Lost

[Ambrosse]

My current boyfriend and I have been going out for over three months now. We are both in college but we go to different schools. he lives at home and commutes to school only about 30 mins from his house, and I live on campus, but an hour and a half away from home and where he is. I come home every other weekend.

 

Things started off great, he was kind, loving, probably one of the best boyfriends i'd had in terms of understanding each other and showing affection. But when I came home for winter break, things got rocky.

I personally believe he suffers from depression and is a bit of an introvert, but takes no medicine for it, but sometimes he just gets weird, and it's obvious because when I talk to him online, he's so...impersonal...and he could care less about anything...

But when we're together in person, i'm the best thing that has ever happened to him.

 

He'd been in a few relationships before, some short term and some long term but all of those were ended at some point, while I only had two long term boyfriends.

 

I'd only been home for three weeks, i saw him twice since I went on break. He works a lot and doesn't have much free time but he normally set aside time for me, even online. We'd only talk once a day, never more seeing it as we both had things to do during the day and night was the better option to talk.

 

As of lately I feel that the relationship is going downhill, and I've been feeling that since the beginning of last week. I've tried telling him how I feel about the issue but he's just in his own little world and I can't penetrate the forcefield.

As time has been going on, he's been talking to me less and less. We were supposed to go out on Thursday but that was canceled due to weather, but honestly the weather wasn't bad enough to cancel, and then it was postponed to the next day, Friday, but that was canceled too because his brother and his brother's girlfriend broke up so he was dealing with that. I don't feel as though he was lying to me as he ALWAYS tells me like it is, holds nothing back, and when he's in that weird mood, he tends to second guess the relationship and himself leading him to be indecisive about the situation.

 

Now that i'm going back to school, I'm scared that the relationship will continue as it is. I just wish I could get him to understand that communicating everyday, even if it's for a little bit is important.

Also, we used to chat on webcam a lot but he recently stopped because he was trying to eliminate him and myself from getting "clingy" to one another.

He has a lot of baggage from past relationships too and sometimes i feel as if i'm just a test subject and not a girlfriend when we talk online but I feel like the most special woman in the world when we're face to face.

 

What is going on with him?

Is the relationship going to end? (probably...)

What can I do about this, or rather, what can I do to make him realize that I do love him, he just needs to understand that I need to know that he wants me for me and not a filler?

 

(sorry for the post being unorganized...it's hard to organize such things...)

[Sparkling]

My current boyfriend and I have been going out for over three months now. We are both in college but we go to different schools. he lives at home and commutes to school only about 30 mins from his house, and I live on campus, but an hour and a half away from home and where he is. I come home every other weekend.

 

Things started off great, he was kind, loving, probably one of the best boyfriends i'd had in terms of understanding each other and showing affection. But when I came home for winter break, things got rocky.

I personally believe he suffers from depression and is a bit of an introvert, but takes no medicine for it, but sometimes he just gets weird, and it's obvious because when I talk to him online, he's so...impersonal...and he could care less about anything...

But when we're together in person, i'm the best thing that has ever happened to him.

 

He'd been in a few relationships before, some short term and some long term but all of those were ended at some point, while I only had two long term boyfriends.

 

I'd only been home for three weeks, i saw him twice since I went on break. He works a lot and doesn't have much free time but he normally set aside time for me, even online. We'd only talk once a day, never more seeing it as we both had things to do during the day and night was the better option to talk.

 

As of lately I feel that the relationship is going downhill, and I've been feeling that since the beginning of last week. I've tried telling him how I feel about the issue but he's just in his own little world and I can't penetrate the forcefield.

As time has been going on, he's been talking to me less and less. We were supposed to go out on Thursday but that was canceled due to weather, but honestly the weather wasn't bad enough to cancel, and then it was postponed to the next day, Friday, but that was canceled too because his brother and his brother's girlfriend broke up so he was dealing with that. I don't feel as though he was lying to me as he ALWAYS tells me like it is, holds nothing back, and when he's in that weird mood, he tends to second guess the relationship and himself leading him to be indecisive about the situation.

 

Now that i'm going back to school, I'm scared that the relationship will continue as it is. I just wish I could get him to understand that communicating everyday, even if it's for a little bit is important.

Also, we used to chat on webcam a lot but he recently stopped because he was trying to eliminate him and myself from getting "clingy" to one another.

He has a lot of baggage from past relationships too and sometimes i feel as if i'm just a test subject and not a girlfriend when we talk online but I feel like the most special woman in the world when we're face to face.

 

What is going on with him?

Is the relationship going to end? (probably...)

What can I do about this, or rather, what can I do to make him realize that I do love him, he just needs to understand that I need to know that he wants me for me and not a filler?

 

(sorry for the post being unorganized...it's hard to organize such things...)

 

Your instincts are telling you something is wrong, so listen to them. If you were important to him, then wouldn't he be making the time to be with you? Wouldn't he be as eager to be with you as you are with him? You aren't going to be able to "make him realize" anything....he needs to figure it out on his own or know he will be without you.

 

I would not sit and wait for him, or push him into being with me. It isn't satisfactory knowing you had to force him into being with you. I would get out and go hang out with my friends, and not sit around waiting for him. Find someone who treats you well no matter where you are.