gf is 2000 miles away for the holidays, and is unreachable!

[morock]

Ok Guys.

So ive been dating this girl for over 6 months. I love her. We have had a lot of drama in our relationship over the past 2 months, involving her lying to me on a few occasions. She has family on the other side of the country, and she is spending the holidays with them.

 

Since she left, she has been unreachable for the most part, that is she calls me, but she doesnt answer my calls(she has unlimited long distance so thats not an issue). She answers my text messages some of the time. It will sometimes take her hours to respond. I have spoken to her about being more reachable, and making an effort etc...and tonight she didn't call me at all. I feel like she doesnt care, and because of the honesty issues, I can't help but feel some paranoia about what she is doing.

I work in the real estate field, so due to the holidays there is little for me to do during the day to take my mind off of this.

 

My close friends have suggested that I ignore her text messages/calls, in order for me to seem less available to her.I hate playing games like this.

 

what do i do?

[hoping2heal]

Ok Guys.

So ive been dating this girl for over 6 months. I love her. We have had a lot of drama in our relationship over the past 2 months, involving her lying to me on a few occasions. She has family on the other side of the country, and she is spending the holidays with them.

 

Since she left, she has been unreachable for the most part, that is she calls me, but she doesnt answer my calls(she has unlimited long distance so thats not an issue). She answers my text messages some of the time. It will sometimes take her hours to respond. I have spoken to her about being more reachable, and making an effort etc...and tonight she didn't call me at all. I feel like she doesnt care, and because of the honesty issues, I can't help but feel some paranoia about what she is doing.

I work in the real estate field, so due to the holidays there is little for me to do during the day to take my mind off of this.

 

My close friends have suggested that I ignore her text messages/calls, in order for me to seem less available to her.I hate playing games like this.

 

what do i do?

 

Well, I agree that it's a bad idea to ignore her texts to make yourself seem less unavailable. I mean there are bigger fish to fry right now. The honesty thing is a problem, as is expressing to her what your needs are and her lack of effort to meet them. I would make it clear to her that you need a partner, she has made mistakes and they can't be undone- but you need to see genuine effort and honesty going forward. If she can't do that, I'm not sure what relationship there is to salvage.

[Rollercoasterr]

If a relationship has this many problems 6 MONTHS into it, then it doesn't need to be a relationship. That is way too early for problems like that to start(especially when it started 4 months in), and you can guarantee that the longer the relationship goes, the worse it will get.

 

[Sparkling]

Ok Guys.

So ive been dating this girl for over 6 months. I love her. We have had a lot of drama in our relationship over the past 2 months, involving her lying to me on a few occasions. She has family on the other side of the country, and she is spending the holidays with them.

 

Since she left, she has been unreachable for the most part, that is she calls me, but she doesnt answer my calls(she has unlimited long distance so thats not an issue). She answers my text messages some of the time. It will sometimes take her hours to respond. I have spoken to her about being more reachable, and making an effort etc...and tonight she didn't call me at all. I feel like she doesnt care, and because of the honesty issues, I can't help but feel some paranoia about what she is doing.

I work in the real estate field, so due to the holidays there is little for me to do during the day to take my mind off of this.

 

My close friends have suggested that I ignore her text messages/calls, in order for me to seem less available to her.I hate playing games like this.

 

what do i do?

 

I agree with Hoping2heal and rollercoaster. The greater issue is her dishonesty, and there are a whole lot of issues between you.

 

I honestly think you would be better served going out somewhere you could meet other women who would appreciate you more. You said she has lied to you on a few occasions, and those are the ones you caught her in. I would be willing to bet she lies to you all of the time about one thing or another. You are right to feel paranoid, you have just cause to. She isn't trustworthy, and she treats you with disrespect.

 

Don't sit home worrying...go out and have some fun with your friends and stay active!!!! You deserve better.

[Meaplus3]

 

My close friends have suggested that I ignore her text messages/calls, in order for me to seem less available to her.I hate playing games like this.

 

what do i do?[/QUOTE]

No need to play games with her. Your 6 months into the R and she has lied to you and is now away and out of touch for the most part. Time to stand up confront her when she returns. Then take things from there. But, I have to tell you she sounds sneaky. I always have a hard time trusting those that don't return text messages and calls... and most of the time I was right that something was very off with the person. Good luck.

 

Mea:)

[morock]

Thanks for your opinions guys. I definitely love this girl, but the trust issues make everything difficult. I don't think that she's cheating on me or anything. I just wonder whether or not she can regain the trust that I lost in her. I want to feel like I can trust her more than anything.