Author KATEYES Posted January 17, 2010 Author Share Posted January 17, 2010 Very cool status... Im sure you are...and it will take some time to find yourself again. It happened to me too. I feel the same Rob.....and its not creepy. We will help each other ok Get some rest.... Goodnite. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 17, 2010 Author Share Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) Day 1 of NC....arrrgghhh. I hate this. I woke up and its like my heart is full of love with no one to give it to. I wish i could go back in time. i should have loved him when he loved me....but i was in so much pain. Oh i hope he doesnt get over me and that he comes back. I wonder if hes missing me. If only i had given him space instead of badgering him for answers every day for the last week ;( In a way im glad its time apart though. This way i know i cant call. NC i have practice with..when i did it w my ex....that a**hole!!! arrrghhh i hate him!!! Anyway....lets see what happens. I miss my baby. Edited January 17, 2010 by KATEYES Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 Day 1 of NC....arrrgghhh. I hate this. I woke up and its like my heart is full of love with no one to give it to. I wish i could go back in time. i should have loved him when he loved me....but i was in so much pain. Oh i hope he doesnt get over me and that he comes back. I wonder if hes missing me. If only i had given him space instead of badgering him for answers every day for the last week ;( In a way im glad its time apart though. This way i know i cant call. NC i have practice with..when i did it w my ex....that a**hole!!! arrrghhh i hate him!!! Anyway....lets see what happens. I miss my baby. Be STRONG! You have someone to give your love to... yourself. Love yourself so that you may fully love another... be a better you. Please. I'm sure... if he's like me... a romantic, good guy that honestly cares... with morals, values, and character... he does miss you. Let him miss you. Let him contact you... Your heart... your tears... your happiness are in my prayers. Thank you for not being like my ex... thank you for loving someone so like him. You (and a few others on these boards) have proven to me that there are really good girls out there looking for the few good guys, like me, out there... Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 17, 2010 Author Share Posted January 17, 2010 Oh Rob you are so right i need to better myself. And yes he is all of those things you described...romantic, caring, with morals. OFCOURSE HE MISSES ME RIGHT?? Rob THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!! It means the world to me thanks to all of you who have taken the time to give advice. Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 Oh Rob you are so right i need to better myself. And yes he is all of those things you described...romantic, caring, with morals. OFCOURSE HE MISSES ME RIGHT?? Rob THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!! It means the world to me thanks to all of you who have taken the time to give advice. I know I can't go looking for it... but I hope I meet a girl like you one day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 You will Rob.... Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 You will Rob.... I'm doubtful ... nor will I be ready. I want nicole back... nicole being the heartless, cold, abusive, manipulative, mean, degrading girl in my life... WTF is wrong me Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 Idk whats wrong with people. We like people that treat us bad for some reason. Like my guy when he was all over me i was like whatever. Ofcourse a lot of it was the ex baggage...but still. Once my guy changed and withdrew....i was all into him. I dont know why we are like that Rob. Its almost like we like to chase. Why do you want Nicole back?? What did she do that makes you want her?? Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 Idk whats wrong with people. We like people that treat us bad for some reason. Like my guy when he was all over me i was like whatever. Ofcourse a lot of it was the ex baggage...but still. Once my guy changed and withdrew....i was all into him. I dont know why we are like that Rob. Its almost like we like to chase. Why do you want Nicole back?? What did she do that makes you want her?? e-mail me @ robby31784[@]Gmail.com (without the [ ] ) i'll give oyu my private e-mail or FB if you're up to talking maybe outside this forum.. or AIM possibly? thanks. if not, i won't be offended Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) Rob i will email you later on tonight. Day 2 NC .....geez louise! Lat night i was so f*cked up! I was missing him lke crazy. Arrrgghh! Around almost midnight he left a comment on my myspace. A music video i had dedicated to him. It made me so happy to know he was missing me Edited January 18, 2010 by KATEYES Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) This is a crazy situation. I had just broken up with my ex boyfriend and i was suffering a lot when this wonderful guy came into my life. I knew i was not ready for a relationship because i was not over my ex. He knew this and insisted. This man treated me like gold and was there for me at all times. He really helped me during the darkest moments in my life. However because of the pain i was going through i could not reciprocate my feelings. He said it didnt matter that he still wanted to be there. I was not very nice to him. I was just stressed and never noticed the nice gestures he made. Well i did but i couldnt fully appreciate them because i was hurting from my ex. After 8 months he asked me to be his girl but i kept being a jerk i wasnt fully over my ex. I know i shouldnt have said yes Eventually the pain healed I am better now....just as he is starting to let go. I know i hurt him but it was because i was angry from the ex and i know i would take my frustrations out on him when it was not his fault. I started falling in love with him. Now he is letting go. He doesnt call me like he used to nor is he excited to spend time with me. He says no his feelings have not changed but he said its just that he doesnt know what happened. He says he just needs to get rid of the "the bad feelings he has when i hurt him" I told him i am sorry that i am in love with him. He says he loves me to...but says he doesnt know what happened. He says he tried for so long and i never cared. I dont know what to do. I LOVE THIS MAN. he is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. I have been acting crazy lately crying telling him i love him.. that im sorry i didnt appreciate all the good he did. He is nice and says dont cry its not your fault. I know you were not well. Still he is the same.... distant....i dont think he loves me anymore and i just am freaking out and i keep calling him and texting him. I know im making things worse. Guys please help me. I cant lose this man. I JUST CANT!!! Should i just back off and give him space. ...but what if i lose him???? From a guy's perspective, he may feel like the only reason you want him now is because he's pulling away. He may feel like you only want what you can't have at this point, and that makes him feel unappreciated and as if he is an object. My advice would be to be consistent, show him you're for real, and stick it out like he did for you, for as long as these feelings are there for him. It's natural for him to want proof of genuine feelings. After all, you can tell him you love him all you want, but words mean nothing. Actions are where it counts. Don't kill yourself over this, but realize this may be how he's feeling right now. He may be sick of it all and believe he should have invested himself in another girl all this time. EDIT: Didn't realize I was posting this late in the thread. Hope I didn't repeat any advice. If I did, oh well. Cheers. Edited January 18, 2010 by TheLoneSock Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 Thelonesock, Thanks for your advice. yes i will still stick this out. I really do love him and we are now taking time off. I hope he misses me.. comes back and gives me the chance to prove the way i feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 21, 2010 Author Share Posted January 21, 2010 4 days NC....geez louise i just readd my old posts on this thread...my lord i was acting crazy!! I feel better now that ive been on my own. I cant believe how crazy i was acting.!!!I am doing fine by myself!! Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 4 days NC....geez louise i just readd my old posts on this thread...my lord i was acting crazy!! I feel better now that ive been on my own. I cant believe how crazy i was acting.!!!I am doing fine by myself!! That's excellent to hear! Remember, we're here for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 31, 2010 Author Share Posted January 31, 2010 It has been 2 weeks of NC....is he ever coming back??? He said he needed time to "fix himself" and now its been 2 wks and nothing... no texts no calls. Arrrghhh.....i know we said time apart and we never said a specific time but i didnt think it would take more than 2 wks. I feel like hes gonna take the month....arrggghhh. 2 more weeks of this! Man....i know...i know i will respect this space he needs. I have no other choice but to suck it up!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 I think this may be over. My best advice is to learn from this and don't make the same mistake if you meet another great guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 31, 2010 Author Share Posted January 31, 2010 Dont say that Woogle!!!! please dont say that!! ;( Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 31, 2010 Author Share Posted January 31, 2010 just 3 days ago he posted a pic of himself wearing the scarf i gave him. He hates myspace and never goes in it but only got it for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 31, 2010 Author Share Posted January 31, 2010 I want to break NC but i wont...i cant ;( Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 i want to break nc but i wont...i cant ;( be strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 Dont say that Woogle!!!! please dont say that!! ;( You have to face reality and quite honestly you ruined this. You might have lost this relationship but if you look at it the right way you have learned a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
bananaboat11 Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 You have to face reality and quite honestly you ruined this. You might have lost this relationship but if you look at it the right way you have learned a lot. I'm going to have to agree.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 31, 2010 Author Share Posted January 31, 2010 So why did his sister tell me that yesterday he told her that he misses me??? Guys...i hope you guys are wrong!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 So why did his sister tell me that yesterday he told her that he misses me??? Guys...i hope you guys are wrong!!! Because deep down he probably does still like you but like another poster said he probably thinks the only reason you want is because he pulled away and quite honestly he is probably right. Ask yourself if you would still be as drawn towards him if he gave you what you want. Pretend he comes back to you and he is still the same loving and good hearted guy that he was before. Ask yourself if you are still attracted to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KATEYES Posted January 31, 2010 Author Share Posted January 31, 2010 (edited) The answer is Yes yes and yes...i love him and oh my god would love for him to go back to how he was. Honestly Woggle do u really thinks he wont come back. We are technically still together we said it was time apart...our myspaces are both in a relationship and im still his number one on there. On day two of Nc he sent me a video with a song that said that all though distance seperates us it doesnt mean that in the future we wont be back together. His sister tells me everything and she says she sees how he is just watching tv on the couch and like on his laptop at times on my myspace page. His mood on myspace says thoughtful!! I have learned a lot Woggle soooo much!!! Oh tell me what to do??? what can i do?? Give me solutions!!! Edited January 31, 2010 by KATEYES Link to post Share on other sites
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