her_halo_slipped Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 It is interesting that you consider me "complaining" because I am fed up with the abuse of OW.... pure...if you really feel this way may I make a pleasant suggestion in good faith without prejudice nor malice and suggest you simply go elsewhere to blog? Why spend time here if it upsets and hurts you this much? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 The problem is your manner and tone Pureeheart. When you "point out" the perceived inadequacies of other posters, you frequently demonstrate exactly the same negative qualities you complain of. Many other posters see this as hypocrisy on your part, combined with a complete lack of insight into your own effect on people. Your habit of taking potshots at other people and generally denigrating almost everybody else seems almost calculated to rub people up the wrong way. The reason people say it's an open forum is not to get you to be quiet but to inform you that they too are allowed to post their opinions even if they are contrary to yours. They say attack is the best form of defense. Again, you are allowed to defend yourself but you have taken it to extremes on several occasions. Some posters do not react well to being generally attacked or called names, especially if they feel it is unjustified. A bit like you really. You have said several times in this thread that you will be ignoring certain posters. Some posters might do well to ignore you too. You opened the post above with a request to be told what the problem is. I have tried to answer this honestly. It will be interesting to see how you react to this. Back atcha...I am so very sorry for your current problems, are you a BS? I have not seen you around....I will politely ask you to leave me alone and it is not polite to talk to others in the manner that you do, are you always this rude? Have a wonderful day and life....you know this has turned out to be quite interesting how I hit many peoples nerves simply by telling the truth....I guess you are unable to handle truth also....maybe someday soon....take care Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 pure...if you really feel this way may I make a pleasant suggestion in good faith without prejudice nor malice and suggest you simply go elsewhere to blog? Why spend time here if it upsets and hurts you this much? It hurt at first because I have been with LS for a number of years now and did not realise the controlling nature of many....then I realised that I hit some very serious nerves with BS's and others and understand the problem. I'ts weird because I did not know I was hitting such deep rooted nerves....wow.... Why should I leave....this is the OM OW forum, it was not me that was hostile and created a hostile environment. There are many "bullies" in this forum and I think they are mainly BS's....it's time to deal with the bullies in my life, in all areas..... Actually I feel very good....I will not be run off by a few distorted individuals.....at first I thought of leaving and that is exactly what the BS's want, most of them hate opposition.....I will not be controlled. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 All of this is because in 2 replies defended OW or NEW WOMAN, and then started a thread concerning that....now I am sure there is something very wrong with this picture and it is not me.... Hey keep on acting like haters.....whatever floats your boat.... I really hope things work the way they need to with all of you!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) Oh My God!! :lmao::lmao: .. The irony No, not really...when one owns up to his/her own hypocrisy, it ceases to be irony. These are Pure´s very own words: Marlena, I used to do that moral police thing and it is sickening and I am greatly ashamed of that.. I find her honesty commendable which is more than I can say for a lot of people I know. In fact, I recall a certain male poster on here who was morally outraged at OM/OW and then admitted to having his own affair. I remember being completely floored by his admission and wondering what sort of person can do this. Surely, not a normal one. Edited January 8, 2010 by marlena Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 No, not really...when one owns up to his/her own hypocrisy, it ceases to be irony. These are Pure´s very own words: Marlena, I used to do that moral police thing and it is sickening and I am greatly ashamed of that.. I find her honesty commendable which is more than I can say for a lot of people I know. Marlena, I cannot thank you enough, and I am not trying to suck up at all...it is difficult to type because I am crying profusely, this is the healing that I have been waiting for all of my life....it is why some of those "police posts" stood out so boldly and I hit them head on and then started this post and kept with it regardless of being "nailed to a cross"....I deserved that cross because I had done the same thing and was tired of of it, but did not know it....just knew it was wrong. Jennie-Jennie then stated something about MM getting hit real hard too....I knew I had done the same thing to them and commented to Jennie about that and was greatly ashamed. I am not angry and it feels so good and Jennie reply and your reply did it....you have no idea the years you two have added to me....thank you....anger and hatred kill, hurt and mame....OMG Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 I'm really not being uncool, I sincerely want to thank you for all of your replies....I can't begin to tell you how free I feel and I speak freedom over all of you....this is really not meant to be uncool....GBU all Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I'm really not being uncool, I sincerely want to thank you for all of your replies....I can't begin to tell you how free I feel and I speak freedom over all of you....this is really not meant to be uncool....GBU all Are you ok? I'm getting concerned for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 You know, we can be so very hard on ourselves no matter who is at fault, no matter who created the "crime"...I hit head on others being mamed and demeaned, I feel good about me. For many years others have taken their hurt and pain out on me, and I was unable to see that nor understand it....it is called "projection". MM did that to me, his ex would never listen to him and that is really why they are not together. He abused me, and I faught back, much like what happened in this forum....I was seeing others abused and basically drew the abuse off of them unto me not understanding why I was involving myself in this manner...they certainly did not need me to defend them. Reason being, for me to be healed from all of the projection that had taken place....I see it in this forum with the BS's....they chastise OW, I chastised OW and MM....I will not do this anymore, although it will continue because most do not understand this concept. Thanks to MM I was able to see the manipulations and projections going on here. None of us are doormats....and I would appreciate all non constuctive comments to be kept to yourself please Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I don't care if another thinks different than I do, that is what makes the world so fascinating...you know...I will not put up with rudeness of any sort and most people are unable to handle that. I weigh my words carefully even when the other party doesnot deserve it, especially in the case of this thread. Is this comment from you formed with carefully weighed words? "... Or could it be that I now COMPLETELY understand why the MM cheats?" That was your second comment of this type on this thread of yours. IMO, these are rude comments that are only said to hurt BW. Unless you can explain to me how that type of opinion is supportive, I have you say you are the most guilty of what this thread is about. I find it funny that you say you will not put up with "rudeness of any sort", yet you are increasingly rude yourself. That tells me a lot about the type of person you are. And that is just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Y ....and I would appreciate all non constuctive comments to be kept to yourself please Why don't you practice what you preach? Or, are you so much better than anyone else that you can say and do whatever you want, but all others have to watch what they say if they disagree with you? If that is the case, then please tell me what makes you so high and mighty. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Pureinheart - if a person disagrees with you, do you feel you are being attacked? If not, what is it about this post I agree there should be no abuse, cruelty or the taking of pleasure in another's pain on this forum. I agree with you too that disagreeing (even strongly) is not the same as disrespect. As for judgment, some posters ask for others' opinions and advice and this by its very nature requires a judgment on the part of those responding. This judgment may not always be favourable to those seeking advice or opinions. With that in mind I can't agree with you that there should be no judgment on these forums. Not every poster needs "love" from other posters either but certainly a level of compassion and understanding often helps. I am sorry to say that I personally don't consider it helpful when posters suggest that in some way some sort of retribution will be reined down "from on high" (some might call it karma or god's wrath or whatever) for arrogance, or whatever else a poster considers has been done wrong. that drew this response from you? There is a difference between being judgemental and simply "judging" a situation....in fact of the a lot of the "advice" IS so laced with judgementalism based on personal hurts that it is pathetic... Sorry if you don't like me or others communicating consequences for abusive actions (words) towards others from "God" or "Karma"....although that is the way it is....you have a real problem when I call out abuse towards OW. Do you enjoy or agree with abuse towards the OW? You are confrontational for all of the wrong reasons, I suggest you work out your anger in the infidelity forum. or this post Excuse me, just to add some input.... Karma is not judgemental. God might be, but don't pull us "non-Godists" into it. I thank you. that drew this response: Save it....just to add imput....and for the record, God is not judgemental....k ....have a good day , and figure out what you are talking about before you say it.... I've read and re-read both this thread and the other two threads you mentioned as examples of hatred towards the OW from BS. I've seen a couple of shallow answers, but really very very little of what you've alluded to. As I stated before, I am in TOTAL agreement that no one should be bullied or beat-up on ANY of the forums. But disagreement usually doesn't correlate to bullying. Disagreement is pretty much the basis of most discussion. A discussion is more often than not between two (or more) people who are not in complete agreement with one another, and discussion is at least in part what this forum is about. I truly hope that you are OK, and that you can see that I am not attempting to hurt you or attack you. It seems like you have had some really difficult experiences in your life and that posting here is in some ways quite difficult. I hope the best for you both now and in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 ST, It seems as if there was another thread in which you were quite rude stating that the individual brought on unwanted attention....I am not sure why you feel the need to continue to harrass me...what nerve did I hit in you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 Is this comment from you formed with carefully weighed words? "... Or could it be that I now COMPLETELY understand why the MM cheats?" That was your second comment of this type on this thread of yours. IMO, these are rude comments that are only said to hurt BW. Unless you can explain to me how that type of opinion is supportive, I have you say you are the most guilty of what this thread is about. I find it funny that you say you will not put up with "rudeness of any sort", yet you are increasingly rude yourself. That tells me a lot about the type of person you are. And that is just my opinion. I remember you....you were one of the BS's from several yrs ago....HN I am sorry for what happened to you, taking out on me or anyone else doesnot help you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 Why don't you practice what you preach? Or, are you so much better than anyone else that you can say and do whatever you want, but all others have to watch what they say if they disagree with you? If that is the case, then please tell me what makes you so high and mighty. Wow....what did I do to you....you are not a very nice person... Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I hope Tony closes this thread soon. It is going nowhere and is just stirring up animosity. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I remember you....you were one of the BS's from several yrs ago....HN I am sorry for what happened to you, taking out on me or anyone else doesnot help you. Hey, I feel great, so it is obviously helping me. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I hope Tony closes this thread soon. It is going nowhere and is just stirring up animosity. I agree, so I will take your lead and move on now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 Hey, I feel great, so it is obviously helping me. Great so please do not attack me any further....thank you:love: Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 I am going to ask the moderator myself to close this thread due to the vindictive behavior of some. In this world there are very immature people, I would ask those of you that had nothing good to say and that were sarcastic and abusive to please not reply any longer to anything I have to say....I have a right as you do to my opinion. I do apologize for somehow hitting nerves in some of you, it was not my intent, the intent was to stop the insane bashing of OW. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) You know, LS was a safe place for me when I agreed with the BS's....my eyes have been completely opened....I realise this is just one small portion of a very large world, although it is scary....if you go against or have a difference of opinion you will be hit by the "mob" effect and the objective will be to illiminate you.... Think about it people, this is bad..... Edited January 9, 2010 by pureinheart Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Am I the only one who doesn't see what this is all about? Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) You know, LS was a safe place for me when I agreed with the BS's....my eyes have been completely opened....I realise this is just one small portion of a very large world, although it is scary....if you go against or have a difference of opinion you will be hit by the "mob" effect and the objective will be to illiminate you.... Think about it people, this is bad..... It's as bad as you perceive it to be, as long as you keep picking the scab, and this philosphy addresses your Original Post as well. Read, consider, contemplate, but certainly discard where necessary, and for your own sanity, if a given discussion has driven you to the point where you feel that you are on the verge of "elimination", I urge you to go up to the "Thread Tools" button, select "Unsubscribe." From your perspective, the thread will be closed. If it is not serving any positive purpose for you any more, simply choose not to participate. Note, I'm not "trying to silence you" but I'm concerned for your psyche: it sounds like you are getting nothing but bad feelings at this point, yet you insist on your right to continue participating. Well, that is your prerogative, but I owe it to myself (not to anyone else involved) - and the control always rests squarely with me - to walk away and protect myself if things are going down the tubes. Edited January 9, 2010 by Trimmer Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Most of you have had this wonderful advice for me, yet you do not take it yourself and CONTINUE to harrass me....I am not understanding. The ONLY reason for the harrassment replies was because I did not agree with OW being bashed, and I need to be quiet and keep my opinions to myself.....I am angry about this, it is so very one sided. Actually I am not on the defensive, the harrassers are.... Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Find me one single thread where I have bashed an OW. Then find me posts where you have bashed me. For absolutely no reason whatsoever. I think the latter outweigh the former. An apology would be nice. Then, I think that will do nicely. Link to post Share on other sites
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