Losing faith

[XKatieX]

Its already been 3 years waited being apart, still 2 more years to go. It seems so far away and I'm starting to feel like I'm not going to be able to pull through. Things are the toughest they've ever been, and I don't think they could get much worse.

 

I feel like I'm going to break down, my heart is a huge weight right now and the only way that weight will ever be lifted is when I can be with him forever.

 

Whats the longest anyone on here has waited or is waiting to be with someone for good?

[Flavour]

But sweetie, you have just posted in the "Encouragement warehouse that "nothing worthwhile is easy" and you are right, by the way.

 

(((Hugs))))

 

Hang in there. Nourish your relationship with all the energy you have already given to it. Winter is just a season. You have done the biggest part.

Two years go away in a flash. you will see. You would do it again, would not you? I bet yes. In a heartbeat.

So just hang in there. Go out and do something to nurture your relationship. Do a phone call, send a cd, a picture, an emai....everything. Send a teddy bear, a pajama....look for a house that you like on the net and send the picture to him....visualize. Don't you know that visions become reality?

If it was not worthwhile it would not have lasted so long. You have been really clever.

Everything will be okay. You will see.

[Miad's Princess]

Go visit him, it will take the presure off and relieve that weight, even just for a little while.

 

P.s I have been waiting 2.5 years and have around 1.5 years still to go.

[Romance]

When can you see each other? How far away is he?

 

you've pulled through for so long, and there is end in sight.

 

As for me, I've done it for 1.5 years. Probably have about 3? maybe more years to go. I have to wait until he'd be at the point in his life where he would want to get engaged

[XKatieX]

When can you see each other? How far away is he?

 

you've pulled through for so long, and there is end in sight.

 

As for me, I've done it for 1.5 years. Probably have about 3? maybe more years to go. I have to wait until he'd be at the point in his life where he would want to get engaged

 

 

We are an hour and a half away from each other.

 

Right now I haven't seen him in 3 months going on 4, due to a new full time job he got. He rarely has a day off and on that one day he has off he is usually dead beat tired from working all day.

 

When he didn't have a job or only worked part time we saw each other 2 or 3 times a month

 

At this point, I don't know if I'll be able to see him or if it will even work anymore. A lot has changed, we fight more and we don't talk as much, so if we aren't able to see each other it might just be the breaking point.

[EricaH329]

Oh Katie, i'm so sorry you are going through this!!

 

I am all too familiar with what the breaking point feels like. But just like you said "things can't get worse". So my advice to you would be to start making it better!

 

Easier said then done, right?

 

As someone else posted already (sorry I forgot to look up the name before I replied), do cute little things. You know what I do? In the course of a year i've made two slideshows of pictures of him and I, with music in the backround. Took me a few hours, and while I was doing it, I was totally invested. Just looking at the pictures made me feel better.

 

I know that there's a lot more to it then just doing nice little things like that. There's a deeper reason as to why you are feeling this way. Have you tried talking to him about it?

 

Maybe you can arrange for a surprise visit?

 

My ex is in another country, if only he was an hour and a half away. Take advantage of that.

 

If this man is truly worth it, you will push through this rough patch. I know it's hard, trust me I do. But once it's over, you'll feel like you've accomplished something, and not by yourself, but with the man that you love. Brings you closer together.

[califnan]

I have not been in your position... Please don't loose faith ... Pray to God for you and your loved one... Plan for the return .. Do things with your life that will further enhance the return .. Write many letters to your loved one for uplifting and encouragement ..

[califnan]

Katie, When I wrote my first reply - I hadn't seen your second response in elaboration .. Seek God, he will answer you ... Spend this time with Him .. In this quiet time that you are not with your loved one - God can move mountains .. Busy yourself... In your silence - He will speak for you .. It is a good time through this test period, to be sure of the relationship ..

[Ashbash11]

For us, it's already been over a year... it could be as long as 3 years that we are apart. I understand how you are feeling. I find that what helps me MOST is the visits, which remind me of why I am putting myself through this pain...

 

Also, maybe it would help to make a list of all the things you love about your boyfriend? Keep reminding yourself of why you are doing this, and tell yourself that it's worth it!!