skydiveaddict Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Probably because there are way more women nurses than male, and it just seems like a very feminine job to me. my best friend is in nursing school. he's 6' 5" 270 lbs. could beat the s..t out of anyone i know. i climb/ repair wind turbines for a living. a much more dangerous job i admit, but it doesn't help me get dates. if you like this guy, go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
TheWatcher Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 That all may be true, but I'm actually not sure I'd want to date a guy who is so into care taking that they'd pursue it as a profession. Same goes for a male psychologist/social worker. Don't know why, just seems like a mild turn off to me. While it's certainly admirable, it's not something I find especially attractive in a potential partner. Not attacking you personally...however its this kind of thinking that makes me wonder if my career would be something of a detriment if I were to begin dating.I work with kids who are autistic;intellectually challenged..in an educational setting. I sometimes worry that it may viewed as some as not being masculine enough or high-status enough for some people.. mostly women. I don't view male nurses as being less manly than those who have entered traditionally male professions. Link to post Share on other sites
betamanlet Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I'm sure it is superficial, but it just seems weird to me. Of all jobs, why a nurse. There are other jobs to help people. Maybe he wants to help p eople in the medical field without studying medicine for 4 years and going into 200k of student loan debt? Admit it, you consider it "women's work" and low status.. This is why it bothers women here, out of your own insecurities. Link to post Share on other sites
betamanlet Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 No I don't see anything wrong with a female being a doctor. That's very common. I go to FEMALE doctors often. I NEVER see a male nurse. That's the problem. What would your friends think if you were dating a male nurse? Link to post Share on other sites
PinkToes Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I have a serious crush on the guy nurse in my sports medicine doc's office. Wouldn't bother me a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
betamanlet Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I don't know, its more like my three female cousins are Nurses. I had an old female friend get into Nursing, and another female friend flunk out of Nursing school. Every time I go to a hospital, I only see female nurses. I'm sorry, it's just a bit hard to grasp. The only guy I knew to get into actual Nursing, was this odd guy that was in my high school chorus, and he is married to another Nurse. There are plenty of male n urses. THey just don't wear the white skirt, and white shoes. They wear scrubs, you probably think they are doctors because they are men. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Maybe he wants to help p eople in the medical field without studying medicine for 4 years and going into 200k of student loan debt? Admit it, you consider it "women's work" and low status.. This is why it bothers women here, out of your own insecurities. Betamanlet I assume you have not read through the thread. Pretty much every woman here disagrees with the OP. Suggest you read before you post Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 Not attacking you personally...however its this kind of thinking that makes me wonder if my career would be something of a detriment if I were to begin dating.I work with kids who are autistic;intellectually challenged..in an educational setting. I sometimes worry that it may viewed as some as not being masculine enough or high-status enough for some people.. mostly women. I don't view male nurses as being less manly than those who have entered traditionally male professions. While some people have no idea why I question male nursing, I totally don't see what you do being a problem. To me, that's nothing compared to a male nurse. That's sound like a teacher. What's the problem there? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Was just on my lovely dating site Plenty of Sh*T. Oops I mean Plenty of Fish. This might sound bad, but I'm curious what other people think of this. Would it bother you if a man was going into Nursing or going to become a Nurse as his profession? I know it's better than no career or job at all, but is it bad I would hesitant to date a man who wanted to do this. The reason I'm asking is, I just got a message from a guy who is studying Nursing, and it made me realize it's kind of a turn off to me. It just seems odd. What about you? Would it turn you off to see a hot female police officer ? How about an female hotel engineer ? How about a female maintenance worker ? Point is : Most of the above are more male dominated careers. Why should you be turned off ? Being a nurse takes extensive training and more often than not the nurse is the primary care giver of the patient. He / she may not have the title of Doctor but he/she is expected to do total patient care and often is the first defense between life and death. Rethink this ....ok Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 What would your friends think if you were dating a male nurse? Honestly, probably not give me a straight face when I tell them. I just asked my brother and he laughed. I mean seriously, am I from another planet? I still can't believe most women on here have said it wouldn't bother them. I have a feeling if a guy on a dating site or at a bar would approach them and say they are a nurse.....it would hit them differently. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Umm if it pays the bills well I really don't care. There is more to a man than how he makes his living. Link to post Share on other sites
edward-e Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Honestly, probably not give me a straight face when I tell them. I just asked my brother and he laughed. I mean seriously, am I from another planet? I still can't believe most women on here have said it wouldn't bother them. I have a feeling if a guy on a dating site or at a bar would approach them and say they are a nurse.....it would hit them differently. in all actuality i agree with you. most women WONT find them attractive, at least at first. i actually notice that when i was a nurse for two months and volunteering at the firehouse, when i was in my firefighting gear women would hit on me quite often, when i was at work as a nurse i might get one woman to talk to me more then just friendly chit chat a day... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 Would it turn you off to see a hot female police officer ? How about an female hotel engineer ? How about a female maintenance worker ? Point is : Most of the above are more male dominated careers. Why should you be turned off ? Being a nurse takes extensive training and more often than not the nurse is the primary care giver of the patient. He / she may not have the title of Doctor but he/she is expected to do total patient care and often is the first defense between life and death. Rethink this ....ok No those careers don't seem awkward to me. As I'm sure someone has already mentioned, nursing is known to be a "female" field, and when I think of a male doing this, it seems very strange. I was reading something another site, as someone made a good point. This is what it says: "I think that the reason that men in nursing are sometimes stereotyped as gay, while women in medicine are not, derives from the common fantasy of nurses as sexually promiscuous (a prejudice rarely imposed on physicians). In the past, nurses were often used in literature and film as objects of male sexual fantasies. When a man identified himself as a nurse, many people interpreted that in the context of the larger stereotype of the "naughty nurse," and made their perceptions more concordant with their prejudices by regarding the man as gay (an extension of the fantasy of women in nursing as prostitutes, or at least, promiscuous)." Link to post Share on other sites
TheWatcher Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 While some people have no idea why I question male nursing, I totally don't see what you do being a problem. To me, that's nothing compared to a male nurse. That's sound like a teacher. What's the problem there? Working with kids who are intellectually challenged and autistic is a field that is largely female.Also it involves a lot of care,compassion patience and it some instances caregiving.As a result, less "manly" than other professions. I fear that many women would be turned-off...or find it strange that a man chooses pursue this as a career. I think in an earlier post the idea of a man choosing a career involving caregiving was seen as odd/strange. My advice to young guys who are in the process of choosing a career path....is to choose it wisely and carefully because you will be judged harshly for it;particularly in the dating world. Link to post Share on other sites
Stung Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Honestly, probably not give me a straight face when I tell them. I just asked my brother and he laughed. I mean seriously, am I from another planet? I still can't believe most women on here have said it wouldn't bother them. I have a feeling if a guy on a dating site or at a bar would approach them and say they are a nurse.....it would hit them differently. Sorry to blow this theory but I dated a guy who was in nursing school once. He was hot, spent a couple years as an EMT and wanted to go into trauma. Sounds like you might be, not from a different planet, but from a far different sociocultural region than some of the rest of us, yes. I was a bit surprised to see your perfectly egalitarian response about male teachers; you do know that used to be a strictly female profession (at sub-collegiate levels) and many of the first wave of male teachers were mocked and regarded as effeminate or otherwise suspect? I can't believe I'm agreeing with betamanlet but I suspect you have seen male nurses before and just assumed they were doctors because they were dressed in scrubs. Link to post Share on other sites
New_Life08 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Not as much as it would bother me to date a gynecologist. lol. My bf is in the medical field (Nuclear Medicine) he is not a nurse...but there are many male nurses. I know it seems kind of feminine but it really isn't that way anymore. No, it would not bother me to date a male nurse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 Sorry to blow this theory but I dated a guy who was in nursing school once. He was hot, spent a couple years as an EMT and wanted to go into trauma. Sounds like you might be, not from a different planet, but from a far different sociocultural region than some of the rest of us, yes. I was a bit surprised to see your perfectly egalitarian response about male teachers; you do know that used to be a strictly female profession (at sub-collegiate levels) and many of the first wave of male teachers were mocked and regarded as effeminate or otherwise suspect? I can't believe I'm agreeing with betamanlet but I suspect you have seen male nurses before and just assumed they were doctors because they were dressed in scrubs. I can't believe Betamanlet agrees that a male nurse is fine. Maybe he just wants people to agree with him for once. Well, in my school years, I had quite a few male teachers. As far as dating, I've known guys who were teachers. Being there are so many male educators, why would I see that as strange. Maybe, I have seen male nurses before, and didn't realize they were actually "nurses". It's clear based on my experiences, I've only been exposed to female nurses, so it's hard to imagine otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Honestly, probably not give me a straight face when I tell them. I just asked my brother and he laughed. I mean seriously, am I from another planet? So your opinion of male nurses comes from what everyone around you thinks? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 Not as much as it would bother me to date a gynecologist. lol. Male gynecologist. Now that's another story. I couldn't date someone who looks at other's girls vagina's all day. I also wonder, WHY of all things a doctor does, would he choose this. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 All I have to say is this thread made me think of Ricky Shroeder when he played a male nurse on scrubs with the last name of Flowers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 So your opinion of male nurses comes from what everyone around you thinks? No, did I not say that was just a factor? I do care what others think. As I mentioned, probably would bug me having to tell a friend or relative my BF or H was a nurse. That's not the only reason though. I said some of the work does seem a bit feminine to me, and as far as life experiences, I don't recall witnessing "male" nurses at hospitals and such. Not to mention, in general I think most view Nursing as a female field. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 i've slept with at least 3 nurses... Male or Female ? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Carl Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Male or Female ? :lmao: He was asked that already. But he never answered. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 He was asked that already. But he never answered. Maybe he doesn't know Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw90063 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 Maybe the girl who supposedly wouldn't stop calling Alpha was a nurse, and he left that part out. Link to post Share on other sites
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