It is not easy. No, it is not.

[Flavour]

I have just hung off the phone. It is our daily phone call, or maybe one of our daily phone calls. It's all we have. But sometimes it is not enough, just like today. I know that LDRs are not for the faint of heart. But oh man, if it is difficult.

Yesterday he was happy but distant, and today he was sad but distant. I will never really be able to know. I do the same, there are so many things that I do not tell him, just for not making him worry or just for not annoying him with trivial things. But I wonder....how much he does not tell me? What was really the reason of his sadness, and how am I supposed to know?

I knew this would have happened. This is why I spent a "folly" just to be with him three days at the beginning of November. Because a relationship *needs* contact, I NEED contact. Now I am at the end of my winter break. He could not afford to come and he did not want me to go there because it was like "taking advantage" of me. Big argument but it was it. And now I feel the distance literally eating our strength.

There are so many things to fight. I am stuck in a country with so many political and legal and economic troubles, trying my best to adjust the things concerning my child's custody but with my legal system I will have to be very patient. And both of us struggling trying to build an acceptable situation for us. If it is difficult when you are young, at our age is so frustrating.

Here I am, in front of my PC. I am studying my Hebrew and also converting in order to get married this summer. Because we want to get married no matter what the situation is at that point.

It sounds romantic but I have like a big monster inside my heart. I feel I am struggling against so many things. Oh there are moments-maybe that one sparkling moment- when you feel you are so connected, you feel your love is so strong and the strength of it can bring you forward for months. And then there are days like today.

 

I cannot fight the distance and the hidden thoughts and the disappointment.......I cannot do it being so far. Just a hug would be enough for clearing everything, but we don't have it.

 

And I wonder if we will ever have it again.

 

Sorry, today it is depression time. Just talking to myself. Thank you for listening.

[carvidep]

chin up, you'll see each other again! *HUGS!*

[Flavour]

Thank you dear. I am not so sure. A relationship is a living thing: it must be nourished and nurtured and cared for...otherwise it dries....it depends on the roots...but sometimes you are not given the opportunity to make roots stronger and deeper....damned distance.

[Ashbash11]

All I can say is, just keep on chugging along.. I've been where you are, and I've been feeling the same way as you are for almost 2 years (been doing long distance for about that long). Yes, the daily phone call is all we have, too. Don't lose sight of the future, though, and the time when you will be physically together. That's what keeps me going through the hard times. Long distance is one of the greatest tests of a relationship. If you can make it through long distance, you can make it through pretty much anything. Just my 2 cents.

[Rollercoasterr]

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry! I wish I could give you the biggest hug and bake you the biggest bunch of cookies in the world right now.

 

All I can say is that if he's really worth it, and if you're really worth it to him, your love will pull through. Love always wins when it's supposed to win.

 

In the beginning I had lots of days like this. It's not that he did anything wrong, or that we had fought, it was just that I felt like the distance was going to get the better of me. But then I stepped back and took a long hard look at our relationship. I decided that everything he and I was together was NOT worth throwing away. We make magic together. I'll go through any kind of hell on earth to be with him.

 

In the end all of this is worth it. I know it doesn't seem like much now, but if you give up and if he gives up you'll always wonder if it was really supposed to happen that way.

 

I never believed in signs until I began my LDR. But I fully believe that if it's supposed to happen, love will give you a sign. And if it's not, you'll know.

 

Hugs to you sweetness.

[Leatitia]

Forgive that I'm writing here about my love....

 

I live in Belgium (europe) and he in L.A. USA.

In 48 day's we will see us again.

but until than it is a long hard way.

I miss him so much and I cry everynight because of that.

 

I'm thinking all day on him.

And I'm thingking that maybe

I leave everything here back and go with him to USA.

What do you thing?

any ideas?

 

I Love him really much, he is the best thing that happen't to me.

I don't want to be with out hom anymore.

We e-mail each other and chat because Phone call's are very expensive.

Oh yes I have his nummber but I only have a mobile Phone.

 

Again Sorry that I'm writing in here. Forgive.

 

Yes it is very hard. But Love is stronger than every thing els.

And when I have my Love in my arms again I will never let go of him.

[Rollercoasterr]

Might want to start your own thread if you want specific advice.

 

And there's no way for you to "just leave" everything there, unless you want to be an illegal immigrant.

[Mei Mei]

Dear Flavour,

 

I feel for you. The distance really sucks at times, especially when are at some cloudy moments due to some lag in communication. But when we look back how we have gone through all barriers to reach the present moment, we would be proud of our perseverance in pursuance of real love.

 

I believe you have paid your best role. If you trust your SO are working in the same direction and goal, just relax and stay positive, the hard time will pass and you will see the light in the end of the tunnel soon!

[Flavour]

All I can say is, just keep on chugging along.. ................ Long distance is one of the greatest tests of a relationship. If you can make it through long distance, you can make it through pretty much anything. Just my 2 cents.

 

Thank you for the encouraging words:). I will keep them in mind. I know that our feeling is worth the effort......I only hope I have not to wait for too long...

[Flavour]

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry! I wish I could give you the biggest hug and bake you the biggest bunch of cookies in the world right now.

 

All I can say is that if he's really worth it, and if you're really worth it to him, your love will pull through. Love always wins when it's supposed to win.

 

 

............if it's supposed to happen, love will give you a sign. And if it's not, you'll know.

 

Hugs to you sweetness.

 

 

Thank you sweetie .......what a nice thing to say. love will give me a sign. Oh, I have received many of them....but I will wait for others. Thank you very, very much

[Flavour]

Dear Flavour,

 

I feel for you. The distance really sucks at times, especially when are at some cloudy moments due to some lag in communication. But when we look back how we have gone through all barriers to reach the present moment, we would be proud of our perseverance in pursuance of real love.

 

I believe you have paid your best role. If you trust your SO are working in the same direction and goal, just relax and stay positive, the hard time will pass and you will see the light in the end of the tunnel soon!

 

What a beautiful post, Mei Mei. I will save it. Thank you ((((hugs)))) you girls are wonderful:o

[Miad's Princess]

I totally empathise with you, I will see my so in march but these months have been harder than ever before. Sometimes I wonder how much longer I can do it for. Love will conquer all hunni, try to get a date for your next meet so you have something to look forward too. ((hugs))

[Lovin a scrapper]

We all hate the fact the we are not being able to see our love of our lives as much as we want but it is that LOVE for each other that drives us to make it through all the time that passes between each visit.

 

This obstacle will be cleared with the love that you have for him. Keep the memories of being with him close to your heart, always keep the faith and before you know it you will be right where you belong......in his arms again!

 

(((((Flavour)))))

[Flavour]

I totally empathise with you' date=' I will see my so in march but these months have been harder than ever before. Sometimes I wonder how much longer I can do it for. Love will conquer all hunni, try to get a date for your next meet so you have something to look forward too. ((hugs))[/quote']

Done, we have set a date around the end of March. Thank you sweetie ((()))

[Flavour]

We all hate the fact the we are not being able to see our love of our lives as much as we want but it is that LOVE for each other that drives us to make it through all the time that passes between each visit.

 

This obstacle will be cleared with the love that you have for him. Keep the memories of being with him close to your heart, always keep the faith and before you know it you will be right where you belong......in his arms again!

 

(((((Flavour)))))

 

This last statement of yours is priceless! I had an idea reading your post. I will create a thread where I will put all the encouragement words I have received or I read in other threads, so I will have a look at them when I am feeling down. Others can do the same. I need an "encouragement warehouse" and you have given me lots of stuff to put in it! :-)))