disappointed in all these MM.

[silverplanets]

a) they have THEIR OWN REASONS for why they believe you're ok sleeping with them. Some men think ALL women want to have sex just because you smile at them.

b) they're mistake.

c) when you assume you make an ass out of u and me.

 

WF - Yes I'd agree with your comments ... OP was wondering what is in their head and my list was a couple of wild guesses of what might be driving them.

 

All this, of course, is driven, as you say, by their view of of the lady without having validated anyting with the lady first ...

[pureinheart]

You know MBEG, I am just so sorry that you have to put up with such a level of distortion, that you are unable to just be you and say what you need to and have it completely twisted in the twisted thinking of some of the individuals you deal with.

 

It almost makes you not want to talk to anyone....

 

As a kid, I was in the desert building forts with the guys while the girls were doing girl things....even as and adult I do a lot of things most women won't go near, speaking of major home improvements....the women in my neighborhood hate me because their H don't understand why they are not fixing the roof...lol ....I am female in all the right ways, just not prissy.

 

It's just hard....

[Untouchable_Fire]

actually it had the opposite effect on me. made me feel worthless and used. like i was only good for one thing. here i am working through things with friends and then i find out that theyre probably only being friends because they have other motives.

 

More than likely that is an after effect of the affair.

 

I'm just going to be honest and say most men have "other motives."

 

You know how to tell the guys who care about you from the ones that don't? The ones that care commit to you. They open their hearts to you. Most guys hate that because it makes us vulnerable.

 

I have both men and women friends. I actually spend the majority of my time talking to things with my girlfriends. But men sometimes offer a different point of view on these things...and when this thread started it wasnt about having good friends or what not. it was that recently ive had several MM hit on me...one of which i wasnt even friends with...just a coworker. maybe im more aware of it now.

 

I think you are more tuned into it now. In a way I think that is sad. Sometimes life is better when your naive to this stuff.

[Darth Vader]

I still don't think that just because she was M and having sex with a MM says that she wants to have sex ('looks available') to all other MM.

 

 

Ok, as you know people talk (gossip), like I said before. Sure, the peeps she told may be very trustworthy, but then again, all it takes is one. We've all had the experience, "oh, well I'll just tell this one person this really juicy secret, I can trust them, they would never tell a soul!" PLEASE! Next day, half the planet knows about it! We've all been there, even me!

 

So part of my point is, all it takes is one to spill the beans!

 

I don't know about that aura thing though.

[White Flower]

 

I don't know about that aura thing though.

I don't either.

[Darth Vader]

theres no need for a post like that. its laughable.

 

i do think that the fact that H & I have separated plays a role...but these men have no idea why. its not out there.

 

and if my H wanted to sample the goods as you say. well i guess i really cannot say much about it. i would hope it wouldnt happen, especially now know the hurt that something like this causes, but i couldnt say much.

 

and youre right in what you say, but i dont really think your post was intended to be helpful in anyway.

 

ive read your posts before when you vividly put sexual images out there for a betrayed spouse, just like youre trying to do here. IMHO something like that only comes from a truly troubled individual.

 

 

Actually there is reason for it. It's what you've done to your husband. I wondered how you can think my post is laughable (it's the truth after all). I've read another of your Thread posts as well, and it seems to confirm what I suspected from the way you answered my post.

 

You're still in your "affair fog", you still can't see what you've done, you're still addicted to your OM. I challenge you to come back and reread my "laughable post" in 6 months to 2 years from now, when the "fog's lifted" and see if it's still funny to you. Then you try to insult me, shows a lot about your character! Your husband needs to lose you like real quick and in a hurry!

 

As far as insulting Owl is concerned, not cool at all! Yeah, I read that thread too. He was trying to help you. I rarely, if ever, agree with Owl, but at least he's honest about what he says, and he's as legit as they come on LS. Even more so than me.

 

You owe Owl a very heartfelt apology.