I think my sister is pregnant

[redfathom]

She has four kids already and can't take care of them properly.

 

She is not talking to my mom or sister and got into an argument with my mom yesterday so on facebook she posted something about being over her family and the drama and having something "exiting going on that they have no clue about, their lose (she meant loss)".

 

Then we were chatting some on facebook and I invited her to an event, mom and other sister also invited, she said she didn't need the stress because of health reasons. I asked her if it was her asthma and she said no it was something else but that she can't be stressed.

 

First thing that popped into my mind is that she is having a baby. Normally she loves to tell people when she is sick, she loves the attention...so this would have to be it.

 

If that is true, so many people are going to be upset with her. I know you're thinking it's her choice, her life. Except that she isn't a good mother. She already has a three year old, and two older kids who can't even read. She openly talking about doing drugs in front of my oldest niece like it makes her awesome.

 

When my middle sister got pregnant she did too, because she wasn't getting the attention. She started to wear maternity clothes at four weeks just so people would ask her why she was wearing maternity clothes.

 

It's not my place to say anything, so I won't...I just hope my suspicions aren't correct. Things are a lot more complicated then I could possibly write, just too much history.

 

I just wanted to get my thoughts out and I can't tell my family because I don't like betraying people.

[tinktronik]

She has four kids already and can't take care of them properly.

 

She is not talking to my mom or sister and got into an argument with my mom yesterday so on facebook she posted something about being over her family and the drama and having something "exiting going on that they have no clue about, their lose (she meant loss)".

 

Then we were chatting some on facebook and I invited her to an event, mom and other sister also invited, she said she didn't need the stress because of health reasons. I asked her if it was her asthma and she said no it was something else but that she can't be stressed.

 

First thing that popped into my mind is that she is having a baby. Normally she loves to tell people when she is sick, she loves the attention...so this would have to be it.

 

Sisters are so catty. If you don't spend enough time with her to know wether or not she's pregnant then don't judge her.

 

If that is true, so many people are going to be upset with her. I know you're thinking it's her choice, her life. Except that she isn't a good mother. She already has a three year old, and two older kids who can't even read. She openly talking about doing drugs in front of my oldest niece like it makes her awesome.

 

If you are so worried about her kids then go help out with them. Stop complaining about her and lend a hand, that's what real family does. Teach by example.

 

When my middle sister got pregnant she did too, because she wasn't getting the attention. She started to wear maternity clothes at four weeks just so people would ask her why she was wearing maternity clothes.

 

Maybe she was wearing maternity clothes because she put on a little weight. Or a plethora of other reasons.

 

It's not my place to say anything, so I won't...I just hope my suspicions aren't correct. Things are a lot more complicated then I could possibly write, just too much history.

 

I just wanted to get my thoughts out and I can't tell my family because I don't like betraying people.

 

Take a long hard look because you have some choices here. There is always one sister in a family who gets to take the "wrap". Is it possible that you all are judgmental of this particular sister? Stop being judgmental and if you're not willing to get in there and set some examples and do the hard work then keep your mouth and your nose out of it.... Because that's not real family.

[redfathom]

Right, I can't change it. I can only try to support this new child (if there is one) like I "support" her other kids by being a good aunt and influence.

 

CPS was called on her earlier this year, it was very tough for the kids...she went drinking that night I told her she should stay home to be with the kids. She said her husband was going to stay home with them, but lied because photos on her myspace from that night showed them both out together.

 

I am sure they were confused and scared, but she said she needed to get away from the stress of it...! Shortly after this happened her son moved in with his dad.

[redfathom]

Tink, I do take the kids and help out with them, when she let's me. Because she is mad at me and the rest of the family she will often not let us see them. I offered to help her clean her house, find her budgeting classes to get her finances in order. She didn't talk to me for a year and a half. Why...

 

Because I was angry and went off on her because her house was a mess. Let me paint the picture: I am watching my niece (she was 10 at the time) while my sister was in vegas. I go over to get her some more clothes and the house is a disaster. Roaches every where, food on the counters, on the floor, dishes piled in the sink. My nieces bedroom has no sheets, no hangers and the clothes she was rifling through smelled like cat piss. I look in the corner of her room and I see cat litter and cat poop - sitting on the floor. Her cat had gone missing two months before - that means the cat poop and urine stained clothes had been sitting there for months! Oh, her cat that went missing after my sisters boyfriend would chase the cat around the house with a knife saying he was going to kill it. The sam boyfriend that had his friends over getting high until late hours. When I mentioned to my niece that her house was a mess she started to cry. I asked her why and she started to apologize saying that she had been busy with school and didn't have time to clean!

 

She does get the "wrap" because she makes the messes.

 

I am the one who take the kids to buy books to get them more interested in reading, and read with them, I am the one who tells my niece to stay off drugs and go to college. My sister let's her 23 year old friends "babysit" the kids while they have drunken parties, letting my niece and her friends drink.