Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Thanks Vivid_29, Damn she's hot lookin' but I'm with you!!!!! See ya! Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 it's a good idea to avoid chicks who simply seek ego-stroking, as well. not that this is that kind of situation, but it does seem like you might be the type to get too invested, and oddly too lyrical, when a girl is just out to obtain flattery. do not, ever again, under any circumstances, obey an order like "use a thousand words to describe me." answering this, on command, is a classic wussy move and it's demeaning. it's one of the ways women suss out, implicitly, how they much can manipulate a mark. do not hand out compliments so readily. certainly don't bother giving them to the married. <no offense, juicy, but the guy needs help if he fell that easily:) he's going to get eaten alive out there!> i might say nice things about a guy's pic, but never, ever, because he asked me to. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 meow? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Okay moimeme...did you mean that meow meant Imao? Or...were you being a little kitty? I already told you in the other post that your ship had come in!! lol! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Thanks Jenny!!! You hit it right on the mark! I do get to "invested" Yeah, this was all fun and games, but really now...I need to watch it! Thank god for Loveshack! where else can this type of feedback happen? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 no, i think she was suggesting i was being catty. well, fair enough. it does kind of irk me when women solicit compliments with no intention of returning them, probably because i've seen guys hurt and confused by this again and again and again. so, take that advice with a grain of salt. but do know you lose power in that situation, strategically. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Ooh, PHP, Sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Originally posted by mjk Thanks Vivid_29, Damn she's hot lookin' but I'm with you!!!!! See ya! That's right, dude. Play your cards right and she will come to you. Good luck! ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Hey Dyermaker! What's up? UCFKevin has probably the funniest reply, bounding into view etc. Damn that dude's a laugh! What's PHP? Jenny: I'm sticking with you on this one! Vivid_29: She's got a long way to go, I'm in Nor Cal, that's a hell of a long way from Calgary! Where in the HELL is that place anyway? Wished I could type faster!! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 anwyays...if u dont take my tip then it's your own fault if you dont got the balls to do it then you can bitch at yourself for not giving yourself the opportunity to make something happen. thats all i gotta say. tell you the truth there is no real tip to doing this, you just gotta do this your own way on your own terms, being yourself. if you try to fake yourself during this process it'll seep through like ooze that they'll feel it. cause you'll be so worried thinking of what to say next that it'll f*** up the convo and she'll definitely feel it....uh..this guy is freaky..she'll think balls = confidence no balls = unconfident JUST A FRIENDLY WAKE UP CALL Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 thanks, I knew my nut sack was here somewhere! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Sighhhhhhhhhhh. http://www.lonelyplanet.com/mapshells/north_america/canada/canada.htm Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Damn...she's way up there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 moimeme, you are such a romantic!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Basically, a mushball, yes. You got my number, mj. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Man, I miss all the fun chitchat just cause I'm sleeping or cooking or whatever. MJK, yeah, I was teasing you. Dyermaker, you're so right about fashion trends. I don't know what I was thinking. But I think everyone understands the point about keeping early chitchat NEUTRAL - no personal topics like appearance or feelings. Just external stuff that you might chat about with anybody. As to how to "tell her" that you're interested - you do that by chatting with her and with your big friendly smile and your courtesy and pleasantness. Granted, there is some ambiguity in this. You could just be a friendly guy who chats with everybody. Ambiguity is actually a PLUS in this situation. It makes both of you more comfortable. You gradually reduce the ambiguity, with careful attention to timing and her reaction. It may take minutes or years, depending on you and her. One final word...it is NOT cool to take a minor rejection by a stranger whom you have approached casually as if it were a knife to the heart. It's just someone saying "No thank you". Maybe she secretly does like you, but is shy or awkward. Maybe her dog was just diagnosed with canine hemangiosarcoma. Maybe she has poor taste and judgment. Who cares! There are many millions of young women potentially available to you. Show your confidence - which comes from a deeply seated sense of self-love - and women will be that much more attracted. Good luck and enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mjk Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Thanks SoleMate, Tease away!! I'm pretty good about that! I think this was/is a good thread because the first contact is usually what fires-up the relationship. How you meet. Did you have sex right away? If so, are you still together? As to how to "tell her" that you're interested - you do that by chatting with her and with your big friendly smile and your courtesy and pleasantness. Granted, there is some ambiguity in this. You could just be a friendly guy who chats with everybody. Ambiguity is actually a PLUS in this situation. It makes both of you more comfortable. You gradually reduce the ambiguity, with careful attention to timing and her reaction. It may take minutes or years, depending on you and her. Wow! This is me exactly! Are you a mind reader? My prob is the watching the timing thing. Obviously... if you've read this whole thread! (Thanks again Jenny!) Link to post Share on other sites
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