gmb2187 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I have fallen in love...I have never felt this way about any one in my entire life and I have screwed it up right off the bat. I go to school 12 hours away, and had a f-buddy there. When I got home for break, I ran into a girl I knew from a few years ago and hit it off with her. I saw her the next day, and really started to fall hard. The girl from back at school kept sending me txts but i just ignored them, because i didnt want to think about anybody else except mary. Finally, when i knew it was for real, and not just a crush, when i finally felt my stomach twist in knots when i kissed her, i immediatly called the other girl and told her i had fallen for someone and to please just let me be. since then she has been sending me naughty pictures to my phone, trying to win me back. I ignore them, and dont respond. I even let mary read my txts to me because i feel i have nothing to hide, i am fully committed. tonight, we were on the couch and my phone went off, so i had her hand it to me. i opened it up and it was a naughty picture. i immediatly shut it, not knowing what to do or say. she asked what it was and i said just one of my friends and shook it off. needless to say, she saw it. now she feels she cant trust me, we have been hanging out only 2 weeks, and i have already screwed it up. its hard enough that i will be 12 hours away, but now she has no trust in me. how do i explain to her that it wasnt what she thinks? how do i prove to her im not lying? how do i convince her that i really fully committed myself, and that this whole thing really was a misunderstanding? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 How did she see the pic? Did you show it to her? (I hope you didn't). It's only been 2 weeks- trust takes much longer than that to build. I'd block you fb's number if she isn't respecting your request to be left alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gmb2187 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 she saw it when i opened my phone. i know it has been only two weeks, and maybe its not full blown love yet...but if it has the potential to be, i cant live knowing that i threw away the one opportunity. please help me by telling me what i can do to earn her trust. I am getting surgery on NYE and will be out of commission for a couple days. by then she will have had plenty of time to collect her thoughts, as will i. but is there anything i can do or say before that? or even after, i go back to school the 14th, her the 9th. is there anything i can do? Link to post Share on other sites
Karena Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 she saw it when i opened my phone. i know it has been only two weeks, and maybe its not full blown love yet...but if it has the potential to be, i cant live knowing that i threw away the one opportunity. please help me by telling me what i can do to earn her trust. I am getting surgery on NYE and will be out of commission for a couple days. by then she will have had plenty of time to collect her thoughts, as will i. but is there anything i can do or say before that? or even after, i go back to school the 14th, her the 9th. is there anything i can do? The only thing you can do now is to try to earn back her trust, and that may not be easy. The first thing you need to do is BLOCK this other girl from your phone. Pronto! You should have done this in the first place after seeing the messages and pictures she was sending you after you told her you were finished. Delete all pictures of her. Let Mary look at your phone so she can see they are deleted and this girl is blocked. This girl is intentionally sending you those pictures to cause problems for your new relationship. If she has a key to your home, change the locks and get it back. If she confronts you somewhere, be honest and tell Mary about it. However, if this girl does confront you, just walk away and don't engage her in ANY conversation. You can see for yourself what a troublemaker she is going to be. You told her, now she needs to move on and you don't owe her any further explanations...walk away! Don't allow her to have ANY ammunition to use against you or manipulate the situation. Tell Mary she is right and you shouldn't have reacted that way, and you won't do that in the future. If that girl has friends who also have your phone number, she may try to get to you through them. If they allow her to use them like that, delete them too and consider them no true friend of yours. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Sadgati Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I have fallen in love...I have never felt this way about any one in my entire life and I have screwed it up right off the bat. I go to school 12 hours away, and had a f-buddy there. When I got home for break, I ran into a girl I knew from a few years ago and hit it off with her. I saw her the next day, and really started to fall hard. The girl from back at school kept sending me txts but i just ignored them, because i didnt want to think about anybody else except mary. Finally, when i knew it was for real, and not just a crush, when i finally felt my stomach twist in knots when i kissed her, i immediatly called the other girl and told her i had fallen for someone and to please just let me be. since then she has been sending me naughty pictures to my phone, trying to win me back. I ignore them, and dont respond. I even let mary read my txts to me because i feel i have nothing to hide, i am fully committed. tonight, we were on the couch and my phone went off, so i had her hand it to me. i opened it up and it was a naughty picture. i immediatly shut it, not knowing what to do or say. she asked what it was and i said just one of my friends and shook it off. needless to say, she saw it. now she feels she cant trust me, we have been hanging out only 2 weeks, and i have already screwed it up. its hard enough that i will be 12 hours away, but now she has no trust in me. how do i explain to her that it wasnt what she thinks? how do i prove to her im not lying? how do i convince her that i really fully committed myself, and that this whole thing really was a misunderstanding? You asked for our help in another thread but it seems everyone here has you covered. My advice would be similar to all of theirs. BLOCK, DELETE, CHANGE THE LOCKS, APOLOGIZE. In the future remember a lie is also an omission of the truth and hurts trust just as deeply. More importantly: No Contact with FB! She will just be playing games with both of you. Link to post Share on other sites
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