Rollercoasterr Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 What he says here makes me think that instead of working hes taking care of her full time. Which lead me to believe that although he may love his mother he is overwehlmed at taking care of her which is leading to anger and resentment. He says hes taking care of her because she is sick. But then he also says he spends all day in his room watching porn and playing video games. He can't be doing both, hon. I'll bet he probably stays in his room until his mother has to drag him out for something she needs, and that's why he's so pissy about it. Link to post Share on other sites
TwinkletOes26 Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 well until he comes in to clarify all we are doing is speculating. Maybe hes trolling maybe he isnt all we can do is wait for him to come back. I hate to assume things with out any real proof. It sounds like from what he typed that he sits in his room watching porn and video games while his mom is sleep or watching tv or whatever. He says he cant move because hes taking care of her. I see nowhere he typed hes at home bc he doesnt want to work. Again im starting to assume so Ill just wait on him to come back and clarify if he....that is if he isnt trolling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Norman Bates Posted January 4, 2010 Author Share Posted January 4, 2010 (edited) I'm thinking it is a troll post, Who lives like that? I thought maybe if there was a long history of his about this but...... Wouldn't living like that be an indication of also having mental problems and not being a good choice for being a care giver? Wow this thread blew up. No im not a troll as much as I wish I was. I feel kind of stupid for writing the OP the way I did. I was just angry and I only mentioned the porn because.. well i dont know to show you how sad I am.. lol I dont know. My family isnt what you would call normal. I watched my old man beat my mother and my sisters up as a little kid. We all lived in fear. I could write a book about all the evil **** he has done to us. He would go out and sleep with other woman then come home and beat her. He always used to think she was cheating on him. My mum did the best she could to look after me my sisters and little brother. Made us go to school, worked and got her drivers licence secretly from my dad. She had to because my dad was always out with other woman and I had heaps of problems with my eyes and would always take me to the doctors. The only time he ever came to the hospital with me was to pick me up after I had surgery and you know what? he ****ing hit me that day My older sister got put into a foster home and my other 2 sisters got into drugs. 11 years ago, one of my sisters died from a drug overdose. We ordered her medical files from her doctors and we found out that she was sexually abused by my dad. Im pretty sure my dad has made my mum the way she is. I love her heaps but I just cant stand the way she treats me. It was easier for her to manipulate me when I was younger and I hate my self for listening to every damn word she said. Its now very hard for me to find work as I have no work experiance and my school grades arent that great. Not sure if I mentioned it in the OP, but I went to a job network agency that helps people find work and get into work experiance. When she found out she was pretty upset and was saying things like "you cant work, you have problems" but im not going to listen to that **** anymore. The latest thing she has been telling me to do is go to our home country and get married. Sorry for my long post. Also making my username Norman Bates might have been a little to overboard lol. EDIT: When I say sit at home all day watching porn and playing games, its when my mum is sick and cant get out of bed. I hate porn (I realy do) but damn you can just forget about things for a little while. Im thinking about getting into some contructive kind of hobbies to keep my mind sane. As Dr.Phill would say, "get out of your confoert zone" lol Edited January 4, 2010 by Norman Bates Link to post Share on other sites
TwinkletOes26 Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 Well here we go...this is exactly why I dont like to assume anything. Norman good job ignoring your mother and trying to get on with your life. I still say that your mothers issues are too much for you to handle. I still think she is in dire need of some sort of counseling. Years of abuse have most likely taken a tole on her as well as you. Maybe some domestic abuse counseling?Good luck in your future efforts Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Wow this thread blew up. No im not a troll as much as I wish I was. I feel kind of stupid for writing the OP the way I did. I was just angry and I only mentioned the porn because.. well i dont know to show you how sad I am.. lol I dont know. My family isnt what you would call normal. I watched my old man beat my mother and my sisters up as a little kid. We all lived in fear. I could write a book about all the evil **** he has done to us. He would go out and sleep with other woman then come home and beat her. He always used to think she was cheating on him. My mum did the best she could to look after me my sisters and little brother. Made us go to school, worked and got her drivers licence secretly from my dad. She had to because my dad was always out with other woman and I had heaps of problems with my eyes and would always take me to the doctors. The only time he ever came to the hospital with me was to pick me up after I had surgery and you know what? he ****ing hit me that day My older sister got put into a foster home and my other 2 sisters got into drugs. 11 years ago, one of my sisters died from a drug overdose. We ordered her medical files from her doctors and we found out that she was sexually abused by my dad. Im pretty sure my dad has made my mum the way she is. I love her heaps but I just cant stand the way she treats me. It was easier for her to manipulate me when I was younger and I hate my self for listening to every damn word she said. Its now very hard for me to find work as I have no work experiance and my school grades arent that great. Not sure if I mentioned it in the OP, but I went to a job network agency that helps people find work and get into work experiance. When she found out she was pretty upset and was saying things like "you cant work, you have problems" but im not going to listen to that **** anymore. The latest thing she has been telling me to do is go to our home country and get married. Sorry for my long post. Also making my username Norman Bates might have been a little to overboard lol. EDIT: When I say sit at home all day watching porn and playing games, its when my mum is sick and cant get out of bed. I hate porn (I realy do) but damn you can just forget about things for a little while. Im thinking about getting into some contructive kind of hobbies to keep my mind sane. As Dr.Phill would say, "get out of your confoert zone" lol Still, nothing you've said here shows that your mother is crazy or manipulating you. Not a single word. Rather, I think you're blaming your mother for your DAD's actions (and YOUR OWN decisions) over the years, which isn't fair. But I'm glad you acknowledged your OP and name choice were over the top given the circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
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