Break up?

[eca]

Been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now. Lately, all we do is argue. It's always over really, really petty things, obviously because we're so frustrated with not being able to physically be with eachother, and we just miss eachother to bits.

 

Usually I want to fix the argument right away, but the last little argument we had, I just turned off my phone for 4 hours, and didn't talk to him. And honestly, it felt good. Of course I still worried, oh god, he's going to be so mad..but I felt worry free for a little while.

 

I never told him this, just said I left my phone at home on accident while I went out. But today we had another spat, and instead of solving it he just went to sleep. So, usually I text him some sweet things, apologizing for the stupidness of the argument, and say i love him.

 

But, this time I didn't. I don't know if it's that I'm just getting so sick of the constant arguments over literally nothing, or what. My question is, do you think its worth staying with him?

 

I like him a lot, and I'm supposed to be visiting him in march. But, I just feel in my gut that this isn't going how I wanted. I really DON'T want to break up with him, ONLY because he's the most sensitive person ever (his last ex, it took him about 2yrs to get over, and i'm his 1st relationship since then), and I don't want to hurt his feelings. And, if I break him with him, I KNOW i'll be so hurt/miserable too. I'll sit here feeling like a horrible person, and probably thinking of all the actual good times we had.

But, I can't help but think that the hurt of losing him may be better than dealing with these pointless arguments all the time. And if I completely cut off communication and stuff, which is easier in a long distance relationship, wouldn't it be easier to get over him?

 

Oh, please any advice you have would be so helpful!! Thanks!

[2sunny]

how far away are you both and do you ever plan to be together permanently? what is keeping you apart at the moment?

[eca]

how far away are you both and do you ever plan to be together permanently? what is keeping you apart at the moment?

 

 

hes in england, im in america, we had planned to be together permanently but it won't be until we're both finished with college, which is 2 years left for both of us. :/

[eca]

any help, please?

[Rollercoasterr]

Honey, I saw where you said you liked him a lot, but do you LOVE him??

 

If you don't love him deep down, I don't see how this is beneficial to either of you. I say this with a very heavy heart since I always want love to win, but if you're feeling this way then maybe this love just isn't for you.

[Flavour]

Guilt is not a good reason to keep a relationship going. Do not feel guilty for him, love him. When you love someone, you are just forced to. If you are just feeling guilty, let him go...he deserves to be loved not compassioned. I would not want that.

[ginyi1111]

Your bf sounds almost the same as my ex (yes, my ex). He also took two years to get over his previously serious gf of 7 years even though in my heart I doubted if he had really gotten over her.

 

I dont really know what to advise you. What is going on in your mind right now was the exact same reason that my ex gave me when he broke up with me. That it is better to deal with the pain of losing me than to deal with the constant pain of not having me there by his side.

 

If this distance is not gonna be something long term, and if you really love him I do not see why there is a need to break up with him. After all you do love him and vice versa. If you are getting sick of the petty fights and would rather break up than to discuss it with him, it just sounds like you are not willing to deal with the rough patch in this LDR. Or maybe you just dont love him enough to stick through this with him...