Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 he has shown himself to be genuine by the actions he has taken, even in his RL which I can quite easily see via the wonders of facebook to prove I have nothing to worry about. Not that I doubted him for a moment. And vice versa, of course. That's great CE. Sounds like you know what your getting into. However, how on earth do you know that someone is genuine.. when you have never meet them in person? Some how that just does not make much sense? Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 That's great CE. Sounds like you know what your getting into. However, how on earth do you know that someone is genuine.. when you have never meet them in person? Some how that just does not make much sense? Mea:) I suppose I will find out in March. Oh believe me I will be sure to share all of the details. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 See that's just it. Now in your case he meet your expectations.. so he had to be somewhat truthful.. but it looks like he had some skeltons in his closet that came out after you were spending time with him IRL.. I have a strong feeling this happens more often than not. Oh, he had a whole collection of skeletons in his closet...and a host of unresolved psychological issues as well. Often these types are the most attractive and dangerous. They use their brains and looks to expertly deceive unsuspecting victims. You don't get a look into their sick psyches until it's too late. Seriously, the thought of him creeps me out even today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 I suppose I will find out in March. Oh believe me I will be sure to share all of the details. Good luck.. and remember your safety comes first. Please remember that. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Good luck.. and remember your safety comes first. Please remember that. Mea:) He should be more worried about his. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 He should be more worried about his. :lmao: I never thought about that. Now really CE be careful. ok? These things are risky! Please trust me here... and if I'm wrong you can club me over the head with a kangaroo. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 I suppose I will find out in March. Oh believe me I will be sure to share all of the details. Good luck! But do remember safety. Good luck.. and remember your safety comes first. Please remember that. Mea:) If CE does not report back, we'll send AM's wacko his way. Honestly, most of my early relationships started online and then progressed to RL then mixed communications. Many of my relationships started on the net. Most of my recent dates are those that I would not normally meet thru the net. Link to post Share on other sites
Hazyhead Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 I suppose I will find out in March. Oh believe me I will be sure to share all of the details. I hope it works out really well for you CE Yes, of course, you can but the Net seems to attract more of these shady. suspicious types. In fact, it is the perfect breeding ground for them. You're right. But then those determined to deceive, will. I suppose, though, when you meet someone in person there are more ways in which to 'read' them, whereas online all you have are words. And we all know how meaningless they can be! I'm sorry your situation turned out so horribly Marlena. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 Oh, he had a whole collection of skeletons in his closet...and a host of unresolved psychological issues as well. Often these types are the most attractive and dangerous. They use their brains and looks to expertly deceive unsuspecting victims. You don't get a look into their sick psyches until it's too late. Seriously, the thought of him creeps me out even today. Yes.. Yes.. this is just like the guy I delt with.. but never meet in person.. it was many, many moons ago. Now my friend on the other hand, her guy sounded much the same. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 OH what have I missed!???!! Who is CE going to meet in March? Please someone tell me! For the record, I met H online, but we transferred to real life very quickly, the net was simply a means to arrange a meet up really. Rest is history. I would do it again. Although I know of a few people who have had bad experiences, I know more who have had good ones, and I know a few people who met their spouse this way. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Didn't Alpha meet someone from LS and it didn't turn out well?? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Yes, I remember that but I can't remember who it was either. Damn! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Yes, I remember that but I can't remember who it was either. Damn! I know. I'm meeting Pyro, who else? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 My guess was either him or Johan. Yay! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Didn't Alpha meet someone from LS and it didn't turn out well?? Yes, I remember that but I can't remember who it was either. Damn! BTDT It was so last decade! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 Just for clarity here peeps.. this thread is not about meeting people from LS. The thread is about meeting someone anyone in general from anywhere on the net. Thanks. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 I think you do have to be really careful who you meet in RL, if you meet them through cyberspace. If your spidey-sense is tingling in any way, don't do it. BT, didn't do it! On the otherhand, it's no different than meeting someone for the first time in real life, and starting to date them right away. If you do your homework, including background checks, you can reduce but never completely remove your risk, at least from the perspective of physical assault. Emotional trauma can happen in any relationship, Net or otherwise. Having said that, I hope that things work out for CE and Pyro. They make a good match. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 I think you do have to be really careful who you meet in RL, if you meet them through cyberspace. If your spidey-sense is tingling in any way, don't do it. BT, didn't do it! Yes. 100 % spot on here!! On the otherhand, it's no different than meeting someone for the first time in real life, and starting to date them right away. If you do your homework, including background checks, you can reduce but never completely remove your risk, at least from the perspective of physical assault. Not so true. The person could very well give you the wrong name... and then what do you have to go on? IMO, in order to potect yourself you should take someone along with you... this way you are with a trusted family member or friend.. and have an easy out if need be. Perhaps I'm just overly parinoid about things such as this. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Oh, didn't mention a 'why' from my perspective. For me, simply, it's more efficient, as I live a good 20 miles or more from 'civilization' and it's expensive and time-consuming to press the flesh in the traditional manner. I already pay for internet service for my business, so there ya go. Going through a divorce is a financially draining exercise so one has to be efficient. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 I have never ever heard of a 'success story' when the cyber-relationship was long distance... There is a clear difference between someone you meet online who is 'close' by and you then meet soon after in RL... then you go from there... I have known a few people who tried LDR.. and it didn't work... it's one thing to flirt, chat, text, talk over the phone.. and it's another story when you meet in RL.. My daughter's best friend became very much involved on the net with a guy in the UK... it completely destroyed her.. he was a 'loser' ... drunk.. maybe drug addict (she wasn't sure)... no money.. she was the one who went the extra miles to meet him.. it cost her a lot of money.. and I think she's still paying for debts that was incurred when he flew over here.. She is currently on long-term sick leave.. (major depression).. My daughter met him.. and didn't have good vibes right off the bat... this guy was clearly a 'parasite'... in many 'departments'... My daughter tried to warn her many many times.. but she was head over heels for this loser.. her parents also tried to intervene.. nothing would do.. she thought everyone else were wrong.. and that he (loser) was amazing, etc.. She thought no one could understand.. Anyway... I do not believe in LDR (online or otherwise).. it's simply not realistic to think 2 people can have a 'healthy' relationship when they are thousand of miles apart.. just doesn't make sense.. Most of the time.. one of them (usually the guy, from the ones I know) is 'broke', 'psychologically damaged', drunk or a drug addict... and the woman ends up with the monetary burden and the pain... quite pathetic really. But I guess... no one can make them understand .. they have to live the painful experience ... Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Hmmm. Interesting points Lizzie. I agree with all of them. Long-distance relationships, especially with people you talk to on the Internet which is a shady venue to begin with, are pointless really. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 My daughter tried to warn her many many times.. but she was head over heels for this loser.. her parents also tried to intervene.. nothing would do.. she thought everyone else were wrong.. and that he (loser) was amazing, etc.. She thought no one could understand.. It's to bad she did not listen to anyone. I think this must happen quite a bit. Especially to those who are involved with a very convincing sort of guy. You know the type that uses the word "beautiful" and just says all these nice things.. oh and likes to talk about sex as well. And for a insecure person who craves attention, men like this on the net can really make them think they are all that and more. When IRL.. the complete opposite is true. Glad your daughters friend is ok. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Isn't it rather disingenuous to only point the finger externally, for people online being messed up, and yet, also be someone who has had online relationships, whether it's friendships or romantic interests? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 Isn't it rather disingenuous to only point the finger externally, for people online being messed up, and yet, also be someone who has had online relationships, whether it's friendships or romantic interests? Not at all. And it's a fact of life TBF.. that some people online are messed up.. same holds true for many IRL. My point was more about the dangers of these types of relationships.. and if they really amount to anything productive. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 It's to bad she did not listen to anyone. I think this must happen quite a bit. Especially to those who are involved with a very convincing sort of guy. You know the type that uses the word "beautiful" and just says all these nice things.. oh and likes to talk about sex as well. And for a insecure person who craves attention, men like this on the net can really make them think they are all that and more. When IRL.. the complete opposite is true. Glad your daughters friend is ok. Mea:) the thing is.. she's never been OK since... she fell into a deep depression.. can't work anymore (for a while).. They all (without exception) think that it will NOT happen to THEM... well.. surprise... LOTS of losers out there.. Link to post Share on other sites
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