nomoredrama Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 [font=arial][/font] About 2 months ago, my fiance returned the ring and moved out. She tried to let me down easy, but boy did it hurt. Her reasons were about "not being in love anymore". We were happy (I thought), there were a few problems, but I was very much interested in working them out. She moved 1000 miles away to be with her sister, and we haven't spoke in 2 months. I sent her letters telling her I thought this was a grave mistake. I even sent her a poem (not like me at all!). I was desperate. She did not respond. My calls went unreturned as well. I am doing well, meeting new people. Trying to move on. Then 2 days ago I got a Christmas package from her. She wrote in her letter that she was just "checking in". Then a message on my cell the next day. Then today, Christmas, she has tried to call several times and has left one message. She also sent an email. Why all this attention all of a sudden? Any advice would be appreciated... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 She wants a late Christmas present? Link to post Share on other sites
mjk Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Well...it kinda sounds like her "new-life" isn't so new anymore and of course the holidays make people think back to "when" If you are not interested in her you should, IF she calls and NOT you, tell her so. you will feel much better in the long run for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
maxmuscle Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 I guess it does, my ex called me to wish me a merry x-mass, but then again she emails me and calls on a regular basis. So I guess my response don't count. My plan is to have no contact with her for at least 2 months. I just want that time to myself. I make myself to available for her. Every time she calls, 99% she reaches me. However, I don't respond to all of her emails. I just need to get away to an island for two months of no ex, and thinking about no ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nomoredrama Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 I've been so hurt for so many months because I was convinced we were getting married. She seemed very excited about the whole deal. She had her whole wedding party picked out and everything. Then one day "bam" sorry, I'm not ready. I was shocked. I coulnd't talk to her because she immediately went into friend mode. So now, I'm trying to avoid her, and it is very hard. I just hope it doesn't backfire on me. Link to post Share on other sites
johnnywinner Posted December 27, 2003 Share Posted December 27, 2003 I know how painful it is. Link to post Share on other sites
johnnywinner Posted December 27, 2003 Share Posted December 27, 2003 Well , I certainly very much can relate to your situation. I had the same thing happen.She basically told me that she loves me, but does not need me anymore,. She wanted me to marry her, but now she is happy alone being single with her girlfriends.Can you imagine after 3 years. 8 weeks ago i put a deposit on a house. We were planning on a wedding and our future. Now , I feel to just give it a break and have no contact. I think you should do the same. At least for one month. i would like if you read my story in this section, undeer the heading , i lost love of my life. Good luck. johnnywinner Link to post Share on other sites
johnnywinner Posted December 27, 2003 Share Posted December 27, 2003 I suggest that you do not call her at all for one month. If she is calling you, tell her straight out what you want and no friends nonsense. TELL HER YOU WANT A WIFE/ NOT A FRIEND. Do not call her or make contact. i think she wants to use you as a back up in case her friends and new life does not work. But, you have to tell her that you will not accept a pal. you want a wife. This is my idea. wHAT DO YOU FEEL. i KNOW IT IS HARD. I AM SUFFERING TOO, ESPECIALLY DURING CHRISTMAS AND UPCOMING New Year. We have to be on our own. But, I feel MY GIRL WILL RETURN. I feel that your girl will too. You need to give it time. HAPPY NEW YEAR AND I HOPE YOU HAD A NICE Christmas. /johnnywinner Link to post Share on other sites
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