Why are you on this site? Are you happy? Sad?

[Vertex]

I realized, for myself personally, that I'm only on this site when I'm not satisfied with my life in some aspect. Is this true for everyone else here, or are there people here who are extremely satisfied with their lives and use this board as a way to further understand/teach others/give advice, as opposed to someone coming here looking for help?

[MissJoness]

It depends. Sometimes this site can make my longing for sex and a relationship (along with others) a lot worse. Reading about other people having sex and being in relationships can make me very jealous/bitter and I wish I had the same. There was one site I used to visit a couple years ago and I had to stop because the women kept bragging about how big their mens penis' were and how awesome their sex life was; saying they were squirting all over the place and have earth shattering orgasms everytime they had sex. I would just cry everytime I read this. I eventually left and never returned

[ella23]

I initially joined a few years ago when I didn't really have any problem as such, but I came back because I'm not satisfied with my dating life.

[lucy9216]

It depends. Sometimes this site can make my longing for sex and a relationship (along with others) a lot worse. Reading about other people having sex and being in relationships can make me very jealous/bitter and I wish I had the same. There was one site I used to visit a couple years ago and I had to stop because the women kept bragging about how big their mens penis' were and how awesome their sex life was; saying they were squirting all over the place and have earth shattering orgasms everytime they had sex. I would just cry everytime I read this. I eventually left and never returned

 

That is so funny that you say that because I thought I was the only one who felt that way....

 

I initially joined because when I started dating again after never really being in the dating scene due to always being in a ltr since I was 16 I was completely confused on what to expect and needed some outsiders opinions on things. but I did stop logging in for a few months because it was very depressing reading about how great everyone's sex life is and well mine isn't.....

[Ruby Slippers]

I joined last year because I was unhappy in a relationship and was seeking advice. Four months after that, I broke up with him and decided to be single for a year. I used this year to learn and read a lot about life, the universe, and everything, including and especially relationships. This site is one of the resources I have used. It has its weak points, but for the most part, I have learned a lot about men and women and how they think. At this point, I feel that I use the site about equally to get and give advice, and my mood or state of being does not correlate strongly with my degree of use of the site.

[carhill]

Free therapy and being a helper personality

 

I did ask a dating question the other day, so I guess gathering help and/or opinion can now be added to that.

 

Nice resource and community.

[ordinary_girl]

I originally joined years ago when I found browsing the threads helpful to understand different aspects of dating better. I was in an LTR for a long time and had to learn how to get out there to meet men again. I then stopped using this site because I was away travelling for quite a while.

 

Now I'm back with a different username because I forgot my old one (it was just random letters and numbers) and have to say this time around for me this is more about keeping up with social trends. I am European, this site is predominantly American, dating cultures are very different and I find that fascinating.

 

I am not sure how much this site shapes my views, I find a lot of posters quite defensive and insecure and a lot of the advice given here appears to stem from that state of mind. This is quite the opposite what I am trying to achieve in my life because being defensive is kind of equivalent of being defeatist.

 

There are a lot of positives that people try to enforce as well though (for example the importance of communication) and I think that's very useful.

[stevejohnson1976]

im here to try and get advice on online dating since I have basically never dated in my life. im not happy or sad. just looking for advice and experiences...

[nddb]

resource.

 

It's one of the few places that reminds me to be a relationship partner and to be mindful of relationship/romance on a daily basis.

 

Been married nearly 20 years and if left unchecked, I can go on auto-pilot with work/living details and let the communication/romance/initiative die.

 

Also, it's kinda like visiting the orphanage. You look around, then you go...whew, I'm glad we are fine in this, this, and this area.

 

Also, I'm on the dating forum because I'm of the belief that one should never let dating skills die, even after being married. I approach each outing with my wife with the dating mindset and her as my date for the evening or weekend...keep things fresh.

[threebyfate]

This site is a fascinating glimpse into many personality types, in many walks of life.

 

IMO, I give more than take but that's subjective, reliant on whether you "get" anything from what I have to offer. But most def. I do take, as well.

 

This site is a well-spring of white, grey and black, advice. It's up to the individual to take what they need from it. When issues come into the grey zone, personality/core values, will define what advice works for the individual.

 

But if you're looking at trying to figure out your own dark side, this site is the absolute best for that, through observation and self-analysis. It's also a great way to figure out what not to do!

[doushenka]

are there people here who are extremely satisfied with their lives and use this board as a way to further understand/teach others/give advice

 

That one. I get to help when I can, and learn when I can't. Brilliant!

[meerkat stew]

1/3 learning from others different POVs

1/3 ranting and venting, hopefully mostly humorously

1/3 trying to help people who seem to really need it

[Pizzaman81]

I am happy with my life. Sure there are things beyond my control which is a bummer, but overall happy!

 

1. I enjoy listening to other people's problems and trying to help.

 

2. I am single and like to post things to get some advice and input on my adventures

 

3. I LOVE you all

[samspade]

I'm here to undo the brainwashing of the typical American male.

[Buckeye Candy]

I'm fairly happy in general and extremely happy in my relationship. After many years of dating ups and downs experiences I've hit pay dirt so I thought I'd offer advice to anyone struggling with dating.

[Sam Spade]

I used to be sad (found the forums post-breakup, almost 2 yrs ago). Now I'm pretty happy, but still stop by just to feed off the negativity like a succubus and to keep it real (being too happy is just as bad and annoying as being too negative). Also, the condescending types here keep me motivated to kick ass and take names IRL (or else I might get too soft).

On the upside, there are some pretty cool cats here. (In a parallel universe Carhill is my dad, and Woogle is my no-good cool uncle, and Taramere is either by mom or my wife - doesn't matter)

Edited January 5, 2010 by Sam Spade

[melodymatters]

I joined by googling a R problem as many of us did, but then I got ADDICTED !

 

I've been here happy as a clam, and about as miserable as a person can get, and LS was always there with a high five and congrats, or hugs and virtual hankies.

 

If nothing else this site makes me THINK. It takes me outside myself, it joins me to the community of human beings going through the gauntlet we call life !

 

Thanks LS !

[threebyfate]

mel, you're one of the members who makes me come back to LS, time and again!

[Crazy Magnet]

I found LS because I needed relationship advice. I stay here to hopefully help others, to marvel at some views people posts, and to continue to receive help with my own dating life. Overall I am very happy and content with my life, even with my love life.

[Star Gazer]

mel, you're one of the members who makes me come back to LS, time and again!

 

Agreed!!!

 

I initially came here for help, but now that I'm perfectly happy with everything in my life, I'm just...addicted.

[Die Hard]

I'm just addicted to reading the stories after having gotten involved with a married woman and finding this site.. That's been over a long time but the stories just keep coming. The political forum sections help keep me coming back too.

 

I've never truly felt I fit in here tho. Having a relationship is very far down my priority list so I never feel as if I have much in common with people here who seem to put a priority on having another person in their life, romantically speaking. Not that there is anything wrong with that...I just don't relate. I'm as happy as one can be who is just getting ready to start their career. I feel as if I have the whole world ahead of me

Edited January 5, 2010 by Die Hard

[e.clipse]

...but then I got ADDICTED !

 

i'm glad you are, mel, because otherwise, you wouldn't be here, and that would royally suck. i you.

 

anyway, i first joined LS in late 2005. i was going through my first serious breakup with PP and was extremely sad. then i got bombarded with family problems that, do date, i don't really comprehend, so my hurt got worse.

 

i remember i posted a lot under my original username--mostly posts filled with emptiness, sadness, and confusion.

 

after what has got the be the worst years of my life, things got better, then bad again, and so on and so forth.

 

today, i'm not all that satisfied with my life, as i know there are many more improvements i yet need to make, but i am definitely feeling a lot better.

 

i don't offer much advice because i am one of the "younger" posters here and i realize i don't have much experience. however, my favorite thing is to come on here and offer a "shoulder," so to speak, and give my opinion where i think it will be useful.

 

also, to be honest, a main reason why i am still on here is because of some of the regulars i remember. it is always fun to read what they are up to, even if i don't always respond to them. that said, this place would not be as inviting to me without some posters, like Story (miss her), b4r, SG, Art, Mel, Undies (The Walmart), amer, CE, etc, etc.

 

for now, to be more direct, i just wander around reading stuff and chimming in wherever i want.

[Golfilla]

Right now I'm on because I have a chest infection and won't be going to work today.

 

However, in general terms I come here for a combination of entertainment, information and a place to vent, much like any other BBS.

[Eve]

I am a pretty happy person in real life. I come here because it is interesting and can be funny. Mainly I am in a bit of a transition at the mo, what the with the kids growing up and leaving home. I hope that I can be useful to some but somtimes I cant relate to stuff that goes off. I do feel more grateful for the little I do have in coming here and value being a survivor of various difficulties yet more now.

 

Overall, its GREAT when a truly genuine post comes up and people here gather to offer perspective or simple comfort.

 

 

Take care,

Eve xx

[Golfilla]

I've never truly felt I fit in here tho. Having a relationship is very far down my priority list so I never feel as if I have much in common with people here who seem to put a priority on having another person in their life, romantically speaking. Not that there is anything wrong with that...I just don't relate.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about that, I tend to be of the same mindset and I'm sure there are plenty of others here who feel the same way. That said, I don't generally try to 'fit in' on message boards generally. In my experience, that tends to require simply posting what other people want to read, regardless of whether or not you agree with it. It's far more interesting to simply post whatever is on your mind, whether or not people like it.