jealous. Since I put on ten pounds, slowly over the last ten years, I am getting feedback from men who knew me then, and now, saying they think I look much better now, and "look at those boobs !"

 

My ex was a musician who dated models, high end strippers and the like, was very down putting to "fat chicks". When we hung out recently and I was complaining I was fat, he basically said what others said above, and shook his head and said " Honey, you don't understand men. You would make more money as a stripper now than you ever would have at 95 lbs" ( Note - not that me becoming a stripper was ever on the table, just his frame of reference)

 

Back in my NYC days I WAS actually anorexic, like weak, fainting 81 lbs anorexic. My fellow actresses were always asking me about my diet plan and gym and being jealous: the guys asked me if I was sick and worried that I might have AIDS !

 

Relax ! I've seen the pics, you look amazing ! You are perfect for your body type and would look like crap 10 lbs thinner, even 5 !

[TaraMaiden]

I was watching a programme on tv and there was this woman with a really slim figure...I thought she looked gorgeous, but my BF replied:

 

"Naah. Phukking that would be like screwing a box of spanners (monkey wrenches)!"

 

point well made, I think.

[baker23]

I always look at thin girls and think they are beautiful, but my boyfriend has always told me that models are for women to see and envy, but that men like real women, not just bones and sticks.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I dunno. I'm starting to like mine much better now that I'm with someone who really digs the curves. I'm built like Crystal Renn and for once I'm getting to be ok with that. It took a very long time though. I always wanted to be 'waif-like' but that is probably because even if I were to lose all of my body fat, I'd look like a large sized skeleton wearing a small sized skin.

[Lauriebell82]

I always look at thin girls and think they are beautiful, but my boyfriend has always told me that models are for women to see and envy, but that men like real women, not just bones and sticks.

 

Thanks, I'm glad someone can relate. My fiance says something similar. My best friend is sooo skinny (as well as the majority of my friends) and has no hips. But he says that he would NEVER be attracted to that type of girl because she basically has no shape to her. It's just bones.

 

It's still hard though.

[Els]

I always look at thin girls and think they are beautiful, but my boyfriend has always told me that models are for women to see and envy, but that men like real women, not just bones and sticks.

 

Ooh boy, I can't wait til JS gets to this one!

 

On the flip side, I'm quite concerned about how it makes you feel like a bad person, LB. Simple envy is one thing, yours is another entirely.

[wheream_i]

I saw her and she looks gorgeous!! She has no curves, no hips, is so skinny.

 

Sure, I guess if that's what you consider gorgeous.

[Lauriebell82]

Ooh boy, I can't wait til JS gets to this one!

 

On the flip side, I'm quite concerned about how it makes you feel like a bad person, LB. Simple envy is one thing, yours is another entirely.

 

I meant that I should feel really happy for her that she lost a lot of weight and now looks really skinny, and part of me doesn't. I don't like feeling that way...

[JamesM]

models are for women to see and envy, but that men like real women, not just bones and sticks.

 

 

I agree with this, too.

 

LB, your figure has turned out just fine.

 

Besides, each guy has their own tastes. While some like the model type, many do not. However, most would say that the performance of the chassis and motor beats the perfect body that has no "power" any day.

[Jaytb]

there is absolutely nothing wrong with how you look OP. Some models look good, but some are really too skinny. Regarding weight, if you're not overweight/ obese and not underweight/too skinny, then you're perfect!

[make me believe]

Well there is a difference between thin and scrawny. I like the skinny look, not anorexic-looking... but like I think when you can kinda see the hip bones poking out there's something a little sexy about it. I am pretty thin and sometimes I feel bad about my body & I think I'd feel more womanly/sexy if I had bigger boobs or more curves or whatever. But then I get comments from girls who are envious of my body and comments from guys saying I have a perfect "models" body ( I disagree with that), so yeah. The grass is always greener and everyone has a different opinion!!

 

Your fiance would probably not be attracted to my body type, and there are guys out there who may not be attracted to your body type. But who cares? You can't rely on other people to make you feel good about yourself. And there is DEFINITELY not one universal "ideal" body type! I'm sure you look fantastic so don't compare yourself to your super skinny friends because that look would probably not look right on you if it doesn't come naturally. (I think it's usually pretty obvious when a girl is naturally thin/waif-like as opposed to one who is starving herself/dieting a lot to look like that.)

[Lauriebell82]

Well there is a difference between thin and scrawny. I like the skinny look, not anorexic-looking... but like I think when you can kinda see the hip bones poking out there's something a little sexy about it. I am pretty thin and sometimes I feel bad about my body & I think I'd feel more womanly/sexy if I had bigger boobs or more curves or whatever. But then I get comments from girls who are envious of my body and comments from guys saying I have a perfect "models" body ( I disagree with that), so yeah. The grass is always greener and everyone has a different opinion!!

 

Your fiance would probably not be attracted to my body type, and there are guys out there who may not be attracted to your body type. But who cares? You can't rely on other people to make you feel good about yourself. And there is DEFINITELY not one universal "ideal" body type! I'm sure you look fantastic so don't compare yourself to your super skinny friends because that look would probably not look right on you if it doesn't come naturally. (I think it's usually pretty obvious when a girl is naturally thin/waif-like as opposed to one who is starving herself/dieting a lot to look like that.)

 

Thanks! Some good did come out of it though, I cut back a little bit on what I was eating (I gained about 5 pounds back over the holidays due to eating junk) and dropped the extra weight off. Although I will never look like my skinny minnie friends I feel a LOT better about myself now that I took the water weight off.

 

You are right though, the grass is always greener...

[ann09]

I love my curves - but I am 40 and it's taken me all this time to love them. I don't compare myself to super skinny model-like types anymore. This is my body and I will have it forever - it's given me 3 beautiful children and has never let me down. Sure I wish I could lose about 10 to 15 pounds - and hopefully will - but I would never want to lose my curves. I'm a woman!!

[stillafool]

I don't think anyone really thinks a really skinny person nor a fat person is attractive. I think most people want to be a healthy weight for your height and have proportionate measurements.

[0hpenelope]

LOL – the only time I envy those skinny minnies is when I'm trying on clothes, because current "fashion" isn't made for women like us who are curvy. Otherwise, I enjoy the fact that I've got a generously curved figure. Wish I had less boobage, though!

 

Less boobage? Girl, send some my way! It would be nice to accentuate my nice blouses with some shape.

[Lauriebell82]

Less boobage? Girl, send some my way! It would be nice to accentuate my nice blouses with some shape.

 

Oh, they are a pain believe me!!!! I used to be a DD cup when I was more overweight. I'm a small C cup now and I'm pretty happy with it. Goes back to the theory though, the grass is always greener!

[Throne Of Lies]

Where does the myth that super-thin chick never have great t and a come from? A chick with A cups on a 30 inch chest still looks great in low cut tops. Same with her butt. I don't get how fat chicks think they have the market cornered on curves. A 5' 7" 98 pound girl I knew once had the most incredible rack ever.

Edited January 10, 2010 by Throne Of Lies

[lino]

She has no curves, no hips, is so skinny.

 

Not that many men actually find that look attractive in a woman.

 

Most guys want something to grab onto.

 

For me, no hips and no boobs = no sex with me

Edited January 12, 2010 by lino
left out a word

[Leia]

I love curvy women. Those hips, breasts ... absolutely gorgeous! I wish I had a bit more meat.

 

What matters the most to me is what my man thinks of me.

[baker23]

It is true that not all people are the same, and not everyone likes the same things, and thank GOD for that; imagine if we all liked the same thing, how boring!

 

I have somewhat accepted myself; eventhough I would like to lose 10lbs; I know that even if I were to be perfect, in my eyes, not everyone would find me attractive. Over the summer, I told my boyfriend I was going to go to a nutricionist to get healthier and lose 10lbs., and he said if the boobs would get smaller, I told him that was going to be the first thing to go down; he told me he didn't want me to be thinner .

 

Then again, you have to believe you are beautiful, and find a way to accept yourself, and as long as you take care of yourself by mantainning a healthy life style, you'll be ok. Accept yourself Lauribell.

[Chocolat]

Where does the myth that super-thin chick never have great t and a come from? A chick with A cups on a 30 inch chest still looks great in low cut tops. Same with her butt. I don't get how fat chicks think they have the market cornered on curves. A 5' 7" 98 pound girl I knew once had the most incredible rack ever.

 

Amen.

 

It seems that there is a false dichotomy perpetuated where women are either heavier and curvy or skinny and little-boy like.

 

It's plenty possible to be slim and curvy.