rastro Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 So it's time for the engagment ring shopping. My girl and I have been together 4 1/2 years, living together for 3. I've been doing all the research about the 4 Cs etc. I do pretty much know what she likes. A while back she actually circled 4 in a catalog she liked. I know they say 2 months salary etc. But at what point does it make more sense to spend less on the ring and more on the future? Like getting out of debt. Needing a new car. Hoping to buy a house etc? On one hand I know she has pretty much the same views but on the other hand I don't want to make the engagment seem like an offhand thing. I think she expects the ring and would be disappointed without it. OY! DeBeers sure made marriage a quandry. Any advice out there girls? Let's say $4000 is two months salary and about a .75 ct ring but the whole thing goes on credit. Would settling for $2000, a smaller stone (.4 ct) and putting the other half towards the future be a better plan? Never mind the fact that there is no budget for the wedding itself. That's part of the reason I've been waiting so long. Link to post Share on other sites
yogi-mon Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 I personally think its one of those things: Alot of women want a nice rock on there finger. If you get her a nice rock, even if you cant afford it, it will get you alot of points. I think its something women compete with. If you want her to have the smallest rock than all her friends, well - that is ok. What you are asking makes sense, but in the eyes of a woman, she will probably secretly want a nice stone. BUT - alot of gals wont care - its about the marriage not a rock. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 Many couples marry with smaller "promise" rings and get the larger stones on an anniversary. Its just good sense and a responsible thing to do. If the couple talk about it first and decide together it works well. You can still surprise her with a gift and then take her to choose her ring. You could make a "contract" with each other that on your first anniversary you will put the ring she really wants into layaway (avoiding those high credit interest rates) and have it out and on her finger in six months. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 22, 2003 Share Posted December 22, 2003 Every woman wants a 5 ct rock on her finger Nope. Not true. I think big rings are goofy and impractical - at least for regular mortals. I suppose if the only work you ever do with your hands is write cheques for the maids, that'd be another story. I insisted that I not have any sort of protruding monstrosities. I got a very nice pavé ring which doesn't even look like an engagement ring. It's a gorgeous ring and, though the marriage is over, I still wear it and get lots of compliments on it. And if I want to rest my cheek on my hand, I don't get a big ring-sized dint in my face Link to post Share on other sites
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