skydiveaddict Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Yes, it's the hardest thing, dealing with a broken heart. I am often reminded of him. I feel unconsolable today. IDK what to do... Just hang in there you will be ok Link to post Share on other sites
HLP234 Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 It does get better, but not for a while. You need to get out as much as possible and meet new people. Every day I think its getting better but then it hits me like a brick in the head. Stupid feelings never seem to get drowned out. All there is to do is wait. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) Yes, it's the hardest thing, dealing with a broken heart. I am often reminded of him. I feel unconsolable today. IDK what to do... You know what ? Go skydiving this weekend! I'm DEAD serious. It'll be the biggest rush of your life & you'll want to do it again. You wont be thinking of your ex when you're out the door @ 12000 ft. Plus you meet a lot of fun people. At least think about it It will help you conquer your fears, & will prove to yourself that you can conquer your heartache too. you don't need this guy. you deserve better Edited January 9, 2010 by skydiveaddict Link to post Share on other sites
HLP234 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 I so want to go skydiving too. But I think I will hold off on that because tahts what me and my ex wanted to do. We were even talking about it before she just randomly left me without saying a word. I've taken up going to the shooting range, hanging out as much as I can, partying when ever. I don't think about my ex at all when Im doing those things but as soon as Im done..it all comes back one way or another. My friends say it wont be something that just goes away little by little, its going to be a drastic change. I really can't wait for that. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 I so want to go skydiving too. But I think I will hold off on that because tahts what me and my ex wanted to do. We were even talking about it before she just randomly left me without saying a word. . DON'T hold off dude. DO it. i guarantee you wont be thinking of your ex when you jump It's a whole other world and you meet tons of cool people let your ex do what's she's gonna do. you cant change it anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 You know what ? Go skydiving this weekend! I'm DEAD serious. It'll be the biggest rush of your life & you'll want to do it again. You wont be thinking of your ex when you're out the door @ 12000 ft. Plus you meet a lot of fun people. At least think about it It will help you conquer your fears, & will prove to yourself that you can conquer your heartache too. you don't need this guy. you deserve better Omgosh Skydiving! That's a totally cool idea. How often do you skydive? Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Yes, it's the hardest thing, dealing with a broken heart. I am often reminded of him. I feel unconsolable today. IDK what to do... Keep reminding yourself he doesn't deserve you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Keep reminding yourself he doesn't deserve you. Hi Banana! I'm feeling ok right now. I've cried my eyes out but you're right he doesn't deserve me and the one man who does is still out there. That gives me hope. Thank you for your encouraging words. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 I so want to go skydiving too. But I think I will hold off on that because tahts what me and my ex wanted to do. We were even talking about it before she just randomly left me without saying a word. I've taken up going to the shooting range, hanging out as much as I can, partying when ever. I don't think about my ex at all when Im doing those things but as soon as Im done..it all comes back one way or another. My friends say it wont be something that just goes away little by little, its going to be a drastic change. I really can't wait for that. Yah I need to take up a hobby too. Something to fill up my time. Maybe I should take up cooking or baking classes. Or kickboxing. That's a good one. I'll imagine my ex and his "online friend" while I'm kicking and punching. Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Hi Banana! I'm feeling ok right now. I've cried my eyes out but you're right he doesn't deserve me and the one man who does is still out there. That gives me hope. Thank you for your encouraging words. Promise me... Penelope's been very helpful, but I need a woman's insight if you don't mind.. b/c I'm over analyzing something... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Promise me... Penelope's been very helpful, but I need a woman's insight if you don't mind.. b/c I'm over analyzing something... Sure, what's up? Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Sure, what's up? If you don't mind... sorry & thanks http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2588083&postcount=51 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 If you don't mind... sorry & thanks http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2588083&postcount=51 No worries! She probably unblocked you to play mindgames with you which she has successfully done. I think you should just disregard it and focus on moving on. If she really wants to contact you, she'll send u an email or call u, not just unblock you. Till then, be strong. Remain NC. Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 No worries! She probably unblocked you to play mindgames with you which she has successfully done. I think you should just disregard it and focus on moving on. If she really wants to contact you, she'll send u an email or call u, not just unblock you. Till then, be strong. Remain NC. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Also remember that you deserve someone better than her. You're a nice guy you deserve to be treated well, not just as a rebound bf. I know it's hard to see past her unblocking you on her FB but ex's sometimes feel like we've forgotten them so they try to pull off these little things to rope us back in. Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Also remember that you deserve someone better than her. You're a nice guy you deserve to be treated well, not just as a rebound bf. I know it's hard to see past her unblocking you on her FB but ex's sometimes feel like we've forgotten them so they try to pull off these little things to rope us back in. I figured she was being selfish and expects me to break the no contact. I am wondering how long it's going to be until she breaks it. And I believe she will. I'm not hoping for it.. i'm expecting it. And I won't be ready when it happens. The way I'm acting now after being unblocked. Ha... i'll probably lie stagnant in my bed for weeks crying. FML. I used to be such a confident, smart, intelligent guy... all I do now is get my lab work done... go to the gym all pissed off... eat and then come on here ... jeez. I need to live again. Thank you BHG Under no circumstance (as I told Penelope)... even if the ex contacts me.. and as much as I "miss" her.. I will not break the NC unless she travels the 4 hours to me and begs me to take her back and she was a fool. I would never make a woman grovel ... I respect women. Not a womanizer... but this is not a woman. This is not a girl.. this is a monster . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 No problemo! Wait did you say you work at a lab? Not a womanizer and respects women? You're the perfect guy then. A lot of girls would love to date you. You just need to get yourself. Out of this rut. Forget about the monster. I'll call my ex a monster too. I think he's more of a monster than urs. But anyway I'm glad that you're taking a stand and not breaking NC. Keep it up. You're doing well. Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 No problemo! Wait did you say you work at a lab? Not a womanizer and respects women? You're the perfect guy then. A lot of girls would love to date you. You just need to get yourself. Out of this rut. Forget about the monster. I'll call my ex a monster too. I think he's more of a monster than urs. But anyway I'm glad that you're taking a stand and not breaking NC. Keep it up. You're doing well. I repel women... LOL. I'm a graduate student researcher... so it's tough to get out. I'm sitting here @ 3:06AM reading scientific journals and crying online LOL I'm pathetic... the coffee is good though. I've been told.. time and time again by women who get to know me... if they didn't take the chance to talk to me, they'd never speak to me. I'm told I'm a poet in a jock's body... I bodybuild. Women see me as that alpha male jock douchebag type and I'm not =/ Image is everything... but this is the image I'm comfortable with. Sucks for me. I am physically fit for myself.. I don't do it to pick up women. I don't go to bars or clubs... hm.. and you stay strong too! Thank you so much BHG. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Omgosh Skydiving! That's a totally cool idea. How often do you skydive? every chance i get probably average 20 jumps a month Link to post Share on other sites
twinklecat Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Hi lovelydaze! Yah I love that movie too. It's a good movie to watch especially in our current situation. You know what kills me most about my breakup, it's the part where I think about how he'd take her (the other woman) to the same places we used to eat, watch concerts, hang out... It's like to me these were special places that are just going to be forgotten. All our history just gone down the drain. I feel like 3 yrs of our lives together will be erased on his side. Even now that I have proof of his online infidelities, I still find myself blaming myself for the breakup. I should have been a better gf, a more patient one. I should have pursued my own goals and still maintained my own individuality. I should have taken care of myself protected myself, never let my guard down. Hey there Brokenhearted_girl I saw this and it's kinda how I feel, even though I know my ex is NO good for me, just being tossed to one side for someone else, after all we went through, means absolutely nothing. I know it's not me that's the issue, but I still have those thoughts. I am taking comfort in sticking with NC, at just under a month now, doing lots improve myself, socialize etc, but man sometimes it just appears out of nowhere and hits me like a truck! I have no regrets though, this man has taught me one hell of a life lesson! Stay strong and take care! x Link to post Share on other sites
HLP234 Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 At least we all learned something from this. That's the point of life I suppose..you live and you learn something new each day. We should always put ourselves first when it comes to anything other than family. Chances are if they left you, they will still one day try and talk to you. That's where we have to be strong and use what we have learned. The hardest part is letting go, even if you have accepted that it is over. I'm gonna round up some friends that want to skydive and we will have to try it once the weather gets a little warmer. Hobbies like that are definitely experiences you will remember. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 every chance i get probably average 20 jumps a month Cool... I'll look into that. I am up for anything right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 At least we all learned something from this. That's the point of life I suppose..you live and you learn something new each day. We should always put ourselves first when it comes to anything other than family. Chances are if they left you, they will still one day try and talk to you. That's where we have to be strong and use what we have learned. The hardest part is letting go, even if you have accepted that it is over. I'm gonna round up some friends that want to skydive and we will have to try it once the weather gets a little warmer. Hobbies like that are definitely experiences you will remember. I think distancing myself from my breakup, I see that we get involved in relationships to find a suitable mate/spouse/partner in life. In my case, we were clearly not the best match. If there is one thing I have learned in this relationship, it is to recognize when it is time to fight battles, or when it is time to move on. We, women, are emotional creatures and rely mostly on our emotions. Since I loved the guy, I will look the other way even when there were CLEAR RED FLAGS waving at me. I think next time, I will make sure to be more aware and to stay true to my heart. And to never forget who I am, my needs, my happiness when in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Hey there Brokenhearted_girl I saw this and it's kinda how I feel, even though I know my ex is NO good for me, just being tossed to one side for someone else, after all we went through, means absolutely nothing. I know it's not me that's the issue, but I still have those thoughts. I am taking comfort in sticking with NC, at just under a month now, doing lots improve myself, socialize etc, but man sometimes it just appears out of nowhere and hits me like a truck! I have no regrets though, this man has taught me one hell of a life lesson! Stay strong and take care! x Hi Twinkle! I envy you, I have tons of regrets but can't do much about them now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 I repel women... LOL. I'm a graduate student researcher... so it's tough to get out. I'm sitting here @ 3:06AM reading scientific journals and crying online LOL I'm pathetic... the coffee is good though. I've been told.. time and time again by women who get to know me... if they didn't take the chance to talk to me, they'd never speak to me. I'm told I'm a poet in a jock's body... I bodybuild. Women see me as that alpha male jock douchebag type and I'm not =/ Image is everything... but this is the image I'm comfortable with. Sucks for me. I am physically fit for myself.. I don't do it to pick up women. I don't go to bars or clubs... hm.. and you stay strong too! Thank you so much BHG. Hi Bananaboat! In time you will find the one for you. My sister said that sometimes we have to go through the worst to find the best. I believe that. Sometimes the pain is just too hard that at times, it dampens my spirit but life has to go on. It is unfortunate the world does not wait for us to pick ourselves up. I realize that heartbreak is not physically painful but it's debilitating in the sense that it affects all aspects of my life. It's life-changing and can make or break a person. This is why I promise myself that before I go back in the dating pool and have a relationship again, I will think a million times before trusting my heart to someone again. The happiness of finding love truly is something I look forward too, however, it only takes seconds to lose that happiness and I will protect my heart as much as I can. Link to post Share on other sites
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