Wife told me she wants a divorce in Nov. what shoud I do?

[Chrome Barracuda]

en you catch herpes from when she has OM's ding-a-ling in her mouth, dont say i didnt warn you.

 

Your not taking my opinions under consideration. I've never been married but i've damn sure been in relationships. And so what ive never been married you think that disqualifies me from giving you common sense???

 

WTF?

 

It's your life jeep screw it up the way you want, im outta here.

 

Just stop crying about the cheating if you be a doormat, a doormat is all she will see, but your too blind, deaf and dumb to see that.

[hopesndreams]

i gave her three choices for our date night go see Grease, go rock climbing, or to a comedy club and she picked going to see grease. I think she will really enjoy it.

 

Yeah, she'll like Grease. She'll keep on loving whatever you want to do for her. It won't bring her back to you though. Her mind is made up. She enjoys the company of other men and loves to have you around coz to her you are like a little puppy. She pats your head and the tail wags. Everyone likes a puppy.

 

Except, you're her husband!! Not some dog!! Why are you allowing her to treat you like this? What horrible things have you done in your life to make you think you deserve this type of treatment?

 

There are no kids. Run, and don't look back. You deserve better right? Quit torturing yourself and get the divorce. The sooner it ends, the less time you will have to suffer.

[Gunny376]

If you have never been married then your opinion means nothing. Love is not logical and I pity you. when you wake up when your 80 and realize you have been a selfish old man you will know I was right.

 

Why would I go to a marriage counselor who has never been married?

 

Thanks but no thanks. Keep your logic to your self! Lmao

 

AS a general rule? I never tried so-called "recreational drugs" for the same reason an old crusty (thirty six years in the Corps) Master Gunnery Sergeant gave me as a young PFC?

 

"I never tried smoking pot in Nam because I was afraid I might like it!"

 

And that's very much the reason you should listen to the age of knowledge, wisdom, and experience.

 

I'm not attacking you mind you, but Chrome has been around the block a couple of times, (even though he's never been married). Who's advice would your prefer?

 

The advice of someone who's been married and divorced? For the second, third, fourth, fifth or even six time.

 

Or how about the guy that I know here in "Alabamay" that's been married to the same woman four times! (Oh BTW? When I asked him about it? His response was, "Well you've never had sex with a crazy woman now have you?")

 

Keeping the so-called logic in the realm of "bi-polar" logic, (either something is or isn't, either its "black" or white, either its male or female) if that suits you?

 

There's two ways for a person to learn, (supposedly) and that's either through their own mistakes and experiences ~ or through the experiences of another.

 

You don't have to actually crawl your happy @zz out from underneath having been thrown under the bus, or out of a train wreck, nor go down in an airliner into the Hudson to know?

 

Hmmmmmm? I don't want any of that.

 

She's using and abusing you along with setting you up? Your playing along lapping it up like a new born puppy.

 

"I want a divorce, but I want to wait until Nov? WTF? Oh! You mean until the guy your leaving me for that you've been 'scrogging' behind my back for the last two years just isn't ready yet?

 

Yea the guy from back in the day, that you've still got the "hots" for. Oh, I'm sorry his divorce won't be settled until then.

 

There are those of us here that got set up and played for as long as 25, 28 freaking years. (Fortunately I wasn't one of them) that the CW (Cheated Wife) or CH was having an affair the whole time!)

 

Twenty-five, twenty-eight damn years!

 

You're plan "B" you're the fallback plan. Your the guy she's going to fall back on, that she knows she's got eating out of her hand. She knows your the supplicating, "I'll do anything to prove and earn your love, Baby!"

 

She's already got you paying for her car, health, and dental insurance! She's got you paying the mortgage ~ begging for a little time while she slips off to FL for a little fun time with her lover back in the day.

 

Why not just go all the way and pay for her round trip ticket there and back. Hell call and book her flight, her motel room. Why not go down and clean his place, wash and wax his car, do his laundry?

 

If this makes you mad? Its meant to be!

 

Not all of this is your fault, a lot of its pyschological, its part bio-chemical, and I'm really not in the mood to write an encyclopedia as to why your addicted to her?

 

But you are. And its time to break that addiction! Its time to get your self-respect back! Its time to get your self pride back.

 

I don't give a damn it you've got to lie in the gutter in the pouring down rain, becoming a wino on the streets, becoming a male escort in a Mexican border town, pissing, puking all over yourself ~ soiling yourself?

 

At least you would have a better chance of regaining your self respect, self dignity and self pride than you would with this woman that clearly using and abusing you and your capacity too much and give too much of yourself for a relationship with someone who clearly does not care about you, your feelings, your wants, your needs, your hopes, your dreams?

 

And yes! I've been married what you might say? Twice. And I went through this back before Love Shack, the Internet, e-mail.

 

That is to say? I went through it, stumbled and fumbled through it alone!

 

I went through it back when even if your dared to go to an IC? They would give you eight sessions!

 

That's it! Your cured, your over her! We've had our eight sessions and now you can live happily ever after!

 

NEXT!

 

I was in the Marine Corps and if you went to see an IC, MC, psychologist, psych? It could mean the end of your job, your career, your whole life. Everything you worked for fourteen, sixteen even twenty years or more!

 

I'm telling you this for your own good Bro!

 

Go find someone to talk to! Get IC! (Individual Counseling)

 

Go NC with the ex, until you've got yourself, your life, (mentally, phsically, psychologically, career wise, financially) figured out ~ straightened out!

 

You don't need to be with anyone until you've done so.

 

That's not to say your abnormal!

 

Quite the contrary ~ you're very normal!

 

Probably more normal than most of us in the military. (I assure you that a traditionally "normal" person would not jump out of a perfectly good flying airplane, nor rappel from a perfectly good helicopter, nor off the side of a mountain

 

All of this to say?

 

What your feeling for the STBX?

 

Isn't normal!

 

She's screwing you, using you, and abusing you!

 

And that would hold true even if you were Amish! (No disrespect meant! Just that they live a very simple a pure life! Nothing but respect! Beating chest!)

Edited January 16, 2010 by Gunny376